RyanO1991 Posted May 3, 2017 Posted May 3, 2017 Long story short, my gf has been saying I should go the doctor for a while. After two weeks, I went. The doc reckoned it might be glandular fever. It's making me weak and work is hard everyday, but the doc said there's no real medicine - just have to ride it out. Again, my gf said I should see another doc so I phoned one and he told me the same thing. Now she's mad because she feels I'm distant and shutting her out. Being ill has made it hard for me to be my normal self and she says I seem cold. I'm working less in the evenings and resting more, but she says I'm shutting her out too much. Am I right to be annoyed? I've done everything I can.
preraph Posted May 3, 2017 Posted May 3, 2017 Yes. I'm glad she made you go to the doctor, but as long as you saw a real m.d. and he told you what it is and gave you an idea how long it might last, that should be enough for her. She's not being empathetic and is just thinking about herself. Just be firm with her and tell her you are sick and need to just rest. By the way what is called glandular fever in the UK is actually mononucleosis, which is contagious. And it makes you really tired and takes a long time to get over. Do go see the doctor if any other symptoms start happening because it could drag your immune system down to make you susceptible to other illness or infection, viruses, etc. So if you take a turn for the worse, do go to the doctor again. You wouldn't want to get pneumonia and not know it. You should send your girlfriend this article, and read it yourself. Kissing can spread it. Glandular Fever: Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatments - Medical News Today
basil67 Posted May 3, 2017 Posted May 3, 2017 Long story short, my gf has been saying I should go the doctor for a while. After two weeks, I went. The doc reckoned it might be glandular fever. It's making me weak and work is hard everyday, but the doc said there's no real medicine - just have to ride it out. Again, my gf said I should see another doc so I phoned one and he told me the same thing. Now she's mad because she feels I'm distant and shutting her out. Being ill has made it hard for me to be my normal self and she says I seem cold. I'm working less in the evenings and resting more, but she says I'm shutting her out too much. Am I right to be annoyed? I've done everything I can. I think you, your girlfriend and your doctor are all handling this poorly. Your Doc: He "reckoned it might be glandular fever"? Did he not test you for it? He should have tested you and if it was positive, advised you to pack up and go to bed for a few weeks. You: If it IS GF, you should be in bed. My experience - and of those I know who've also had it - is that you *need* a number of weeks in bed. Being in bed isn't choice - it's about the fact that you are so sick that you can't function. When you start to recover, then slowly start to get back to work and life. Your girlfriend: Talk about needy! I get that she wants to know she's important, but if you really do have a serious illness, she should be nursing you while you're in bed. Not demanding you hold up your end of the relationship. At any rate, if you've been able to work through the first few weeks of this, I'd be questioning if it really is glandular fever.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2017 Posted May 3, 2017 If 2 doctors came to the same conclusion about your diagnosis & treatment -- basically rest -- who is your GF to second guess medical professionals? Thank her for her concern. Assure her that you don't want to infect her & you will reach out when you feel up to it. Then go to bed alone.
mrs rubble Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 I think you, your girlfriend and your doctor are all handling this poorly. Your Doc: He "reckoned it might be glandular fever"? Did he not test you for it? He should have tested you and if it was positive, advised you to pack up and go to bed for a few weeks. You: If it IS GF, you should be in bed. My experience - and of those I know who've also had it - is that you *need* a number of weeks in bed. Being in bed isn't choice - it's about the fact that you are so sick that you can't function. When you start to recover, then slowly start to get back to work and life. Your girlfriend: Talk about needy! I get that she wants to know she's important, but if you really do have a serious illness, she should be nursing you while you're in bed. Not demanding you hold up your end of the relationship. At any rate, if you've been able to work through the first few weeks of this, I'd be questioning if it really is glandular fever. Not everybody who gets glandular fever has to spend weeks in bed, I had it when I was younger and recall one day nearly nodding off to sleep while driving home, that's when I went to the Dr and got tested for a load of things including mono, Dr called me a few days later and told me I had it. I didn't have a single day off work and I had 3 very young children to look after....so bed was never an option for me.
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