mach3 Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Hi - long time reader. Hoping to get some advice from the forum. Summary of situation: I have had a crush on a girl in my social circle for several months. I finally asked her out and we went out a couple of times alone, and a few times with friends. Some background - she was engaged last year but he called it off - I am the first guy she has dated since. We have known each other about six months, but started dating within the last month. She is very shy and quiet, so I had to take most of the initiative. To be honest, I wasn't sure how things were going until last week - our second date. But I thought we had a really nice time, lots more touching, food sharing, etc. I planned on kissing her at the end of the date but just decided to continue taking things slowly. She was sick the first part of this week, but I asked her over where I would make dinner this weekend. She said she'd like to, but still wasn't feeling well and would call me the day of - which she did. Said she still wasn't feeling well. No big deal. So I called her today to suggest dinner and a movie and got the "I don't think we should see each other anymore line". I was really caught off guard - not that big of a deal, but I had no inkling she felt that way. I was worried I was taking things too fast, now wonder if I was going to slow? I did really like this girl and looked forward to getting to know her more, since I felt some barriers were finally dropping. Things were just so much more relaxed last week, I thought for sure we would go out again. Obviously I cannot continue to call her - any advice? Perhaps I did something wrong? I don't really think she is a game player, and at the very least appreciate her honesty. Thanks as always (we are both in our mid twenties).
curiousnycgirl Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Not to sound harsh - but it sounds like she just wasn't that into you. This could merely be due to the fact that she may not be ready to date again yet, or she just wasn't feeling it. If you guys will continue to hang within the same circle - you most certainly can call her, if only to let her know you are cool with her decision and want her to know so it is not awkward when you guys are hanging out with the group.
Author mach3 Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 I would have definitely agreed w/ you until our last date about her not being that into me. I was kind of thinking - well she doesn't seem very receptive, perhaps I should let this go. But we had a great time, much more flirtatious and such. And I really got the feeling she wanted to come over for dinner and wasn't blowing me off, she could have just said no right off the bat...
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