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Hi guys! :D

 

So I called it quits with OLD....my soul has been offically crushed after 1.75 years of it

 

I'm looking for a new place to live. My upstairs neighbor is a pretty ill woman (mentally) and very loud. I've always been civil but but her behavior has been getting worse lately. So much so that the cops told her if she contacts me again she'll be charged with harrassment. So ya...its time to move!

 

I got hooked up with a real estate agent from one of my friends. I didnt think anything of it when I would talk to him on the phone other than the fact that he's very nice and helpful

 

We met 2 weeks ago to go over what I wanted from a new place and he's actually cute! He a year younger than me, he's about 5'9, not much muscle so he's not my type (but omg where has my type gotten me?!) He seemed a little nervous...kind of stumbling over his words and apologizing for his computer lagging (which he didnt need to because it only took 2 seconds for it to catch up). I think he was a little intimidated....I've been told I'm very attractive but I can't be everyone's cup of tea. So who knows. We've met up twice (professionally) and sometimes we get to talking about things outside of real estate

 

When he showed me a house yesterday we were chatting casually and I decided to be bold and ask him if he was single. Not sure if that was stupid move or not but being shy has never gotten me anywhere. He said he was and how he knew it would happen for him when the time was right. He didnt ask me if I was single but I volunteered the info casually. We then got to talking about dating and OLD (hes never done it...fortunate soul) It was a nice convo. Then I took off.

 

I know that because of our professional relationship, he cant ask me out until I no longer need his services. Plus, I dont even know if he is interested. But I would like to go out on a date with him when I find a place to live. He's really sweet (hes a Taurus, I'm a Cancer ;) yas! lol) But I'm really not too smooth when it comes to this stuff.

 

Any advice? Thanks guys! :D

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Any advice?
Once you've concluded the business of finding a new place to live, you can suggest that you two celebrate that event by having dinner.
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I'ma rootin' for ya Dis! You deserve ALL the happiness in the world. I knew you're very attractive inside and out. I'm specially linked to Cancerians folks!

 

I hope you get the house of your dreams. I was out earlier today doing the same.

 

I once was engaged to a Taurus man. I know that I can't blanket all the Taurus men in the world, but one thing I know for sure they're stable beings.

 

Please keep us posted on the future developments of your RE guy. I have a good feeling about this one.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your experiences with OLD at least it didn't make you bitter. My thoughts only, you're too good for OLD. You deserve a romantic story to tell your future children and the rest of us ;)

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Awesome! Are you going to do a 30 day escrow?

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Awesome! Are you going to do a 30 day escrow?

 

Lol no I'm just going to rent a small house/cottage

 

Havent found one yet though

 

I dont even know if he's interested or just being really nice because he's my agent

 

I'm used to the forced nature of OLD

 

Not this...:confused:

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I dont even know if he's interested or just being really nice because he's my agent
While I know you prefer to be passive, you're likely going to have to be the one to ask him out. Even when your business is concluded, it would be foolish of him (from a professional standpoint) to hit on you. The last thing he needs is someone posting a review saying: "My realtor hit on me".
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Awesome! Are you going to do a 30 day escrow?

 

They do that in dating.. man.. :laugh:

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Lol no I'm just going to rent a small house/cottage

 

Havent found one yet though

 

I dont even know if he's interested or just being really nice because he's my agent

 

I'm used to the forced nature of OLD

 

Not this...:confused:

 

Then go for it! Tell him you think he's cute.

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Once you've concluded the business of finding a new place to live, you can suggest that you two celebrate that event by having dinner.

 

I think that is an awesome way to set it up. Good luck, Dis!

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I like the idea of drinks or dinner to celebrate once your professional relationship has concluded. You could even invite him to your new place and cook him dinner and watch a movie, if you think this would be appropriate. Call it a housewarming party. :)

 

I also agree that you're the one that is probably going to have to make the first move given the professional nature of your relationship so far. It wouldn't be a good idea to "hit on" clients, and despite your professional relationship concluding, he may not feel right pushing it to the next level.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong at all in asking if he was single. It's pretty much a normal question if one person is interested in another person. He seems receptive.

 

Return and report. I'm excited for you. :)

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Be sure he's not gay.

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Once you've concluded the business of finding a new place to live, you can suggest that you two celebrate that event by having dinner.

 

Yeah. And Dis, make him pay the bill, he's wealthier than you anyway.

 

Anyway hope this can work for you, you deserve it, I mean, you have only started 50 threads on failed dates here. :laugh: (joking with you, Dis)

 

Shanex, the jokester.

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5'9" and not much muscle? See ya a month or so when you come to your senses....

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Omg the responses in this thread are hilarious. :laugh:

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5'9" and not much muscle? See ya a month or so when you come to your senses....

 

Yeah this one especially LOL.

 

You peeps are funny.

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5'9" and not much muscle? See ya a month or so when you come to your senses....

 

Hahaha :lmao:

 

As long as I'm attracted to him...I'm good. He's really cute and super, super nice. Its kind of refreshing to meet a guys thats not a douche :D

 

I dont need a guy thats 6'2 and 250lbs of muscle...been there done that and it never ended well

 

Time to change things up! :D

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Yeah. And Dis, make him pay the bill, he's wealthier than you anyway.

 

Anyway hope this can work for you, you deserve it, I mean, you have only started 50 threads on failed dates here. :laugh: (joking with you, Dis)

 

Shanex, the jokester.

 

Lmao! :lmao:

 

I'm so glad I got some validation for how poorly things have gone in my dating life for so long!

 

It makes me feel like I'm not crazy for being so fed up lol

 

Thanks Shanex! :D Xoxo

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Hey don't even worry if you DO appear a bit "crazy."

 

I am definitely a bit 'crazy' (sometimes), not to be confused with "psycho." :)

 

Many men find it charming and endearing! Keeps 'em on their toes! LOL

 

Always be you. :)

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I like the idea of drinks or dinner to celebrate once your professional relationship has concluded. You could even invite him to your new place and cook him dinner and watch a movie, if you think this would be appropriate. Call it a housewarming party. :)

 

I also agree that you're the one that is probably going to have to make the first move given the professional nature of your relationship so far. It wouldn't be a good idea to "hit on" clients, and despite your professional relationship concluding, he may not feel right pushing it to the next level.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong at all in asking if he was single. It's pretty much a normal question if one person is interested in another person. He seems receptive.

 

Return and report. I'm excited for you. :)

 

LOVE this idea! :D Thank you!!

 

I would totally cook him dinner and watch a movie together after

 

The only problem is....my friend who hooked me up with him told me to NEVER tell an agent or the landlord how many pets I actually have because landlords are so strict about pets. 80% wont take pets at all

 

So....I told him I have 2 cats

 

...I have 4 and a bunny

 

So I'd have to come clean about that. I literally couldnt find a place if I was honest about how many pets I have. I've kept my current place in great condition and I have a good reference letter from my current landlord. All my cats and my rabbit are rescues so I didnt exactly plan on having this many

 

I hope he wont be pissed :o

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While I know you prefer to be passive, you're likely going to have to be the one to ask him out. Even when your business is concluded, it would be foolish of him (from a professional standpoint) to hit on you. The last thing he needs is someone posting a review saying: "My realtor hit on me".

 

I also agree that you're the one that is probably going to have to make the first move given the professional nature of your relationship so far. It wouldn't be a good idea to "hit on" clients, and despite your professional relationship concluding, he may not feel right pushing it to the next level.

 

Great point guys! I didnt think of this!

 

I def agree though. He's still up and coming in the real estate industry so I'm sure he's treading lightly in all respects. Plus guys never think I'm interested even when I am so....

 

Its about time I put myself out there....I've never done it before and even if he says no, at least I'll have some experience asking a guy out

 

Fortune favors the bold! :D

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I'ma rootin' for ya Dis! You deserve ALL the happiness in the world. I knew you're very attractive inside and out. I'm specially linked to Cancerians folks!

 

I hope you get the house of your dreams. I was out earlier today doing the same.

 

I once was engaged to a Taurus man. I know that I can't blanket all the Taurus men in the world, but one thing I know for sure they're stable beings.

 

Please keep us posted on the future developments of your RE guy. I have a good feeling about this one.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your experiences with OLD at least it didn't make you bitter. My thoughts only, you're too good for OLD. You deserve a romantic story to tell your future children and the rest of us ;)

 

Tres,

 

This is one of the nicest things anyone has said to me here on LS

 

Thanks so much for this :D

 

Its actually been really tough the past couple months

 

-Bad car accident

-A bunch of failed dates (3 different guys)

-My ex threatening me

-Crazy/loud upstairs neighbor

-Lost my 4.0 GPA this past semester. I kept it for 4 years. Nursing school is so hard

-Family issues

 

I'm totally fine though....just a feeling a little low. But things could always be worse. My mom says I'm a 'tough cookie' lol....I'm trying! :D I'm sure things will start to look up. We can never lose hope right? :)

 

Anyway, thanks girl :D Xoxo

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This sounds like my cleaning lady dilemma.

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He didnt ask me if I was single but I volunteered the info casually. We then got to talking about dating and OLD (hes never done it...fortunate soul) It was a nice convo. Then I took off.

 

Any advice? Thanks guys! :D

 

Hi Dis, sorry but I'll be the one raining on your parade this morning :-)

 

Men are wired to be the chasers even the shy ones. This man did not reciprocate your interest and I am afraid you are building hope and will be disappointed. ANY man, even a shy ones, that would be curious about you would have asked in return if you were single. To me the fact he didn't ask in return is keeping the door closed.

 

My daughter (29) is a pretty girl with a killing personality with the annoying habit of initiating with men and it always ends with disappointments. I keep telling her to stop being the initiaor and to wait for men to come after her. Any man you initiate with will be flattered and show initial interest but it will not go any further because it's unatural to them.

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Any man you initiate with will be flattered and show initial interest but it will not go any further because it's unatural to them.

 

That is completely untrue. Sometimes it really surprises me how people can make such false statements on this forum.

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That is completely untrue. Sometimes it really surprises me how people can make such false statements on this forum.

 

I made that statement based on my experience which is 3,5 year online, met 200 men and also my experience as the mother of a young woman who tends to be the chaser, who's also online and has met 100 + men. I did not pull that out of my hat.

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