Mkn1010 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Guys, some of you were nice enough to offer advice on my story of a guy I really liked but it ended after four dates with him texting me with "I'm not on your level relationship wise even though I thought I could be". Link below: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/619153-shy-anxious-smitten-he-hasn-t-kissed-me-after-4-dates-3.html Well...I randomly bumped into him, I saw him from across the street in the city and I incorrectly thought he was ignoring me when in fact he didn't see me. I worked this out when I messaged him and he said he definitely wouldn't have ignored me. He then asked me to have a chat with him after work that day, but I couldn't, so he said he's free the next day or any day after work for a "tea". I agreed to meet him as things were still very amicable and on the day he changed it to a drink at a bar. So we went for this drink and pretty much made chit chat for a couple of hours and then he walked me to my tram stop and waited with me until my tram arrived, hugged me goodbye and that was it. I should add that I was the one who called it a night when he said "what now?" I actually have no idea what the point of the catch up was...nor did I want to ask him as I think I would have come across as desperate for answers or something and the advice I got from friends was to play it extra cool to remind him why he liked me in the first place at the very beginning! He also hasn't reached out since. So I decided to message him saying something like it was good to hang out and it would be nice if we could see each other as friends as we seemingly get along. He replied saying that he agreed it was fun, and apologized that he's sometimes flat after work. So is this him trying to ensure that there are no hard feelings or something? I'm just confused that he really didn't say anything or try to explain his initial reason for ending things...nothing!! 1
Knix Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) Well remember, YOU were the one that ended it early which makes me think when he said "what now?" he was hoping for a hookup or something like that. I think he said that you two are on different levels because he's looking for a physical hookup type relationship, without actually telling you that. Sometimes nice guys can be players too-- not all players are bad guys trying to hurt you. It's better that he ends things rather than playing games, getting you in bed, and hurting you at the end of the day. Hope I helped, good luck! Edited April 25, 2017 by Knix
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