Author Fresnite Posted May 5, 2017 Author Posted May 5, 2017 I understand the need to vent here but holy smokes, this is over and if you don't stop trying to contact her you will only push her farther away. According to your posts she has told you at least 3 times she is not interested in a romantic relationship with you. Take the hint. All this other stuff about her brother was you grasping for straws...anything to get her to like you. She likes you as a friend only. If you keep pushing her she is going to get seriously irritated with you. Leave her alone. It's over. I understand some of what you are saying, but she chose to call me two days ago and stayed on the phone for 2 hours, yesterday she came to sit down at the table i was at. She would never have called me or choose to sit there if she wanted nothing to do with me? Is already moved on, I'm not asking for advice how to get her, i was asking advice on how the situation played out, if i was right or wrong in what i shared. She told me upon first meeting me that she is honest with people.
todreaminblue Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 I understand some of what you are saying, but she chose to call me two days ago and stayed on the phone for 2 hours, yesterday she came to sit down at the table i was at. She would never have called me or choose to sit there if she wanted nothing to do with me? Is already moved on, I'm not asking for advice how to get her, i was asking advice on how the situation played out, if i was right or wrong in what i shared. She told me upon first meeting me that she is honest with people. she told you that she sees you as a friend believe in her honesty.....deb
Author Fresnite Posted May 5, 2017 Author Posted May 5, 2017 she told you that she sees you as a friend believe in her honesty.....deb I know that, but she also said I'm not friend zoned and she will give me a chance at a romantic relationship in the same conversation. this was prior to us discussing her brother and me though. Also She just added me to her snap chat what the heck?
Springsummer Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 She is not interested in him. BUT, she is devilish. She threw some wrong signals. She MISLEAD and Confuse him some how, but basically she is not interested. I disrespect this kind of person. not good.
Springsummer Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 I know that, but she also said I'm not friend zoned and she will give me a chance at a romantic relationship in the same conversation. this was prior to us discussing her brother and me though. Also She just added me to her snap chat what the heck? string you along...poor soul. what kind of woman is this? This kind of person will use you ruthlessly. she is a user. she enchanted you and then trampled all over you and then give you some glimpse of hopes. holy smoke... 1
wtfmate Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 string you along...poor soul. what kind of woman is this? This kind of person will use you ruthlessly. she is a user. she enchanted you and then trampled all over you and then give you some glimpse of hopes. holy smoke... WTF? She told him from the beginning she isn't dating anyone, but that she does date. I advised OP to move on if this wasn't the type of relationship he was looking for, yet he chose to ignore my post in favor of others that offered some sort of possibility that there is maybe a teeny tiny chance that she could like him just a little bit more and agree to become his girlfriend. People often say women either don't know what they want or can't be straightforward about saying no, but the truth is men just choose to ignore what women say and disregard reality. 2
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 WTF? She told him from the beginning she isn't dating anyone, but that she does date. I advised OP to move on if this wasn't the type of relationship he was looking for, yet he chose to ignore my post in favor of others that offered some sort of possibility that there is maybe a teeny tiny chance that she could like him just a little bit more and agree to become his girlfriend. People often say women either don't know what they want or can't be straightforward about saying no, but the truth is men just choose to ignore what women say and disregard reality. Well she told me upfront what it is and will let a guy know if she isnt interested. I was up for the challenge. Its just weird how it all played out and honestly the situation is soooooo crazy its a little fun lol. Until yesterday she said i was going to get my chance. Im also so freaking confused why she added me on snap chat just 4 hours ago
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 I've decided what to do, I'm just going to play mad chill and be there for her as a friend if she wants.
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 string you along...poor soul. what kind of woman is this? This kind of person will use you ruthlessly. she is a user. she enchanted you and then trampled all over you and then give you some glimpse of hopes. holy smoke... You know i read this again. I Also talked about this stuff with friends and co workers, they all told me what you said. They said to run and that she is pulling me along. Why did i not want to see it? In person, phone, text it would seem so real and genuine. Even When i was pushy or blew up her phone, she was still interested. It wasnt till me confiding about her brother that she flat out said, no romantic relationship.
Miss Spider Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 (edited) Hopefully you are cool with staying her friend because she friend/bro zoned awhile back and chances of escaping that territory are nil. Sorry this happened. Edited May 6, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 Hopefully you are cool with staying her friend because she friend/bro zoned awhile back and chances of escaping that territory are nil. Sorry this happened. Thank you for your reply, but I'm not sure if you read all my posts. At This stage, i would just like to be her friend. I think she needs a good guy friend because she is used to all guys just trying to be in a romantic relationship with her.
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 This whole thing is just really weird, it's like some crap for real that you just can't make up. And then I'm trying to learn from it, what i did right and what i did wrong and its all so weird. Like i feel lost. I feel bad for different things and it's like damn what's wrong with me?
Popsicle Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 This whole thing is just really weird, it's like some crap for real that you just can't make up. And then I'm trying to learn from it, what i did right and what i did wrong and its all so weird. Like i feel lost. I feel bad for different things and it's like damn what's wrong with me? Nothing is wrong with you! Love is a mystery. Even Einstein trying to figure it out and couldn't.
Author Fresnite Posted May 6, 2017 Author Posted May 6, 2017 Nothing is wrong with you! Love is a mystery. Even Einstein trying to figure it out and couldn't. I mean like, her reason for saying she can't be with me. Because of her brother situation which i can believe, but people i talk with irl tell me that's not true, she is just not trying to hurt me and flat out say no. So I'm like where did i go wrong
Miss Spider Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 No matter how good looking, funny, smart, and etc. are, there's always going to be someone who doesn't see it. You just don't click. It's nature and it applies to everyone on the planet. Its not any one thing you did. I get it's hard to accept when you liked and saw potential with someone, but don't beat yourself up over it. Get out there and meet someone who recognizes how rad you are. 3
Author Fresnite Posted May 7, 2017 Author Posted May 7, 2017 Ok so i know what i have to do. This girl is apparently gets around. Like is self destructive and is why she sees multiple guys. A friend showed me today the dating app she is also on. So every guy is after her body, she likes that I'm agood listener and understanding. I am going to be that guy friend for her. I'm going to be there if she wants for me to just listen. 1
Springsummer Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 Ok so i know what i have to do. This girl is apparently gets around. Like is self destructive and is why she sees multiple guys. A friend showed me today the dating app she is also on. So every guy is after her body, she likes that I'm agood listener and understanding. I am going to be that guy friend for her. I'm going to be there if she wants for me to just listen. What do you see in her besides her body? OP, do you know it irritated me that you waste people's time for such a shallow and player of a woman? Is she worth our time? I know her time is precious...for those guys who after her body. 1
Author Fresnite Posted May 8, 2017 Author Posted May 8, 2017 What do you see in her besides her body? OP, do you know it irritated me that you waste people's time for such a shallow and player of a woman? Is she worth our time? I know her time is precious...for those guys who after her body. I believe its because she is hurt and broken. She is self destructive. Apparently according to her brother she was raped and that's why at 18 she has a 2 year old son. Also her brother is in a mental hospital for stabbing her sisters boyfriend. She told me as the youngest of her family she had to grow up and take care of people. But yes i see a hurt soul in there, she is trying to flood her pain with attention, even if it's negative attention. Because in the end attention is attention.
Springsummer Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 I believe its because she is hurt and broken. She is self destructive. Apparently according to her brother she was raped and that's why at 18 she has a 2 year old son. Also her brother is in a mental hospital for stabbing her sisters boyfriend. She told me as the youngest of her family she had to grow up and take care of people. But yes i see a hurt soul in there, she is trying to flood her pain with attention, even if it's negative attention. Because in the end attention is attention. OK. I guess I am not in a position to judge her, but since you are here to ask opinions, so we can only give opinion based on the limited info you gave. guess, in the end of day, you are the best judge for the situation and your feelings. you seems to be the one who really understand her. I hope you are right. Now I see why you will be there for her even just as a friend. people who think they are the saviors will do that. anyway, that's nice of you.
Author Fresnite Posted May 12, 2017 Author Posted May 12, 2017 OK. I guess I am not in a position to judge her, but since you are here to ask opinions, so we can only give opinion based on the limited info you gave. guess, in the end of day, you are the best judge for the situation and your feelings. you seems to be the one who really understand her. I hope you are right. Now I see why you will be there for her even just as a friend. people who think they are the saviors will do that. anyway, that's nice of you. I'm not her savior, I'm just going to give her a supportive friendship. I'm not sure if you read my other posts, but getting girls/women isn't hard for me. It's the next step in keeping them lol.
thefooloftheyear Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 Tell her you were born with a genetic defect that left you with 4 penises...So she'll never be bored... All joking aside, if you want my opinion, don't degrade your manhood by being another one of her dopey orbiters...Preserve your dignity and walk away from that deal...and a 2 year old at 18.???... Don't walk.....run... TFY
missdixie3333 Posted May 12, 2017 Posted May 12, 2017 So, just be honest. You don't give a crap about her situation. You're seeing someone else, but you just want to get with this girl because, as you said, she's so 'hot'. Texting is a ridiculous way to gauge her interest. You said: I am seeing another girl lmao. But i didn't share that with you guys or her cause it has nothing to do with her. Um, lmao? Really? Who finds this funny? And it has nothing to do with the girl you're seeing? Have you told this girl you're seeing what you're trying to do? Yeah, hilarious. Grow up. You're just gross. This girl has real issues, she let you in and you're only interested in getting into her pants...and you probably wonder why women doubt you or don't want you or don't stay with you long. Go figure. I met so many of your types in college and they all wound up alone still playing the game. Good luck with this. 2
Author Fresnite Posted May 20, 2017 Author Posted May 20, 2017 So, just be honest. You don't give a crap about her situation. You're seeing someone else, but you just want to get with this girl because, as you said, she's so 'hot'. Texting is a ridiculous way to gauge her interest. You said: I am seeing another girl lmao. But i didn't share that with you guys or her cause it has nothing to do with her. Um, lmao? Really? Who finds this funny? And it has nothing to do with the girl you're seeing? Have you told this girl you're seeing what you're trying to do? Yeah, hilarious. Grow up. You're just gross. This girl has real issues, she let you in and you're only interested in getting into her pants...and you probably wonder why women doubt you or don't want you or don't stay with you long. Go figure. I met so many of your types in college and they all wound up alone still playing the game. Good luck with this. I didn't see this when it was first posted. But no, to clarify I wasnt actually physically "seeing" anyone else. I should have said talking. But i included that to boost my ego, since that girl seeing multiple guys is obviously red flags. I was just infatuated and enticed by her attractiveness and the excitement of a new and different situation. But ultimately it doesn't matter what you think of me because you don't know me. I could be whoever i want over the internet. Also we are never meeting so it matters much less. I don't run or play any "games" I'm actually just very naturally talented at communicating. Also that's why i was seeking advice on this situation because i am a one woman guy who was trying to pursue a girl seeing multiple boys. But that shipped has sailed. I'm in a new healthy relationship with a girl that we both click and vibe together.
wtfmate Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 This thread still active? But i included that to boost my ego, since that girl seeing multiple guys is obviously red flags. Having a difference approach to life is not "red flags." Saying she wouldn't be a good fit for you is fine, passing judgment essentially because she doesn't want you is not.
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