JDinis1 Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 Me and my ex are both 18. We dated for 1.5 years and then she broke up with me. She said she wasn't as enthusiastic about the relationship as in the begining, she said her feelings for me weren't the same. We broke up 3 weeks ago but went on a trip with a group of friends. She got drunk and made out with a guy at a party. I didn't know that until now( It s been two weeks). When I confronted her she said that meant nothing, that she thought about me the whole trip and the only way she found to have fun was to get drunk. I think she was very cruel but she says she still misses me thinks about me but is fine on her own. Is there a chance she'll come back? And if she does should I take her back despite she did that to me?
lickylicky47 Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 Hey bro, somewhat similar situation in some regards. I do believe her when she says that she misses you and all -she probably grew emotionally dependent on you throughout your relationship, especially considering the length. But that doesn't mean her thoughts are all great and clear. As obvious, she questioned her attraction and interest, that's why she broke up the relationship. The question is, do you want her back? Would it make you happy? Are you sure? If the answer is yes, I'd like her back, this is what I'd do: I'd disengage. Why do you think she lost interest? Were you clingy? Were you putting too much energy in the relationship for no return? Were you not trying as hard to be attractive Only you know the answers, but if I were you, I'd disengage and work on yourself. That's not hippy **** -if you disengage and get on with your life and make yourself as attractive as possible, she will notice. And she will be jealous of your happiness. And she will miss being with that attractive guy she used to date. That's what I'd do. 2
d0nnivain Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 Sorry. She is not coming back. You were her HS BF. She is moving on to the next phase of her life & it doesn't include you.
Author JDinis1 Posted April 24, 2017 Author Posted April 24, 2017 She says she lost interest because she stopped investing as much. We go to different schools but live in the same city so we saw each other 2 or 3 times a week. She studies a lot and thought she wasn' t giving me enough of her time. Right now I am focused on moving on and sort of healing. I won't try to contact her or get her back. If she changes her mind then she will contact me. I know she is moving on but even after all these weeks she still thinks about me a lot. What would it take for her to come back?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 24, 2017 Posted April 24, 2017 She says she lost interest because she stopped investing as much. We go to different schools but live in the same city so we saw each other 2 or 3 times a week. She studies a lot and thought she wasn' t giving me enough of her time. Right now I am focused on moving on and sort of healing. I won't try to contact her or get her back. If she changes her mind then she will contact me. I know she is moving on but even after all these weeks she still thinks about me a lot. What would it take for her to come back? That's not under your control. It would have to come from her, and it might never happen so it's not wise to even mull over it. If she stopped investing as much, it's because she lost interest, unfortunately. It's normal at your ages. You two had a decent run given how young you both are, but high school relationships don't generally last very long. Her kissing another guy indicates she's interested in seeing who else it out there. She is young and wants to explore.
Author JDinis1 Posted April 24, 2017 Author Posted April 24, 2017 I don't know if she is really that committed to try different things and explore. She got drunk and kissed that guy but she said she didn't make a big deal out of it as it was a moment to decompress. Plus she is not very sociable so I doubt she wants to see who else is out there. But you are right there's no point in mulling over her coming back so I will just not contact her and move on with my life. If she does come back I will think about it then.
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