blazesomething Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 Hey everyone, i'm kinda in a pickle right here and don't know if I did the best thing or not, so here's the story : My ex gf and I started getting along a lot after our recent breakup (post 8 months relationship full of awkard pauses). For a brief moment, there was no more awkwardness between us and the relationship was smooth with a lot of caring and affection shown (same school). However, last week I asked her if she was up for a date and she hit me up with the "I don't want to do this again + family pressure is getting on me I cant deal with any more distractions" speech. As a response I told her that I couldn't just sit around and since she was giving me very hot signals and out of the blue just decided to stop it all, the best solution was just to quit the pursuing to avoid any other misunderstanding. Now I don't know what came up to cause such a change of mood and lower my interest level to such a point since I dont think I ****ed up at all, so was wondering if I did the good thing by cutting contact and not trying to find what happened to her during this last week ? Thanks again
d0nnivain Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 Because you mentioned school, I'm assuming you are both relatively young. She was probably happy to be talking to you again but doesn't want to date or be physical. If her family is putting pressure on her to not date at all or at least to not date you, you are probably fighting a losing battle here. Give her a wide berth & assume you will remain broken up for the foreseeable future.
Author blazesomething Posted May 2, 2017 Author Posted May 2, 2017 First off thanks for your response. I believe her family stuff is just related to post graduation process and not really related to me since her family is pretty open minded about that, really still lost about this whole situation tho..
d0nnivain Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 Ah . . . she is graduating. Let me translate for you: You are a nice guy. She likes you. She enjoyed dating you in school. She is transitioning to the next phase in her life but does not want you to come along. You will always be part of her past but you are not part of her future. Sorry.
Author blazesomething Posted May 2, 2017 Author Posted May 2, 2017 Guess you're right, never really addressed the issue this way... Well I think I made the right choice by cutting contact especially with such a few months left for us before parting ways. Thanks for the great insight, really helped to make my head around all this, never thought she would be someone up to quit it for the sake of a life in college, cant blame her for that tho hahah
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