Impfinity Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 Hello, I recently I'm going through a break up I'll break it down exactly what happened 01. On Feb 19th, I started talking to a women she's 31 with two kids, I'm 34 no kids. 02. She mentioned she was in a relationship, I was like oh, we can be friends, I said can respect you since you have a man and we can stop talking (I'm respectful like that) (she got mad) 03. Mind you she met her boyfriend on www.meetme.com (he's in the military they never met) 04. So, I was like how do you have a feelings for a guy you never met. 05. So, I told her since you have a man, we can be friends 06. She would get mad 07. So, I went to see her to hang out as friends and she wanted more 08. On April 1st, she made it official 09. But, she still had a problem with talking to other guys, she had no disregard for my feelings or how I felt, she wouldn't tell these guys she's in a relationship. 10. Her best friend is a (a you know what, pardon my language) she has a baby daddy, is married, and is dating a guy in prison. 11. So, my ex-girlfriend would be like oh, I want to go the prison to see my "pen pal". 12. I told her how does make it look and we are in a relationship and you go see another guy in prison that's disrespectful. 13. Then on Easter weekend April 14, 15, 17 of 2017, we would talk every morning, regardless of if she was busy or not she would answer the phone "I'm busy", "I'll call you back", "or not answer" but yet she would tell me call me or text me more, I started doing that and became I was smothering her. 14. Fast forward to Easter Sunday April 16th, 2017, I was at her families house and a text message pop's up and the "message" is from someone called "my baby" and I told her, you are with me how come have you haven't changed it, she stated is it bugging you, I'm like yes, I kept it cordial because we were with her family. 15. So, we went to the movies and I told her we have to discuss this. 16. So, I dropped her off at home and I said do you have feelings for this guy? she goes yes, I simply walked off in calm manner but hurt. 17. I go why would you make it official if you had feelings for another guy? 18. She avoided the convo Sunday 19. So, Monday, April 17th, 2017, I drove to her job and gave her back everything she got me, she tried to talk to me, I walked away, she called me I ignored it. ( I didn't want no memories of her, because of hurt she caused me) 20. Then Tuesday, April 18th, 2017, I had her one of my snapchats, she went to see the guy in prison right after we broke up. 21. I Texted her confronted her about it, all she can say is we were broken up, that Tuesday night, I was heated as anyone would be. 22. I called her Thursday night, I was like I just want closure, if you had feelings for another guy, why would make it official and then we got off the phone and she texts me "You didn't help me manage my feelings", "I was like I was there for you all gave you time attention", and we "first started talking you claim I'm not gonna make you a priorty and you got mad", "I make you a priorty, you claim I smother you, you seek attention from other men" 23. Since April 17th, 2017, I've been the one reaching out to her 24. This weekend April 23rd and April 24th, I did not contact her 25. Today before I called her at 9:30am no answer April 24th, 2017 (No response to anything) 26. But, all last week all she said everything is my fault, basically putting the blame on me. 27. I'm the logical choice, I'm not out of state or nor in prison So, I'm asking what for help in what to do in this situation, in my mind I didn't do anything wrong, I met her friends, family, she met my family because I thought she wanted something real.
SoThatHappened Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 [laundry list of red flags about this girl] 27. I'm the logical choice, I'm not out of state or nor in prison Dude, this girl sounds completely toxic. Save yourself a lifetime of agony and cut her from your life completely. Shiza Manelli... run away before you knock her up. 2
springy Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 02. She mentioned she was in a relationship, I was like oh, we can be friends, I said can respect you since you have a man and we can stop talking (I'm respectful like that) (she got mad) This is where your convo should have ended... So, I'm asking what for help in what to do in this situation, in my mind I didn't do anything wrong, I met her friends, family, she met my family because I thought she wanted something real. She is jacked up. I didn't even need to go past point number 2. You should leave it be.
Redhead14 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 What you THOUGHT was going on between you and what she was showing you, are/were two different things. I'm the logical choice, I'm not out of state or nor in prison -- The logical choice???? Paleeze . . . You were the only "good enough for right now" choice. You were allowing yourself to be used for her entertainment/emotional tampon. I'm asking what for help in what to do in this situation -- This girl is a world of trouble, hurt and confusion. You weren't just dating her, you were dating all her pen pals, baby daddies and all the associated drama. Get real with yourself and set some higher standards and expectations for yourself. Raise the dating bar for yourself for crying out loud.
Zahara Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 You have so many red flags slapping you. Let her go and move on. Aim higher.
Author Impfinity Posted April 25, 2017 Author Posted April 25, 2017 You have so many red flags slapping you. Let her go and move on. Aim higher. The thing is, she's far from ghetto, has both her parents in her life, I just don't get it, ya' know.
Author Impfinity Posted April 25, 2017 Author Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) What you THOUGHT was going on between you and what she was showing you, are/were two different things. I'm the logical choice, I'm not out of state or nor in prison -- The logical choice???? Paleeze . . . You were the only "good enough for right now" choice. You were allowing yourself to be used for her entertainment/emotional tampon. I'm asking what for help in what to do in this situation -- This girl is a world of trouble, hurt and confusion. You weren't just dating her, you were dating all her pen pals, baby daddies and all the associated drama. Get real with yourself and set some higher standards and expectations for yourself. Raise the dating bar for yourself for crying out loud. From what she presented were my standards, loyal, hardworking, until I started noticing things, all that changed my opinions for her, her true self didn't show until Easter Sunday, when she thought I was not paying attention. Edited April 25, 2017 by Impfinity Correcting a word
springy Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) The thing is, she's far from ghetto, has both her parents in her life, I just don't get it, ya' know. What does that have to do with anything? She had a bf when you met her. When you became 'official' on april 1, was it alongside her internet boyfriend? It seems like she ran the entire show here, and you just followed along any and everything she wanted you to do. And here you are still chasing her. She has shown zero respect for you from the get-go. What's really going on here? She super hot or something? You talk about being logical choice? She is the logical 'run far away as fast as you can' choice. I think you should lose her number. She is NO GOOD. Edited April 25, 2017 by springy
Redhead14 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 From what she presented were my standards, loyal, hardworking, until I started noticing things, all that changed my opinions for her, her true self didn't show until Easter Sunday, when she thought I was not paying attention. This is why dating for a relationship is a process, not an event Be patient, manage emotions and expectations for a while. Have fun and as soon as it's not fun anymore -- hasta la vista baby.
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