kacey Posted April 26, 2017 Posted April 26, 2017 Bit of a long winded one hear right my boss has tried to get with my since I ever started working with him about 9 years ago, however this year we have started seeing each other and no one really nos. obviously we know each other inside and out to be honest there is a age gap which doesn't really bother me. now hes looking at buying a property of which he told me he would like me to move in so we can spend time together as at the minute its as and when due to him working and me working. so anyway last night he said he feels like hes being smothered and pressurized?? I don't no if this is like a man thing running a bit scared, even tho nothing has happened in the past hes always told me he loves me and he even went to speak to my mum to see if he could do anything to get me? he makes me mega happy, I'm just confused as to taking things slow? any advice apprieciated I keep thinking do I over text? am I saying things I shouldn't but its only because how serious hes come across to me?
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2017 Posted April 26, 2017 He spent 9 years chasing you. Then he got you & started talking about moving in together. Now he's running for the hills. He was only interested in the chase. Now that you are no longer a challenge he wants out. Next step -- as your boss he will start treating you differently at work & you will end up with a sexual harassment suit against him but no job & a lot of heart break. I can't tell you how to fix your relationship problems, but now while things are still relatively civil get a letter of recommendation from him & find yourself a new job. 3
Popsicle Posted April 26, 2017 Posted April 26, 2017 It was fun for him while he didn't have you. He was fueled by fantasy and mystery. Now that he has you, it's no longer fun for him. Now reality has set in and he's scared of being stuck with you forever. People like that can only have relationships that are fueled by fantasy and mystery, which is naturally abundant in the beginning. They can't transition into a normal, mature, deeper, and settled relationship like normal people do. They need the excitement or they fizzle, or worse, freak out and make some lame excuse, then bail.
Popsicle Posted April 26, 2017 Posted April 26, 2017 Btw, do you live with your mum? The age gap bothers some people too, but they won't admit it until too late (once feelings are involved and hearts can get broken).
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