act00 Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 I honestly can't say it would creep me out to get a random email from a guy I took interest in. Last names aren't usually shared when meeting someone new, at least on online dating, but if you exchange phone numbers, their Facebook may just end up on your "suggested friends" list, so pretty much there's a risk no matter what, and I think honesty about looking up to see if there's a way to contact her is fair enough. Of course I remember the white pages and looking people up if you knew their last name, so my thought process is a bit different. At this point, you have nothing to lose. It creeps her out and she doesn't respond. It creeps her out and she responds with a no-thank you. She is flattered but has a boyfriend. She is flattered and would like to go out with you. Just keep it light and short and professional. This is her work email.
lolablue17 Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 I have to say, if something like the above suggestion landed in my work inbox I'd be a little creeped out and very put off. Talk of destiny? Pictures of the days of the 2 random meetings? Pretty creepy and a bit stalkerish. Definitely not 'cute'. You might be very right. Maybe my ideas weren't good and they may not work. But at least these kind of things express some some level of honesty. All other approaches are: "I will post a post and will talk about it for hours, but when I talk to her I must pretend i'm indifferent, and make only just "casual" approach" like I don't care". It might work, but there is no honesty in it. I've learned that straight forward honesty attracts some girls, and rejects other girls. The second thing I've noticed is that honesty attracts the type of girls I like, and rejects the type of girls who like playing games, which i don't like. So honesty is a great filtering tool FOR ME. I'm familiar with lots of conversations between people who were just met. I know that many young people today adopt the "indifference" approach. They never seem to care and the other side will always line up with them with this natural apathy. I think they are miserable. That's my opinion.
Miss Spider Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 A man has done similar to me, and yes it was a little weird, but mostly WTF in general. Remarkable how they think it's creepy to ask you out in person, but doing stuff like this is cool
lolablue17 Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 A man has done similar to me, and yes it was a little weird, but mostly WTF in general. Remarkable how they think it's creepy to ask you out in person, but doing stuff like this is cool It's always better in person in my opinion.
todreaminblue Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 (edited) Yeah, they've got something this weekend but I'll be out of town...ugh. The next one probably will be in a month. Each event varies drastically in terms of popularity. Thanks for the responses everyone. Wish I didn't make this so frustrating. dont take it too heart and just follow your instincts next time....do email her some women dont class emails as stalkerish until they hit the 100 mark....turning up at a function though with an express purpose of running into her ...to me is more stalkerish ...you can choose to respond to a letter or not, you can even choose to hang up a phone or not and cut a conversation short..... but in a room with someone you arent interested in speaking to is awkward ......but thats me and i often do things backwards...as my mum likes to put it..i am special....smilin....lol...ahem.....do what your heart says.....everyone misses opportunities even if they dont know it.a higher power guides you to others if its meant to be.......and in that gradient of thought.... in reality you havent missed your opportunity yet..so nike has some good advice as well as rockin sneakers.......just do it.....deb Edited April 28, 2017 by todreaminblue
Chilli Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 (edited) Find her ph number and text her asking if she didn't mind you'd love to call , whens a good time. Or just call her , after tea or something, mid wk when you'll like catch her at home just doing nothing, l reckon a work email might be a bit much. ps, thank god you didn't rant off in your first post with the long stereo standard internet list a lot of guys put in their post of why she likes ya and all the signals . she played with her hair bla bla effg bla. So does my sister. But hey , good luck ,go get her , grin Edited April 28, 2017 by Chilli
Miss Peach Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 OP - You mention frequenting the event. Do you have any common connections at the event? That might be a way to tone down the stalker creep factor but still get in contact with her and get her number or pass on yours.
franticrobot13 Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 Honestly, I wouldn't be concerned if someone messaged me on social media in this situation, especially if she showed interest. I may be biased because I did the same thing — I was at happy hour with my coworkers and ended up striking a conversation with a guy, and I got his name, but ended up getting pulled away before I could give him my number. Long story short, I did some google-fu and ended up messaging him on Facebook because that seemed the least weird. Idk if this will help, but used one of those people search engines to find his profile because he had a really common name (basically John Smith). https://www.instantcheckmate.com/crimewire/post/depth-look-instant-checkmate/ I think you're fine messaging her. Give it a shot, OP!
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