Ladybug88 Posted April 30, 2017 Posted April 30, 2017 In second chances thread, we clearly all are holding onto a little too much hope. Maybe I want to be slapped out of it or maybe I want a second opinion on if there seems to be hope. A little pathetic but on here we're sorta all in the same boat of understanding. So, my ex broke up with me because of some personal issues he wanted to deal with alone. At first when we broke up, it was so hard that we kept being best friends and interacting closely. Finally it got too messy and he cut it off for good, unfriended me because jealousy was driving him crazy . A week later he re-friended me so I was like... ok why? You can't just do that and expect me to accept like it's nothing so I reached out. (While not talking regularly is CLEARLY best and also my plan, I felt I had to do this this one time to settle the air / get closure once and for all - I hadn't texted him once prior so I wasn't clingy or desperate ) What he last said to me over text is clearly the most important part, to give opinions on: I'm just including the most important parts "It's real hard to move on" -- meaning he hasn't yet, and it's difficult to, and it might take a long time ? "Maybe one day we can be friends without it making me crazy because I miss talking. Been acting like a madman." -- meaning he'd still be jealous if I were to talk to someone else, and he wants to be friends and misses talking "Don't think too poorly of me. Try to remember the good times and I'll do the same" This was on Wednesday and I've been NC since and plan on being NC for a while
Ronnys93 Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 Honestly, it sounds to me like he really wants the goods of being in a relationship without the title. Like you're being used as a crutch and a supportive figure. Just stay NC because it doesn't look like he's really able to make up his mind. The issues he had he needs to be working on by himself since he clearly couldn't be bothered to work through them while he was with you. It just sounds like a mind game at this point on his end. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too.
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