Cat221133 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 A guy recently asked me to go get coffee with him so we can get to know each other since we will be working together. He made it sound like a work meeting like we will be discussing work and he will be offering me some advice on the work we will be doing. But, when I got to the coffee shop he said let's go to the park and we just talked about personal things there and later got lunch. We didn't at all talk about what he initially wanted to meet about - our work project. I do not think this was a date due to the fact that he told me he did not want a girlfriend many times. I thought we were just hanging out and found it a little out of the ordinary that we dd not talk about our work project. But, most of my friends insist that is was a date. Fast forward to a week or so later. I have another work project I needed to ask him about so we meet but this time he is really awkward and he's answers to my questions are really short and sort of rude. He has other things to do, but my ride is not there yet so he tells me to just go with him so I do - it is a little cold out so he gives me his jacket and tells me to put it on. We go to the library close by. He works on some of his work and I do the same. I then ask him a question if he hates me and if I did anything to upset him, but he says that he has a space bubble and I am walking too close to him (I was within arms length) so i apologies and distance myself from him. He then says that I'm nice and he does not hate me. A few minutes go by and my ride is still not there. He gets a little mad and asks why my ride is not there yet and I say that she was having car problems. He then asks me why I am acting so nonchalant about that. I tell him if he has other things to do he can leave, but he does not. My ride later picks me up. I am just really confused as to what is going on and needed some outside perspective/advice. Thank you.
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 Why did you need to leave the building to work on your work project? I have always worked on work projects in the office. You two have blurred some lines. Even if he was brusque, as long as it was professional there was no reason for you to have asked if he "hated you." The phrasing was immature. Asking if you did something to upset or offend him was OK. Just watch your word choices. I don't think this is a romance. I do thing it's a professional relationship with some fuzzy boundaries. Shore them up & do you work. Things should be fine. 2
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