wtfmate Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 Backstory: FWB only texted me when he wanted to hook up, which was about every other month. We were never really friends; we knew each other only casually and all we ever did together was hook up. Also, my interest level in him is about 7/10. I wouldn't mind casually dating him, but I wouldn't want him to be the only guy for me at any given time. One day, around the time I was expecting him to ask if I was DTF, he said sex was off the table. I texted back, "That's cool." In the interest of keeping things strictly FWB-ly, I didn't ask for a reason. A couple of weeks later, he texted me to say hi. I texted hi back. And then silence. Odd, but I let it go. A week later, he texted hi again. I texted hi back again, right away. After a few minutes of no response, I went ahead and asked, "Are there going to be follow-ups to these hi's?" He replied and we had a short convo. A week later, he texted me again and started using sexual innuendos, so I thought that maybe he changed his mind and asked him if he wanted to hook up. He reminded me that sex was off the table, and then he awkwardly asked if I had a boyfriend. After I said no he became so wishy washy I asked him if he wanted to hang out with me. He immediately said no. This time he took another two weeks before he texted hi again, and it was as if the previous exchange never happened. We had a very nice, friendly convo, but like what the hell. He didn't want to hook up, he didn't want to hang out. Am I missing a third option here? I am not very picky but I do not want a pen pal.
Miss Spider Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 You didn't ask why your FWB was taking away the benefits???? It sounds to me like e-tethering. Throwing out hi's and asking if you've got a bf yet not wanting me meet up sounds like he's got other priorities(maybe like he's seeing someone and not supposed to see others?) but wants to ensure you stay on the back burner, but idk. 1
spiderowl Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 He's probably got a girlfriend who would dump him if she found he had sex with anyone else, hence 'sex is off the table'. He still wants to keep in touch so you don't forget him when he wants to claim benefits again. I hope you are not attached to this guy because he is only using you.
Springsummer Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 He's probably got a girlfriend who would dump him if she found he had sex with anyone else, hence 'sex is off the table'. He still wants to keep in touch so you don't forget him when he wants to claim benefits again. I hope you are not attached to this guy because he is only using you. oh, wow...human is selfish and complicated. no wonder I am from another planet.
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