Galanthus Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 (edited) Hello there lady's and gents, I would really like to know and try to understand this. I am working at a nightclub and there is my friend who is bald, darker skinned color a little bit taller than i am with tattoos. But i don't understand he always looks mad, not interested like he don't give a **** about the world and also being ice cold.. ge always gets the girls the look and stare at him... eye fu*k him... 2 girlsmfor examples keep staring atmhim, smiling, going to him talking.... being very nice to to him... i am always neutral, smiling, not trying to hard... to impress making jokes just normal. These girls will always look mad at me when i look for a second... and turn there heads... but the would look at him all day long... and he is so cold and not interested at all.. and they all want him... makes me sad i am average looking, dress nice, smell good, i am clean nothing helps.. tried changing my hair cut a lot of times lost a lot of weight i gained muscles have solid arms...look healthy... and still there like ugh i dont care about you we only want him So... i am the guy who they totally ignore... these 2 girls for example last time the want him soooo bad but totally ignore me... and dont smile at me and acting rude. This happens a lot and makes me mad... Same story with average looking girls... i am not looking for 10/10 but solid 6/7 and even these girls dont want me... But when i had a GF all girls want me????? ���� Why is this? Its not like i care about big breast or ass... just want a solid and normal looking girl. And then most girls complain about the fact that all guys are the same. Tried anything... nothing helps F it... Edited April 23, 2017 by Galanthus
preraph Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 it's always been that way, but it's true for men and women. I remember going out to bars and all the guys would be watching the same two hottest girls in the club out of the corner of their eye. The only time this changed was after the bar was closing and they'd start reaching for whoever looked drunkest. And if girls are looking for a guy and just not out having a good time with friends, they will probably do the same thing a lot of the time. Now, whey this big tattoo covered bald dude is getting the action, I have no idea, but apparently he's somebody's type, certainly not mine. But i still think you are probably also guilty of just watching the same girls and maybe overlooking any that might be coming to stand close to you or giving you an opportunity to step up and talk by being in the vicinity. Now, women don't all stare or do anything that obvious. They are more likely to get next to you standing up or at the bar and ignore you but hope that you'll notice them if they're in front of you some way. So keep your eye open for a woman who keeps crossing your path! 2
Ieris Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 Sometimes people are attracted to those who are unavailable, maybe it's the challenge or something??? Whereas those who are available may behave in a different manner and can look quite keen. A male friend said to me, he usually ignores the hot girl at the club because she is probably used to getting all the attention. What he does is talk to her less attractive friend and the hot girl is left baffled as to why he is paying attention to the friend and not her. This usually grabs their attention because he is behaving differently to all the other guys that want her. Fair to say by the end of the night, he leaves with the hot girl. 3
Author Galanthus Posted April 23, 2017 Author Posted April 23, 2017 Sometimes people are attracted to those who are unavailable, maybe it's the challenge or something??? Whereas those who are available may behave in a different manner and can look quite keen. A male friend said to me, he usually ignores the hot girl at the club because she is probably used to getting all the attention. What he does is talk to her less attractive friend and the hot girl is left baffled as to why he is paying attention to the friend and not her. This usually grabs their attention because he is behaving differently to all the other guys that want her. Fair to say by the end of the night, he leaves with the hot girl. No way! Have to try this out never thought like that before. Btw.. tell me how this is possible last time i went to Dublin 10 days... you wouldn't believe how much women look and stare.. and smile to me... from 10 girls 6 for sure... But in The Netherlands... maybe 1 in 20.. how is this possible?
smackie9 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 To be desirable is to be unavailable, or be undesirable.....because by nature what we can't have, we want more than ever. It's how our brains are wired. 1
basil67 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 No way! Have to try this out never thought like that before. Yeah....nah. Here I was thinking what an arsehat her friend is for using the unattractive women like this - and then I next read that you're thinking of trying it too. Is getting a girlfriend so important that you'd lose your integrity to achieve it? Or did you already have a low degree of integrity like this poster's friend?
Jammer25 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 Honestly, what do you expect from the bar/club scene? Not exactly a place where a lot of things make sense. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 When I used to go to clubs I would never go with the intention of meeting someone - but it's much more fun to take a glance at the hottie and see if you make eye contact than glance at the guy standing grinning inanely at anyone who looks at him. I'd have no idea what the guys were like at all but the last thing I wanted was to get homed in on by a guy, realise he wasn't at all my type and then spend the remainder of the night trying to get away from him. 1
Chilli Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 But it is funny. l get in certain moods sometimes , might last a few wks , pretty sure l must look as if l'm in a sh@t, can't be bothered with anything, get more looks than ever. l also use to shave my head sometimes, same , l thought l looked a bit too mean like that buttttttt, more looks than ever. Just for fun , try losing the mchappy face , see what u get. Apart from that , girls will be girls, boys will be boys , tis the way it is
Spring23 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 To be desirable is to be unavailable, or be undesirable.....because by nature what we can't have, we want more than ever. It's how our brains are wired. True enough. But when I went clubbing if there was a guy I wasn't attracted to he might have appeared unavailable but I wouldn't have noticed him to realize his unavailability. The club world is brutal. The best looking and or charismatic ppl get picked first. The others fade into the background. If you're not an outgoing, obviously attractive person then going to clubs might not be for you.
NTV Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 Dude. How often do you look at the hot girls and ignore the average looking ones? Usually clubs are so loud talking doesn't work. You have only looks and dance moves. That's the beauty and hypocrisy of clubs.
CptInsano Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 When I used to go to clubs I would never go with the intention of meeting someone - but it's much more fun to take a glance at the hottie and see if you make eye contact than glance at the guy standing grinning inanely at anyone who looks at him. I'd have no idea what the guys were like at all but the last thing I wanted was to get homed in on by a guy, realise he wasn't at all my type and then spend the remainder of the night trying to get away from him. Agreed. Women go to clubs to dance and have fun, men largely to in order to find a woman. That's when women excuse themselves to go to the bathroom and never return, or why the number she gives out is not her own. Thankfully there are plenty of other places. 1
Spring23 Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 then don't knock old because online is the only option then When did I knock OLD?
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