Don't contact me again/apology ignored?

[Peterfro]

Hey I'm new to this forum.

 

So i was semi-dating this girl; we met at a club and hooked up and continued talking after via text. We caught up the next week and went to hang out. Things were going well until! I went out that next weekend.

She was talking about attending a party nearby where i was out so i invited her out, but she kept making excuses such as "old lady" and was convinced she would stay at the party. Drunk me unfortunately way overreacted to this rather than accepting it and i deleted her off social media (I'm not usually a stupid drunk). I did this not only once but the very next weekend too. The next day i apologised for being an idiot and i explained why would she want to hang with someone like me? Eventually she got to the point of "i dont think you should contact me anymore"; so I acknowledged that and didn't respond.

 

About 3 days later i messaged her an apology below:

I don't expect anything in return *name here* but I just want to apologise for being an *******. It's hard to come by girls that I genuinely enjoy being around these days and I was impatient to the fact of wanting your company which isn't an excuse especially twice in a row. Just want you to know I'm sorry.

 

No response. I waited a few more days hoping she would read or respond but nothing. I then proceeded to text this;

I'm gonna respect your wishes and let you be I but hope we can get past this one day..

 

I feel like that's all i can do? She is a genuine person and i got impatient because im used to girls in the past playing games. I also take responsibility for everything that went wrong!

[Tressugar]

Move on! You fu*ked up! No self-respecting female is gonna talk to you anymore after what she'd experienced with you.

[d0nnivain]

You don't have enough history for her to believe that you are anything other than impetuous.

 

 

You thought she was "one of those girls" who always plays games. Guess what? She thought you were "one of those guys who only wants one thing." The only thing she knows for certain about you, she doesn't like. In her shoes would you take you back? don't say you would give her a chance because you have dropped girls for game playing in the past which is why you were so quick to judge here.

[enddeck]

Your seduction technique needs tweaking.

A lot of tweaking.

[Miss Spider]

She's not interested and doesn't want an apology. She wants you to leave her alone. Please do that.

[preraph]

^^^ This. No one wants someone who can't even respect them when they say to not contact them. It's done.

[smackie9]

Dude, you have a drinking problem....the signs are there. You lack control. The scary part is you don't acknowledge it.

[act00]

It's time to go no contact. You behaved badly. You have likewise apologized, "out loud," and I appreciate this. You state you don't normally behave this way, and you know you messed up - this is not normal behavior for you. The thing is, she doesn't know this. The only thing she knows is crazy-man. You not only unraveled once, but you did it twice.

 

This does come across as normal behavior for you right now. You state you were met with a situation you have not encountered before and you reacted badly. The good thing is, you recognize it, and when you recognize it, you can change it. It's probably too little too late with this woman, but you learned something here, and hopefully you will not repeat this behavior with future women/girlfriends. We are all on a learning curve.

[1fish2fish]

[quote=Peterfro;7299381

 

About 3 days later i messaged her an apology below:

I don't expect anything in return *name here* but I just want to apologise for being an *******.

 

No response. I waited a few more days hoping she would read or respond but nothing.

 

Apparently you did expect something in return. A response from her.

 

Best to write this off as an AFGO...another f*cking growth opportunity.

[kendahke]

but she kept making excuses such as "old lady" and was convinced she would stay at the party. Drunk me unfortunately way overreacted to this rather than accepting it and i deleted her off social media (I'm not usually a stupid drunk). I did this not only once but the very next weekend too. The next day i apologised for being an idiot and i explained why would she want to hang with someone like me? Eventually she got to the point of "i dont think you should contact me anymore"; so I acknowledged that and didn't respond.

 

You'd probably be best served by stopping your drinking. Any kind of a drunk is someone to avoid like the plague.

[basil67]

She gave you a second chance after the first time you behaved badly. But you went and blew her good faith in you by doing it again. She made a smart decision.

[preraph]

I see an awful lot of drunks do just fine with attracting women. What I see are men who don't drink having a lot of trouble attracting women.

 

Partiers, yes, but not alcoholics who get mean when they drink. That's a red flag to most people these days.

[1fish2fish]

It may well be but not drinking often enough seems to be a bigger red flag.

 

LOL! Maybe in your world.

[todreaminblue]

i think what you did was good....a genuine apology would eb nwo you respecting her wishes.....she may one day coem roudn if you leave ti at the genuine apology.....personally if i twere em i woudl appreciate that kind of apology it seems heart felt...so follow through.one day she may contact you.....deb

[kendahke]

I see an awful lot of drunks do just fine with attracting women. What I see are men who don't drink having a lot of trouble attracting women.

 

any kind of a drunk is someone to avoid like the plague.