oneinamillion93 Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 I friends with this guy for like 3 years already, I always feel like he has a thing for me but I never sure. Yesterday was my birthday and my friends they held a party for me at a night club. When we got drunk, at least me a little bit tipsy I don't know how but we started to dance with each other, crotch to crotch and arse to crotch. I don't even know whether if I was the one who intimidated the holding hands thing or him but we ended up interlocking fingers in the cab. I was kind of resting on his chest. Now I wanted to ask him if he like me. Straight to the point abd cut the chase. Should I?
GemmaUK Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 If it were me I wouldn't go straight in for the 'do you like me' Wait until there's a moment when he says something - teasing you or something like that and say 'Are you flirting with me Sir/Mr 'insert his surname'? Say it with a grin/smile. The reason for using 'sir or Mr xyz' is that that part of your sentence then becomes light hearted but also flirtatious. Make sure you can see his facial expression - to give you a read on however he replies.
Author oneinamillion93 Posted April 27, 2017 Author Posted April 27, 2017 (edited) If it were me I wouldn't go straight in for the 'do you like me' Wait until there's a moment when he says something - teasing you or something like that and say 'Are you flirting with me Sir/Mr 'insert his surname'? Say it with a grin/smile. The reason for using 'sir or Mr xyz' is that that part of your sentence then becomes light hearted but also flirtatious. Make sure you can see his facial expression - to give you a read on however he replies. The thing is I bailed him again and again already when he kind of asking me out before. Also I once stated that I would never date ones who is my friends so he's kind of having this mind set that I would never go for him. I also made out with the dj guy at that nightclub and I assumed he knew it. What should I do now? Edited April 27, 2017 by oneinamillion93
basil67 Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 The thing is I bailed him again and again already when he kind of asking me out before. Also I once stated that I would never date ones who is my friends so he's kind of having this mind set that I would never go for him. I also made out with the dj guy at that nightclub and I assumed he knew it. What should I do now? As I see it, you have two choices: 1. Forget about him and move on 2. Offer him a heartfelt apology for your previous blocking of him. Don't give excuses or reasons, just concede that you were stupid and made a mistake. Then ask him out. If he rejects you (which is quite likely) then go back to option one.
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 Because you have quasi rejected him before & then gave him mixed signals on your birthday you are the one who is going to have to fix this. Even if you point blank ask him if he likes you -- which is a bad idea, btw -- he won't want to give you a truthful answer. Based on your past behavior he would rightly fear you telling him to stop. Nobody wants to open themselves up to that kind of rejection AGAIN. Instead if your feelings have changed & you are now open to dating him, you need to tell him that. Take the risk out of it for him. I'd get him alone & say something like, I really had fun on my birthday. It got me thinking. Although I previously said that I don't want to lose you as a friend, I think maybe we should risk that because we could have something much better. What do you think? Ideally this will earn you a big smile & he'll lean in for a kiss. I'm sure you can figure it out from there.
CptInsano Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 To be perfectly honest I wouldn't consider you a possible match after all that history and back and forth. And yes, if you want to find out if there is still a chance, you will have to take the first step. But as a guy, I would be somewhat sceptic about any romantic relationship. 1
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