Analeo711 Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Well it's official, I've just found out that my recent separation Well it's official, my relationship from my boyfriend of almost 2 yrs is permanently over. I found this out via his text msg last night after his refusal to contact me whatsoever for a good month before that. I broke up with him a month ago from now and I'm almost 8 months pregnant with his baby. The reason, you ask? I told his mother about his cocaine habit out of desperation to help him out. it's not as often but it affects me so bad when he does do it, even if it's not that frequent. He's since accused me of being spiteful and that I betrayed him and can no longer trust me. He did promise to stop by the time our baby was born but that night I panicked from seeing the state of him whilst on it and proceeded to tell his mother. I wasn't thinking about the repercussion. Funny enough I don't regret doing it but I am resentful that he has reacted this way even if I understand why he's so mad at me. He literally chucked all my stuff out of his house. I now live back with my mother but have managed to give her a cover story that my luggage is there to clear up the bedroom next to ours for decoration for a nursery. I am now in the process of declaring myself homeless so I could be given temporary accommodation from the council. We did have a strong bond but as it seems this situation has shattered that bond. I still love him and do want to work things out with him but he has told me he can't ever trust me again and that it is over between us. I am careful not to ask about his involvement to his baby as I don't want to push that excuse on him. I prefer to find out if he will be involved in due course. Has anyone been in this situation or similar?...Do you think he will forgive me in the end? I don't even know if he'll turn up for the birth. From what I know of his character, it's unthinkable that he wouldn't want to see his baby being born but yet I don't know really know now as he's changed towards me and I feel like because he seems to have turned his back on me, I don't feel like I know him anymore. Any advice?
Israfil Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Originally posted by Analeo711 I told his mother about his cocaine habit out of desperation to help him out. I am now in the process of declaring myself homeless so I could be given temporary accommodation from the council. Do you think he will forgive me in the end? Any advice? Silly Question: Shouldn't he be on his hands and knees begging you for your forgiveness for being a coke-head and leaving his partner when she is eight months pregant? Advice: Unless he does this and changes his ways, I suggest you keep yourself and your child as far away from him as possible. Also, get full guardianship of the child when she is born.
SoftDrink Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 i'm with israfil on this one. it sounds less like he dumped you and more like you dumped him, which is wise, given your condition and his unhealthy and dangerous habit.
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