Aadi122899 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 I've been dating this girl from past 4 months everything went pretty good love talks everything.. but these days I'm facing an issue over time let me tell you about yesterday she went to her relatives house So we didn't chat or text or met each other yesterday and i waited for her in my balcony After she came back i texted her good night she said she she's feeling sleepy and want to sleep so she can't chat today So i responded her with a good night and told her it's no problem we'll talk tomorrow today morning she texted me good morning and told that she couldn't sleep last night so she wants to sleep right now she gave me reason that she was With Watching movie with her sister... i again responded with a ok around 11:30 am she texted me and after 15 min of chat she said she wants to See a movie Alone so she can't talk with me right now and will text later .. around 9:00 pm i got a text from her We chatted then again she said She's feeling sleepy and went to bed at 10 .. so i want opinions about this matter am i thinking alot? or she's really not giving me enough time i don't know what to do
enddeck Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 Time to face facts my friend,she's done.People will always make time for what's important to them and she has made it clear that you are not important to her. She is not brave enough to tell you straight and your constant texting is coming across as clingy.Do not contact her unless she contacts you first or else send her a break up text. 1
Author Aadi122899 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Posted April 25, 2017 Today when i asked her why she's doing like this she replied That she is busy Too much that she is not able to text anyone have to be with her family all day long.. And told that she loves me but hardly she could make time for me Till 1 month cause she's busy but didn't told the reason... I don't know whether she's telling truth or lie ..
act00 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 Have you tried texting or calling earlier when it's not close to bed time? You probably do need to accept the fact she is no longer interested. But something to consider is that at this stage of a relationship, it's normal for things to slow down a little because people need to get back to their normal routines. You just can't keep up the high level of talk, text, and seeing each other that often occurs when a relationship is brand new. Maybe accept that she doesn't want to text a lot, every day, and instead focus on some quality time rather than frequency. The fact she has no time for you for a full month is not a good sign. Sorry. 1
Lovezen_30 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 I don't think she's interested. This is not how a decent girlfriend should act. Break it off so you can find someone who values spending time with you
smackie9 Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 So she wants to spend some time with her family and do a few things on her own....that's not a bad thing, that's a good thing. It's healthy to spend time apart for a few days to go do your own thing....give space to breathe. This sounds like an LDR...is it? or do you actually see each other physically? 2
kendahke Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 (edited) This one example just took place during the course of 18 hours. Your question makes it seem like this is a continuing thing that's been happening over the course of time. You can't go a day without hearing from her? She did spend time chatting with you, but she wanted to do other things with her time... and yes, she didn't manage it the way you expected her to, but she wasn't obligated to manage it to your satisfaction, truth be told. Don't be so clingy. Find something to occupy your time. Try making her miss you. Edited April 25, 2017 by kendahke 1
Author Aadi122899 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Posted April 25, 2017 This one example just took place during the course of 18 hours. Your question makes it seem like this is a continuing thing that's been happening over the course of time. You can't go a day without hearing from her? She did spend time chatting with you, but she wanted to do other things with her time... and yes, she didn't manage it the way you expected her to, but she wasn't obligated to manage it to your satisfaction, truth be told. Don't be so clingy. Find something to occupy your time. Try making her miss you. i guess you're right maybe i should give her some space to live being her boyfriend doesn't mean i own her life .. Although i want to spend time with her always.. I should respect her time spending with family.. I mean family is first priority for everyone thanks guys for ur help maybe it's okay sometimes to get some space and live life on our own manner thanks guys alot it really helped me to get out of my confusion
Author Aadi122899 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Posted April 25, 2017 So she wants to spend some time with her family and do a few things on her own....that's not a bad thing, that's a good thing. It's healthy to spend time apart for a few days to go do your own thing....give space to breathe. This sounds like an LDR...is it? or do you actually see each other physically? We do See each other daily... And it's not a LDR Our house are just 3-4 blocks away... But i got ur point thanks For the help
GemmaUK Posted April 25, 2017 Posted April 25, 2017 So wait..you see each other every day, you expect a call or two (?) every day and you expect texts whenever you're not with her? Man! Of course she needs space!! Not only does she need time with her family she needs time just for herself to kick back and relax! This is what she is trying to set boundaries for herself for and you're getting up het up over it. You need to start being considerate about another person's time and that it's valuable to them. Her free time is not all yours just because you're dating her. 2
Author Aadi122899 Posted April 27, 2017 Author Posted April 27, 2017 So wait..you see each other every day, you expect a call or two (?) every day and you expect texts whenever you're not with her? Man! Of course she needs space!! Not only does she need time with her family she needs time just for herself to kick back and relax! This is what she is trying to set boundaries for herself for and you're getting up het up over it. You need to start being considerate about another person's time and that it's valuable to them. Her free time is not all yours just because you're dating her. I don't expect a call but text message atleast once in a day to know whether she's ok or not and by seeing doesn't mean we talk we just look wave signals n all... Still i got ur point thanks
fromheart Posted April 27, 2017 Posted April 27, 2017 You have more of an emotional investment in this than here. Otherwise, it wouldn't have come to your attention. Take a step back from the relationship and spend some time doing your thing. Go out with your male friends, play some sport, catch up with people you haven't seen in a while. Give her the gift of missing you. If after sometime you still feel that she wants to connect less than you, you must let her go as the relationship will have lost its polarity. 1
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