Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Good idea! Wouldnt know what to do though.... Give me an example I'm gonna steal cautiouslyoptimistic idea and say is he on social media? lol 1
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Good idea! Wouldnt know what to do though.... Give me an example About you say something with a flirty smile like: You and I should grab a drink sometimes...you know *off record*. How's that? lol 2
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 About you say something with a flirty smile like: You and I should grab a drink sometimes...you know *off record*. How's that? lol Omg I cringed at that! I'm such a p*ssy! A drink before I say that would be awesome!!! I might try that....but when I play that scenario out in my mind...I think you might be right..maybe he's not interested...or maybe thats me talking myself out of taking a chance because its scary af
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Omg I cringed at that! I'm such a p*ssy! A drink before I say that would be awesome!!! I might try that....but when I play that scenario out in my mind...I think you might be right..maybe he's not interested...or maybe thats me talking myself out of taking a chance because its scary af What do you have to lose? 1
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 What do you have to lose? Well, if he says no or really doesnt want to but goes anyway...then it'll be super awkward until I find a house which could take a long time Thats what I would be concerned about But I get what you're saying. We all have to take risks sometimes 1
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Well, if he says no or really doesnt want to but goes anyway...then it'll be super awkward until I find a house which could take a long time Thats what I would be concerned about But I get what you're saying. We all have to take risks sometimes As a buyer you don't have a contract with this agent if it turns awkward. Here only sellers have a contract with their agent. Keep it light and flirty, nothing that requires an answer, you are more looking for a reaction.
No_Go Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Most of my male friends are gay and the commonality is that they are always hugging me etc, i.e. break physical barrier much earlier and easier than straight guys that are potentially interested. It is possible of course but from what she describes the agent is most likely straight guy trying to keep professional. Their professional relationship will end soon thought, if he's interested nothing will stop him to approach Dis after the closing. Or she can offer to take him out for drinks to celebrate the deal? Much less awkward than asking him out now, and also if he's not interested she can safe face saying she really asked him out for celebration of the new home only. Yeah....this... Think about it this way..... There are millions of guys right now in affairs and other illicit relationships that have WAY more to lose than this guy's arrangement...If it's something he wants, he wont let it stop him...I say he's not buying it...but hey, I could be wrong... Didn't read the whole thread....One thing does have me thinking.... I know a few guys (customer's of mine) that are RE agents....They have one thing in common....They are gay...Is that a possible scenario?? Seems like women have horrible "gay-dar" at times.... Just some random thoughts...Hope it all works out.. TFY 2
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Their professional relationship will end soon thought, if he's interested nothing will stop him to approach Dis after the closing. Or she can offer to take him out for drinks to celebrate the deal? Much less awkward than asking him out now, and also if he's not interested she can safe face saying she really asked him out for celebration of the new home only. Wouldn't that be keeping it professional and keeping it confusing if it's a date or not.
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Hi Guys! I met with my agent today to look at a new house. I always look nice when I go to look at a new house because I want to make a goo impression and because my agent is a cutie The house ended up being great! We drove up to each other's cars when we got to the house and he was different today. He looked at me for a sec and said, "Hey". It was like a, 'Hey, how you doing?' type of tone which is wierd because he's usually very upbeat and professional. Then he asked me how my birthday went and what I did. I thought that was nice. We walked in the house (it was a private showing) and he was more quiet than usual and seemed kind of nervous/distant. I was taking pics of the house and he said, "Lets get you a house thats not haunted this time". And I laughed and said that would be great. I said what did you think of the pic (the I took of the previous house in the basement with the shadowy figures) he said he got the chills when he looked at it. I jokingly told him I hoped he did think I was crazy and he joked and said, "I have yet to determine that". I laughed then we walked out We set up a time to meet this Saturday to bring my Dad so he can inspect the house. My agent usually shakes my hand when he first sees me and when we part ways but he didnt this time. He was fidgiting and a little nervous and said, "It was nice to see you again, I'll see you Saturday. If you have any questions feel free to give me a call" This is a kind of a wierd shift in behavior Any ideas? I think this update from today might not have been seen by everyone Or it just doesnt look good
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Maybe he is just having a bad day like he got bad news, a deal did not go through, his mother called and annoyed him, or his gf told him he better get his act together....
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Maybe he is just having a bad day like he got bad news, a deal did not go through, his mother called and annoyed him, or his gf told him he better get his act together.... Lmao As of a month ago...he told me he was single, wasnt on OLDing and wasnt worried about when he'd find someone. He said it would happen at the right time. We talked about that a bit Lets hope thats still the case 1
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Maybe he is just having a bad day like he got bad news, a deal did not go through, his mother called and annoyed him, or his gf told him he better get his act together.... It didnt seem like he was having a bad day It seemed like he was catching feelings and being awkward about it
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Most of my male friends are gay and the commonality is that they are always hugging me etc, i.e. break physical barrier much earlier and easier than straight guys that are potentially interested. It is possible of course but from what she describes the agent is most likely straight guy trying to keep professional. Their professional relationship will end soon thought, if he's interested nothing will stop him to approach Dis after the closing. Or she can offer to take him out for drinks to celebrate the deal? Much less awkward than asking him out now, and also if he's not interested she can safe face saying she really asked him out for celebration of the new home only. Spoken like a ......woman..... Speaking as a guy now.. ....If he was truly interested, he wouldn't give a rats behind about the "professional relationship" ..He's a garden variety residential RE agent, not the CEO of Google...he'd be more likely to "close" her by taking her down in one of the basements of the houses he showed her...Then tell her to keep her trap shut about it and lay low, or he may be violating whatever rules of conduct, than anything else......I doubt anyone gives a crap about it(code of ethics)....That business is so cut throat, that his broker of record would probably tell him to do whatever he needed to do to close the deal.... But alas...Maybe you are right...I dunno...He may just be aloof...I know I am about that stuff.. TFY 2
SammySammy Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 I agree with No Go. I've been a real estate agent. I wouldn't want the reputation as the guy that pursues his clients. Stuff like that can wreck a reputation. Reputation is important in that business. People talk. Many referrals are by word of mouth. If it were me, I'd wait until closing. Develop a personal relationship after the professional relationship is over. That's just me. Others may see it differently. 5
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 (edited) I agree with No Go. I've been a real estate agent. I wouldn't want the reputation as the guy that pursues his clients. Stuff like that can wreck a reputation. Reputation is important in that business. People talk. Many referrals are by word of mouth. If it were me, I'd wait until closing. Develop a personal relationship after the professional relationship is over. That's just me. Others may see it differently. My previous post was somewhat tongue in cheek, but he's not doing the pursuing...she is... I just can't see any scenario where a guy who was truly interested would just not respond whatsoever for the reason that its ethically wrong..This scenario isn't like a Dr/patient or teacher/student deal..They are both similarly aged single people..I don't see the big ethical foul here...I mean, she's dropped a bunch of hints and he's given her pretty much nothing... Like I said, he could just be aloof about advances from women...Some guys are like that(me included) and can't pick up on the subtleties...They basically need a strip show and a big sign..... TFY Edited June 29, 2017 by thefooloftheyear 2
Popsicle Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Dis, if he has not asked you out on his own, absolutely do NOT put him in a weird position by asking him out, until your house is CLOSED. Real estate is all about reputation. You can flirt lightly (ever watch "Millionaire Listing New York" with Fredrick, who lightly flirts all the time?) but keep it professional until you're done. Keep the potential of hurt feelings out of this for now. 2
No_Go Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Wouldn't that be keeping it professional and keeping it confusing if it's a date or not. I'd personally feel more comfortably if it is a bit ambiguous, so if he turned to has a gf, is gay or simply not interested, no weirdness is created. If he is interested and available though, he would probably use the opportunity even if the drinks sound like celebrating the deal only. 1
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 My previous post was somewhat tongue in cheek, but he's not doing the pursuing...she is... TFY How am I at all pursuing him? I asked him if he was single when we were having a casual convo about dating. Thats the only thing I can think of Other than that, I've just been polite and nice 1
Maggie4 Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 I think you should keep in mind, that some real estate agents struggle quite a bit. When I was house hunting, I met three younger male agents that were not doing as well as some older female agents. They couldn't get many houses as listing agents and sometimes spent time with buyers only to be dumped later on. I don't know how well your agent is doing. But you're financially good if you are buying a house in cash. Could he be reluctant because he doesn't think he makes enough money? 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 (edited) How am I at all pursuing him? I asked him if he was single when we were having a casual convo about dating. Thats the only thing I can think of Other than that, I've just been polite and nice Fair enough.... But in my own experience, any woman that asked me that question, then it's pretty clear their intentions...Otherwise, there is no other reason to ask that to a stranger... And if I were single and actually looking, and even a little interested, id certainly take off with it from there...*shrug* TFY Edited June 29, 2017 by thefooloftheyear
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 I think you should keep in mind, that some real estate agents struggle quite a bit. When I was house hunting, I met three younger male agents that were not doing as well as some older female agents. They couldn't get many houses as listing agents and sometimes spent time with buyers only to be dumped later on. I don't know how well your agent is doing. But you're financially good if you are buying a house in cash. Could he be reluctant because he doesn't think he makes enough money? Actually you're very right about that Maggie and I never replied to your previous post but wanted to thank you for it! It was so sweet He's 30 (I'm 31) When him and his now ex broke up he moved back home to save up to buy his own property. He also works a night job too. So ya, he's working his way up The only reason why I can afford to buy a house right now is because my parents are very well off and they offered to match whatever I could put in. That added up to 130-150k He said he's a little scared to met my dad though. My dad will be doing the inspection when I find a house I really like and he's...a little intense? I let my agent know that in a polite way just so he could be prepared lol I'm also in nursing school. Less than a year left! So he knows I'm not made of money either I think he might be one of those guys thats really good at socializing in general but doesnt know how to flirt. I just read a thread posted by a guy who said the same thing. Either that or he's not interested
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Fair enough.... But in my own experience, any woman that asked me that question, then it's pretty clear their intentions...Otherwise, there is no other reason to ask that to a stranger... And if I were single and actually looking, and even a little interested, id certainly take off with it from there...*shrug* TFY Ya it wasnt a good sign that he didnt ask me if I was single but I kind of voluntered that info after he said he was But as other posters have mentioned...reputation is important in RE I can be hopeful all I want but he could very well be uninterested 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Ya it wasnt a good sign that he didnt ask me if I was single but I kind of voluntered that info after he said he was But as other posters have mentioned...reputation is important in RE I can be hopeful all I want but he could very well be uninterested Like I said, it's entirely possible that he's just completely aloof when it comes to attention from women..Like every bit of body language just flies right over his head..I can relate to that... If it continues and the business relationship ends and you are still into him, then I guess you may have to do the strip show and big sign??? J/k....wish you all the best.. TFY
Maggie4 Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 I think he might be one of those guys thats really good at socializing in general but doesnt know how to flirt. I have never met a Taurus man that flirts the way you normally expect. There's like almost no verbal flirting. (so text flirting is no go). If he is very kind and sometimes brushes against you, I'd say those are already very good signs. Watch for body language when you walk through a house together.
Gaeta Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 Dis: Why exactly do you like this guy? He sounds a bit boring to me with no personality. It is possible you are just bored? C'mon girl! If I were young and gorgeous like you I'd be out there having the fun of my life! 1
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