foolinlove79 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Hi all. So ive not really dated for a long time because ive been in relationships. Where do people meet someone now? Ive been on online dating sites and just end up depressed. Everyone wants someone who is outgoing and confident and know what they want etc. Well Im an introvert and a home body. No idea where I am going to meet someone I night like and who would like me also. Thanks
CptInsano Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Let me see, where did I meet mine? - Public Transport - Work - School - Waiting Room - Private Party - Online Chat, including chat function in games The randomness of my list leads me to believe that it should be pretty much possible to meet women almost anywhere. I once met a very nice woman in an abandoned quarry in the middle of winter during a hike. She was one of the few people I saw that day, because I purposely tried to be alone.
Knix Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 You can still meet someone online, the key is transparency. Write on your profile you'd prefer a night in with a movie instead of out at the bars. (Something like that) There are plenty of women that are introverted too..just don't give up right away 1
Chilli Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) Me , l was married 20yrs and when we split my old life and people l knew went with it. So l know how you feel. l joined dates sites and just felt depressed too. Met a few nice girls but no one l'd normally go for. Though there was one girl , but she disappeared.... so date site. Started walking my dog on the beach and l was pretty surprised but l met a few people just doing that and it was a damn improvement on sitting on a computer. But no one l could make my mind up about, again. l couldn't do pubs and stuff, finances were pretty tight and l didn't feel like it on my own anyway,maybe l should've , dunno. Eventually oddly l met gf now in a divorce forum l was still in- so anything can happen l guess. lf we don't work out l hate the thought of being back out there again and trying to figure out where to start. Edited April 25, 2017 by Chilli
Chilli Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) You can still meet someone online, the key is transparency. Write on your profile you'd prefer a night in with a movie instead of out at the bars. (Something like that) There are plenty of women that are introverted too..just don't give up right away Always wondered about that when l was on them. All the girls seemed to all mostly be trying to make out how exiting and active they all were and keeping up with the jones's and trends. So it always gave me the impression if a guy was to say he was a home body or something he may as well give up on there. It was almost as if that would be a cardinal sin. Edited April 25, 2017 by Chilli 1
Popsicle Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Hi all. So ive not really dated for a long time because ive been in relationships. Where do people meet someone now? Ive been on online dating sites and just end up depressed. Everyone wants someone who is outgoing and confident and know what they want etc. Well Im an introvert and a home body. No idea where I am going to meet someone I night like and who would like me also. Thanks Firstly don't take it too seriously what people say in their profile. It's mostly jibberish so ignore it. I'm sure there are tons and TONS of introverts on there. They tend to gravitate towards the internet. 2
Knix Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 No not at all... it's not a scarcity issue, it's a sorting issue If people don't like that you're a homebody then they're not the one for you, right? We as a society always try to put on a false image in the hopes of attracting someone, but then they're attracted to that false image we ultimately can't live up to-- it's exhausting. And it's why most relationships fail after the initial honeymoon phase, when people starting getting real. If we were all just real and honest on there, sure we may get less matches, messages etc. but they will be BETTER matches and better conversations It's hard for introverts to go running on the beach and meeting new people. I wouldn't even consider myself an introvert, but when I take my dog to the dog park and a guy approaches me, I usually just let it go because I feel awkward! Give me a drink at a party and maybe things would be different Online dating is a great way to meet someone you may have never been able to meet in another way. That's why it's so important to be honest on those things, because you could potentially meet someone that's a great fit! 3
smackie9 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Through friends or coworkers, weddings, parties, outings with friends, join a club, participate in a charity, camping trips, take up a hobby that requires meeting new people, take a cooking class for singles, speed dating, mixers,etc. 1
kendahke Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 I just met mine on OLD, but it took me quite a while before he found me. Stomped a lot of toads. I live in an area where women outnumber men 5-1 in my age range, so yeah, it's slow going where I live. It could also be the area in which you live that's lending itself to the dearth of available men. For me, OLD was the easiest way to navigate the waters. 2
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Introverted homebody or not you do have to make an effort to find somebody. You can ask friends or family to fix you up. Try looking around a work (not your company per se but in the place where you have lunch or get your morning coffee). Get involved in industry related activities -- the chamber of commerce, the society for whatever it is you do, etc. Take or teach a class. Volunteer somewhere doing something you are passionate about; walk your neighborhood -- you get some exercise & sunshine & you don't know who you'll meet. Get involved with an alumni association for something you graduated from
avvril3000 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Maybe join a group, class or club associated with one of your hobbies, whether it be an art class, cooking class, wine tasting group, golf club, tennis club, etc etc... there are a lot of those things out there, where you can meet likeminded people.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 I am actually a homebody and when I see profiles listing 10 different sports and social activities, I move right along. If I saw a word "homebody" in a profile, I would be interested. 2
Chilli Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 Me too mostly ,love hangin out at home listening to music or with my women, both, renovating, anything. But when l filled out things l like there was a lot of stuff and l felt no different to most of the others but the thing is l only do a little bit of it, when l feel like it, mostly just now and then stuff. So if l contacted someone that didn't have much stuff in their page , on paper it was as if we were a bad match but l don't actually do all that much . For me l found it near impossible trying to get what l'm really about across bc yeah l do like a mix of stuff but it's just like, l can take or leave in the end.
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