CptCodi Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 She enjoys the attention and ego stroke. What should you do? Cut her off. Just lost my girlfriend of 4 and half years because of this; she started hanging out with this guy and because she was having more fun with him she dumped me and started dating him. She's high on the honey moon phase and the sparks are flying, while I'm hear left to lick my wounds and wonder where it all went wrong. @OP As someone who is currently going through this, let them deal with their issues. It's easy to pull someone away from someone else when their relationship is in a rough patch. If they can get past this, good for them, if not and they decide to break it off, that's when you can move in.
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2017 Posted May 18, 2017 Before we left college to go back to our homes, we got really close and spent every night out until 4 A.M together. She has told me that she likes me and if it wasn't for having boyfriend we would be dating. Now, two weeks out of college she has said how she only wants to be friends with me and nothing else because she can't give me anything else because she's not breaking up with her boyfriend. What should I do? You should enjoy your summer & forget about her. When school starts up again in the fall, look her up. If she's still with the BF walk away. She has repeatedly told you that she is not breaking up with him for you. Believe her! Have enough self respect to stop hanging around begging for table scraps. You have now asked this Q three times. The mods have combined all your threads. You have yet to get an answer encouraging you to continue down this path to no-where. Put your college education to use & make the intelligent decision. 2
Author jarob Posted May 19, 2017 Author Posted May 19, 2017 Just lost my girlfriend of 4 and half years because of this; she started hanging out with this guy and because she was having more fun with him she dumped me and started dating him. She's high on the honey moon phase and the sparks are flying, while I'm hear left to lick my wounds and wonder where it all went wrong. @OP As someone who is currently going through this, let them deal with their issues. It's easy to pull someone away from someone else when their relationship is in a rough patch. If they can get past this, good for them, if not and they decide to break it off, that's when you can move in. Sorry you are going through this. I'm not a homewrecker and don't plan on it. Everything has to happen organically and in the right time and in the right way.
Redhead14 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Her feelings didn't change. For some reason she was enjoying the attention of another man and gave her a little ego boost. What happened was she got a conscience and started focusing on what she has and decided it wasn't worth losing or that there is something that needs to be addressed in the current relationship and, perhaps, wants to do that. She realized maybe that something was lacking there and that she owed it to her boyfriend to talk to him and see if they can get that on track again. That is what people in long-term relationships should do rather than cheat on a partner. What should you do? Get in touch with your conscience and respect her decision.
anika99 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 She is depressed about things that have happened in her past.. I was there for her. I'm not trying to sound like an ass, but I am better looking and am going to have a brighter future than he will ever have. Around him, she is complacent, drinks a lot, and is bored. Telling us that she is bored and drinks too much around her boyfriend doesn't tell us anything about her boyfriend but it says a lot about her. It means that she is easily bored and that when she becomes bored she will turn to alcohol and getting attention from other men, because that's who she is on the inside and it has zero to do with her boyfriend. Her character flaws cannot be blamed on someone else. Telling us that you are better looking means nothing. If she would leave her boyfriend just because you are better looking then she is a shallow person who would also leave you because there's always another better looking person. Now why do you keep starting the same thread over and over again? I feel like you don't agree with the feedback you already received and you are going to keep posting the same thing over and over again until someone tells you what you want to hear. Most likely you want to hear that she totally loves you and that you should totally hang on and keep wasting your time and emotion on this woman who has played games with both you and her boyfriend because some day she will be your loyal girlfriend. That is a very unlikely outcome but you are free to hang onto the fantasy for as long as you need to. 1
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