Luvs2much Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 (edited) Well we're to begin, and i do hope my story helps others who are afraid to leave a narcissist partner. Long read.... < link to previous thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/589397-9-yrs-we-re-crossroads-now-long-read-sorry > I was contacted by my ex's current girlfriend just 4 days ago. I was fast asleep and had work that day but I picked up because she was insistant. We got common courtesies out of the way and started to talk. She confirmed what I felt in my gut when I left out of the country to care for my grandma in May2016(ex and I were still together then) so he cheated on me first and I due to other reasons broke up with him lol good thing I did lol Since he had supposedly "opened up" more when he was moving out to move due to "work" reason we stayed civil as friends feb2017. We did mess around probably 3 times a month up till last week. He said he had no one yet and I stupidly believed him, but I wasn't in a relationship so I was just having my fun. So the current GF and I start comparing notes, times and he has totally been living a double life! Of course he portrayed me as the bad one, it was his way of pulling on her heartstrings. I didn't pay attention to the relationship etc etc. I warned her and told her he has done this before, always the same and I proceeded to tell him of his infidelities. In July 2017 we finally broke up and she says he had been planning to move out as soon as I "let him go". She cheated on her guy with my ex(who was my boyfriend at the time)she confessed to her boyfriend at the time that she felt something for my ex and that they were moving in. Broke his heart the guy is supposedly really close to her family so now their upset at her too. So she moved in with my ex and she says they've supposedly been having problems cause she noticed he kept txtn me even after they moved in 2 months ago. I got so much closure after speaking with her I kept something's to myself but she pretty much verified alot. She cried because she left the guy she was with for a while just for my fake ass ex. The first 2 days I took the time to process everything, he hasn't even bothered to pick up the rest of his crap. How cute he thought he was going to keep the flame lit here, I told him I didn't want a relationship with him anymore from the moment I broke up with him.but I guess he thought I was the same submissive girl he met but OMG he's so wrong. He painted this world for himself and her and she's found out she was decieved and left under false pretenses and she's leaving him too. Mutual friends we had and that they have now, just found out what happened and are actively trying to help the girl to get out of there. He didn't care who he hurt as long as he could ride our coattails comfortably in his own fake ass world. I've found out he's talked down about his family and siblings etc so to portray himself as the victim, that he doesn't have a good relationship with his family. But I set the record straight. She just recently caught him talking to another girl on Snapchat so I told her to just leave if she can, that he's got so many people entwined in his fake world and fake persona it's better to just back off for her sanity. I also warned her of a few women out there he hasn't told her about, and one sounds real familiar to her like she has seen texts from one of his girls. If I ever had any doubt that the decision I took was the wrong one, it completely dissipated. I feel I don't even know the guy. Don't be afraid to trust your instincts cause they will always be right. Grab your things and just go, don't be afraid you have support everywhere not just friends and family, your doctor's,teachers etc they can get you in contact with the services you need to get yourself away from toxic situations like this. So as of now he hasn't bothered to call or to collect his crap. She has told me hes trying to smooth things out with her first ,while telling her he will never contact me again that he has nothing to say to me...That pisses me the f***off to no end..Like wow lol But I already know he's going to try to smooth things over with me later because I kept my apartment and when she leaves he won't be able to afford the rent on his. I told her to not even worry because he probably already had that one girl I told her about in the bag, as soon as she leaves he'll move her in..Again under false pretenses. Man...Why is it when you have the balls to stay civil and mature about a situation you still have to deal with whiney childish unemotionaly available punkwads? Just like I felt it...Hes still stuck on his high school games, loves the drama. But I'm so happy now that in neither way shape or form is he in my life. I've been doing great, I work closer to home, still on a tight budget but I have my place,and hopefully I can get financial aid to enroll in my community college cause I need a few credits to be able to complete requirements for a job I have my eye on��but emotionaly and physically I'm doing better. So please don't be afraid, first step is the scariest but after you do your free, you'll feel free cause you deserve to be... Since he "has nothing to say to me" after I blew his cover lol how do I go about getting rid of his stuff? His current ex wants to come collect it and take it away so I do that have to deal with him but either way I'm going to have to deal with him, cause I can already feel him waiting for things to calm down so he can come do damage control over here. I'm not falling for it though. I kinda want to take him his things and be done with it. any advice is appreciated, thank you guys so much for reading thru this whole thing. I appreciate your points of view. Edited May 1, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Added link to previous thread for context ~6
Zahara Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 His current ex wants to come collect it Let his ex collect his things and cut contact with both of them.
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