whatwhit Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 So, me and this guy I've known for 4 years had a conversation about us. He's one of those guys that disappears and then reappears in my life - semi romantically. Maybe the timing for us is right now who knows. So I was pretty forward with him the other day and said, "I really like you - and I get that you're kind of far right now,but I would be willing to see where things go. Not necessarily be committed but see if things could work out. We've gone back and forth for so long. And I haven't really changed my thoughts on you and so that's where I'm at. I'm sorry if that freaks you, ya know how direct I am. But yeah." His response was: "Sorry I missed your call last night and you're not freaking me out at all! I am definitely open to the idea of seeing where things can go as long as you are ok with my schedule and not always being in Town. Can I see you on my next trip in a couple weeks?" So, would you take that as us casually dating now or I guess "talking". Has date every brought anyone you've known for a while into your life, and now youre together? Peace and love! ❤
basil67 Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 At this point, it's only words. Wait and see if the casual dating actually starts to happen. Have you discussed him coming and going from your life? How would you cope if he was to do it again? 1
hippychick3 Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 So, me and this guy I've known for 4 years had a conversation about us. He's one of those guys that disappears and then reappears in my life - semi romantically. Maybe the timing for us is right now who knows. So I was pretty forward with him the other day and said, "I really like you - and I get that you're kind of far right now,but I would be willing to see where things go. Not necessarily be committed but see if things could work out. We've gone back and forth for so long. And I haven't really changed my thoughts on you and so that's where I'm at. I'm sorry if that freaks you, ya know how direct I am. But yeah." His response was: "Sorry I missed your call last night and you're not freaking me out at all! I am definitely open to the idea of seeing where things can go as long as you are ok with my schedule and not always being in Town. Can I see you on my next trip in a couple weeks?" So, would you take that as us casually dating now or I guess "talking". Has date every brought anyone you've known for a while into your life, and now youre together? Peace and love! ❤ I would interpret his response to mean "I am definitely open to the idea of having sex with you as long as you're okay with me traveling and seeing other women as well." 3
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 No I don't consider it you "talking." I consider it you leaving a message. Yikes. The only thing worse then what you did would have been sending that via text message. You don't just come out with stuff like this. If you wanted this to work, you needed to wait until a time you were physically together. This is a conversation that demands subtext from non-verbal communication. You needed to be able to see his eyes & watch his body language. Your failure to do this makes me wonder about your interpersonal skills & ability to sustain a relationship. Perhaps he never stuck around because you never properly interacted with him IRL. Hiding behind a device is a bad beginning. I wish you peace & love too but to get either you will need to transition from virtual to real.
Tressugar Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 I don't get a good vibe from this scenario. I don't think you do either. Well at least he'll continue to be in and out your life. It's better than altogether not being in your life, right? Sometimes you have to accept things for what they are. Don't push the envelope.
preraph Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 He may be expecting a hookup now when he's in town, so you'll have to mediate that. Don't let him just show up and have sex with him. Tell him you want to get to know him better and get out and go do something. You can invite him if he doesn't invite you and then you pay for it since you got the ball rolling. Keep it simple, coffee, a drink, a sandwich.
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