Girlfriend left yesterday for 3.5 weeks back home to greece

[StephenSG]

So my girlfriend and I live in Canada and she is from Greece she moved here when she was 18 and she's now 25. She hasn't been back there to visit her family in 4 years so she decided to go this year we have been dating a year and a half and are very close, spend 90 percent of our time together ,have a strong connection and both want to get married . We tell each other how much we love each other constantly . She wanted to go on her trip 25 days alone to visit her family and then on the 26th day I'm flying there to meet her for two weeks and we are travelling back together.. for some reason I am paranoid about not being with her for 25.. and I keep thinking something is going to forget about to feelings or do something Bad...is it normal she wanted to go alone for a bit before I came? Am I just being irrational ?

[Fresnite]

I would not say irrational. It's true anything can happen. Patience is your friend. Trust is your best friend. If able id make sure facetime and skyping are your business associates.

[Superchicken]

I'm Greek, and haven't been there for many years.

 

 

Questions I need to ask, is why your paranoid ?.

I would reckon, she's maybe your first girl friend ?.

At least one that has lasted more than a week or two ?.

Reason is, most guys getting into a new and potential relationship, always panic about loosing them.

Yes, your mind runs with all the bad and worst things that a partner can do. Cheat, I would say is your biggest.

Was mine too. I mentioned in another post that in my younger year, I had to have control of my GF. I felt if I lost this, she would meet someone else, or just leave me..

Kinda made me a moron. Thankfully though, I'm not like that, however, I am still a moron at times . But that's for different reasons.

 

 

Mate, if anything's going to happen, it will. You will find out in short time.

The younger a person is that cheats, the greater their chances of getting caught.

 

 

Don't treat her any different, and don't try and control what she does, or wants to go.

Yes, you can put your views, and as a couple you should both work out a solution.

 

 

Again, being Greek, I would say main reason she wanted to go alone, is family ONLY. Meet up with relo's, and catch up. If you were there, she would only be able to complete part of her scheduled visits.

There's also sleeping quarters. most families don't have 2 spare bedrooms, so where would you sleep ?.. She probably didn't want the embarrassment of this either when she stays over at their house.

I have families in Thessaloniki, Athena (Bugger you Anglo Saxon's, this is how its pronounced), and Lakoma. No spare rooms there..

 

 

Just keep in touch, and tell her how you feel.

 

 

 

 

Ted.

[mikeylo]

Maybe she wants to get the house sorted before you come? Maybe her folks don't know about you something that she wants to tell in person before you meet?

Unless you've got any reason to not trust her, that's a different story.

[mia251]

Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship and believe me you can be irrational if you want to be. It's completely normal. I become so paranoid so much. At the start I was so paranoid. I still do but I can control it now. I'm always thinking that my boyfriend will lose interest in me or not want to be with me anymore or he can't do long distance anymore but we've been together a while and i have been proved many times that, in just being too paranoid because he wouldn't do that. He loves me and cares about me. He's proved that many times but the paranoia doesn't go away. It's there hidden away, waiting to reappear.

[Gaeta]

So my girlfriend and I live in Canada and she is from Greece she moved here when she was 18 and she's now 25. She hasn't been back there to visit her family in 4 years so she decided to go this year we have been dating a year and a half and are very close, spend 90 percent of our time together ,have a strong connection and both want to get married . We tell each other how much we love each other constantly . She wanted to go on her trip 25 days alone to visit her family and then on the 26th day I'm flying there to meet her for two weeks and we are travelling back together.. for some reason I am paranoid about not being with her for 25.. and I keep thinking something is going to forget about to feelings or do something Bad...is it normal she wanted to go alone for a bit before I came? Am I just being irrational ?

 

Of course she wanted to go for a month on her own and then be with you the last 2 weeks. She has not seen her mom in 4 years?? She wants to reconnect with her family and devote all of her time to them. You cannot really reconnect with family when the boyfriend is there and you have to worry that he's doing ok, he's comfortable, he's not bored etc etc. Without you there she'll be able to have personal meaningful conversation with the people the closest to her THEN later she'll enjoy Greece with you.

 

If after 1,5 year her feelings for you just die like that than it's because she never loved you to start with. Would you forget her in 25 days? of course not!! Well she won't forget you either.

[No_Go]

What's the deal here? She's not abandoning you, she wants to spend some alone time with her family.

 

I'm like her, immigrated 10 years ago and see my family once every few years. My bf really wanted to travel with me, and has never understood that is TOO MUCH introducing a bf in a time that I finally see my mom after few d*mn years. I wish he has been more considerate.

 

Being from the Balkans, I can tell you her family will swamp her so much, she'd not even have the time to dream about cheating or something in the 25 days alone All her extended family will be on rotation seeing her, haha, I've never seen this in Western Europe or North America, but on the Balkans - oh, yes.

[whichwayisup]

What is it you're concerned about? Just being away from her for 25 days, that you'll miss her too much and not be able to function without her? You two aren't breaking up, she's visiting her family in her home country. Plus you'll be meeting up with her on day 26. Get busy while she's away, see your own family and friends that maybe you've neglected by spending so much time with her.

 

Are you worried she's going cheat on you? Or something bad will happen while she's in Greece?

 

You two can skype and text, email too! You two aren't breaking up, it's her holiday and she misses her family. try not to get too upset about her going.