mia251 Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now. I'm the worst person I know who gets paranoid over little things and tends to overthink a lot! It's a horrible trait. I wish I wasn't like that but I can't help it. I love my boyfriend and he loves me too but I always think and feel like it's too good to be true. He makes me so happy. I never saw him coming into my life which makes it even more special for me. Relationships and friendships have been crap for before him and my current friends. I lost my trust in many people of whom I thought were going to be in my life for a long time. In relationships, I've been used and discarded when not needed anymore. Especially at the start of my relationship and sometimes even now, I feel like my boyfriend may just decided he doesn't want anything to do with me or that he doesn't love me anymore. I'm scared. He knows that but it still scares me. I wouldn't know what to do if he ever finished with me. I've fallen hard and deep and I don't know if I ever could come back from it if he ever hurt me. I hate thinking about it and I really wish I could stop thinking about something my which may never happen.
TooRational Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 Hey mia, unfortunately I can't offer too much advice but just wanted to say that you're not alone, I'm the same way. So I'll be following the answers here with great interest! I think that in general any advice that applies to anxiety can help here because this is what it's about, excessive worrying. I myself have tried meditation a few times but have trouble sticking with it. From what I've read, consistent practice of meditation could help reduce anxiety.
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 Find a therapist who specializes in cognitive behavior therapy or at least read some books on it. You need to talk yourself out of this anxiety / doomsday scenarios.
Author mia251 Posted April 27, 2017 Author Posted April 27, 2017 I have really bad anxiety so I guess that's a factor in why I think like that
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 It's not a factor. Your anxiety is the main reason you think like this. Address it now or it will ruin every relationship you ever have & possibly send you to an early grave. Stress kills.
NTV Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 Would you want him to stay with you because you're scared and he feels bad or because he wants to be there?
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