KayteeB93 Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 Hi everyone! Just looking for advice as I'm really new to the dating scene. Anyway Ive met this really great guy and we've been on three dates so far. First date he came down to me as he lives 2 hours away and we had a drink on the beach and he paid for a nice meal. Second date I went to him and we spent the afternoon at the park, again a really lovely date. In between dates we speak daily via text but not all day, it's pretty consistent though. Anyway, Friday was our third date and it all went a bit pear shaped! This is the first date he's greeted me with a hug and we held hands while walking etc. We had a lovely time sat on the beach drinking wine and talking, cuddled up etc we were there for like 4 hours and at one point he went really quiet and I asked what was up, he said he was thinking what its like to fall in love which made me smile. First thing to **** up, we kept like moving to different spots and at one point I'd put my phone down and we moved like down the other side. Cue major panic and ten minus searching with his torch as it was on silent and face down. Luckily we found it and he walked me to the cab office and went to catch his train as he lives 2hrs away. As I get home I get a text and he's only gone and missed his last train. So I go to meet him (it's like 12am at this point) and we try and call round all the B&Bs but they're all full. Luckily my mum said he could sleep on the sofa but we had to wait for her to go to bed. Ended up having to walk around half dead for 2 hours, randomly stopping to sit down when we found a bench and have a rest. Finally we got back to mine and both crashed out on the sofa fully dressed he didnt try and engage in sex. He left at 6am when I woke him to catch his train. I text him at 9am when I woke again and said I hope he got home okay. Didn't hear from him so called at around 4pm. He eventually text at 8.30pm apologising saying he had a ****ty day with more money spent on trains and he needed a day to himself but he was glad I had a good day. I text back saying I was sorry he had a **** day and that I guessed he was not in the mood to talk so he could message me if he needed me. This morning he text me saying morning and saying yesterday he thinks he just needed his bed. We've not really spoken since as he said he'd message me after the football game. Anyway! I think im just worried that all the mess that happened has put him off or maybe he's just retreating into his man cave as it was quite an intense date and he's trying to figure stuff out. What do you think?
smackie9 Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 (edited) What do I think? You are over thinking things. The man got very little sleep and because of that he has a struggle of a day. He is decompressing from the day he had, give the guy a break....being clingy is not a good thing you know. Just go out with the girlies for some shopping or have a girls night out to give yourself a break. Going out and doing your own thing is a healthy way to keep your emotions in check. Edited April 23, 2017 by smackie9
Author KayteeB93 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Posted April 23, 2017 I know I overthink things, I've got anxiety which doesnt help! Luckily he knows about it and he was amazing. When we was out walking till 2am I kept getting nervous when we saw people and my grip on his hand would tighten and he would give it a swueeze. Then when we were asleep on the sofa I had one of my nightmares and he pulled me into his chest and woke me up and asked me if I was okay. Rather than mither him i'd rather ask on here to make sure its normal haha
d0nnivain Posted April 23, 2017 Posted April 23, 2017 It's fine. the only thing that will ruin it is you harping on it. He had a budget which was exceeded because he missed his train. He was tired. Period. Things will be OK when he gets his bearing back
Author KayteeB93 Posted April 24, 2017 Author Posted April 24, 2017 It's fine. the only thing that will ruin it is you harping on it. He had a budget which was exceeded because he missed his train. He was tired. Period. Things will be OK when he gets his bearing back thankyou for the reassurance, luckily I haven't commented on anything to him. Rather than that I came on here to try and alleviate my anxieties. I guess i'll just see if he asks me out again as that's the only thing i can do. He did message me today very breifly and we had a short conversation with one word responses from him in regard to him working and going to the gym. Just need to learn to take it how it comes and not overthink.
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