btssaidrun Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 Well, long story short. I was in a kind of Long Distance Relationship with a guy in Canada. We met whilst he was living in England, he moved back to Canada about 2 years after we met and he was hands down one of the nicest guys I've ever met and I regret pushing him away. He was seriously a dream guy for me. We confessed to each other before he left England. About a year or so goes by and I went through a really dark stage of depression and just pushed everyone away. I was off the Internet for maybe around 6 months. When I came back I wasn't really the same; a lot of the time I rarely had responses when before we could talk for hours on end without stopping. We spoke for a while after that, he said he understood, but in the end it sorta just... fizzled out. Now for the silly part; this was in 2015. I still think about him often. I messaged him last year in July (I spent a few weeks just building up courage to message him! ) to see how he was doing, but it had just faded again like he didn't want to talk, even as friends. He has a girlfriend now and I'm happy for him, but I just can't get over him. I really wish I could have enjoyable long nights again instead of cold lonely ones. I feel like such a huge jerk that shouldn't be upset because its their own fault, ya know? This whole thing probably sounds dumb, but I just needed to vent somewhere haha. It's been making me feel so down recently.
Telemachus Posted May 2, 2017 Posted May 2, 2017 I get it, but your relationship really ended when he crossed the Atlantic. Look at it this way - he prefers life and people present in three dimensions. To him, a tree is far more beautiful and interesting than a picture of a tree, or a description of that tree in typed text. I can't fault him for that, no matter what your personal qualities may be. You're likely 90-135 degrees longitude away from him, that's 6-9 time zones, and thousands of miles. He didn't move back to England. He didn't ask you to move to Canada to be with him. You didn't ask him to move to England to be with you. You didn't offer to move to Canada. People come into and out of our lives, and we into and out of theirs. It takes a long time to grow old friends, and most relationships whether romantic or platonic simply run their course. If it isn't mutual and reciprocal, and most of the time it isn't, then it ran its course. That's life. Although I sit here typing, I freely admit that life in person, in three dimensions, is far better than any online contact. There's nothing wrong with that - life is better when lived fully. Log off. Go out and play, and so will I.
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