Orije Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 Hello everyone of Loveshack, I'm gonna try to keep this as brief as possible, but your guidance and opinions will help a lot. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years starting tomorrow. I'm 22 and she is 19. The relationship has been a real rollercoaster and it's coming to the point where I don't know what to do. The main problems is when she isn't given much attention she has got friends do who get really flirty and I caught 2 instances of her flirting and making hints about kissing and such but have not done anything physical. First instance was last year and the other was in January. I have a hard time trying to trust her because of it. She goes to school and has a lot of free time because she only works 20 hours a week due to her family paying everything for her while I work 40-50 hours a week and try to stay ontop of bills so I do not fall behind. There are weeks where I can have no money after paying bills and she insists on going out and it's really hard to say no. She tells me all the time I have no time for her and she feels like a friend because I lack in how much emotion I express since the relationship began. I understand that after the mental cheating and me working a lot has caused stress on me and the relationship. Currently she asked to have a break while she is having finals at school but she texts and contacts me every day like we are in a relationship. I'm at the point where I feel like I don't want to be in a relationship and I'm holding her back. Tomorrow is our 2 years and I don't know what to say or do because I don't want to waste her time or string her along. I want her to be happy and I want to be happy too. I tried ending things before when she said she felt like friends but she cried and kept fighting for the relationship. I don't know how to handle this,anything can help. Thanks everyone!
d0nnivain Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 She's a young girl with no meaningful understanding of the cold economics of life. However, she wants attention. Your can give her your time for free but if she wants to go out & most 19 years olds do, if you can't afford it will cause problems if she can't be more sensitive. At 19 she might not be able to. At 19 my parents paid my way & I have no concept of a budget or having to make hard financial choices. Over the course of 2 years you say you caught her flirting twice. The fact that you are still holding on to those lighthearted instances where nothing actually happened makes me think you are smothering her. She's a teenaged girl. They flirt. As long as she didn't cheat, calm down. I mean seriously, we are talking 2 times in 730 days. Relax already.
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