Unknownsld Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Ok, so I’m dating and living with my girlfriend. There is a lot to say, so I’m going to do it in cliffs instead of a long paragraph. -Living together -She puts her friends before me -Puts her job before me -Rarely spends any real time with me -Gets snippy with me over the littlest things -Constantly berates me over little things -Doesn’t like to talk to me when together -Will only give me little pecs on the lips unless she has been drinking a lot -Says I get to touchy feely in public like last night at the bar -We have not had sex in a month and rarely have sex anymore -First two weeks we had sex a lot -She leaves for work immediately after getting up -Comes home and usually goes straight to bed -Stays out late on a regular basis blaming it on work -Goes to clean this guy who she has slept with in the past’s house once a month because we need the money -Lives with me but doesn’t help pay the bills (still has her own place and is taking her time getting out of the lease)
Redhead14 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Don't know what's going on!!! You're in an unfulfilling, unbalanced and toxic relationship. Get out now. She's not a girlfriend, she's a parasite -- using you and doesn't love you. 2
BaileyB Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 And, your question is... My question, why do you stay with this woman if you are unhappy?
Titanll Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 You know what to do. Go take care of your business.
Author Unknownsld Posted April 22, 2017 Author Posted April 22, 2017 At times she makes me happy, at times she doesn't. It seems more often than not as of late she's made me unhappy. We had a good weekend vacation last weekend, things were pretty good and she didn't nag at me as much. Unless I attempted to help her and her mom clean up around the kitchen or made to much noise while she was trying to sleep. She told me this morning, she values her sleep and so should I. I've been considering breaking up with her but I also know that I'm not the most attractive guy both physically and personality wise and it really does suck being single and alone as I don't really have friends either. So I am also unsure if I want to break up with her because I know I'll be alone again. I've been considering keeping her around and just backing away and looking for someone new, then when I find someone breaking things off with her. I guess my question is, why could she not be wanting sex with me and is constantly the way she is with me? Could she be seeing someone else, could that affect how she treats me? Does she not really want to be with me?
Redhead14 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 At times she makes me happy, at times she doesn't. It seems more often than not as of late she's made me unhappy. We had a good weekend vacation last weekend, things were pretty good and she didn't nag at me as much. Unless I attempted to help her and her mom clean up around the kitchen or made to much noise while she was trying to sleep. She told me this morning, she values her sleep and so should I. I've been considering breaking up with her but I also know that I'm not the most attractive guy both physically and personality wise and it really does suck being single and alone as I don't really have friends either. So I am also unsure if I want to break up with her because I know I'll be alone again. I've been considering keeping her around and just backing away and looking for someone new, then when I find someone breaking things off with her. I guess my question is, why could she not be wanting sex with me and is constantly the way she is with me? Could she be seeing someone else, could that affect how she treats me? Does she not really want to be with me? She's taking you for granted. You are a convenience for her -- place to stay, eat and still doing everything she wants to do as if she were single. As for cleaning another man's house for money????? I think she's B Sing you. And, staying with someone because you are afraid of being alone is a really bad idea. I'd rather be alone than feel lonely while in a relationship. That's much worse. Does she not really want to be with me? -- She sure as h*ll isn't behaving the way a woman would when she's in love with a man. She's not making you a priority over ANYTHING. Kick her to the curb today before she sucks the life out of you. 1
SoThatHappened Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 We can only speculate answers to your questions... ...but Why stay with someone when you have that laundry list of viable complaints? Sheesh... get out of there.
kendahke Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Ok, so I’m dating and living with my girlfriend. There is a lot to say, so I’m going to do it in cliffs instead of a long paragraph. -Living together -She puts her friends before me -Puts her job before me -Rarely spends any real time with me -Gets snippy with me over the littlest things -Constantly berates me over little things -Doesn’t like to talk to me when together -Will only give me little pecs on the lips unless she has been drinking a lot -Says I get to touchy feely in public like last night at the bar -We have not had sex in a month and rarely have sex anymore -First two weeks we had sex a lot -She leaves for work immediately after getting up -Comes home and usually goes straight to bed -Stays out late on a regular basis blaming it on work -Goes to clean this guy who she has slept with in the past’s house once a month because we need the money -Lives with me but doesn’t help pay the bills (still has her own place and is taking her time getting out of the lease) Familiarity breeds contempt. Break up and put her out. She can go live at her place with that attitude. Find your spine and never allow anyone to treat you like this. No woman's sex is worth this kind of treatment. You can find a woman who treats you way better and is far better in bed than she is. 1
kendahke Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 I've been considering breaking up with her but I also know that I'm not the most attractive guy both physically and personality wise and it really does suck being single and alone as I don't really have friends either. So I am also unsure if I want to break up with her because I know I'll be alone again. It's far better to be alone and not be subjected to this level of contempt and disrespect. Surely you value yourself better than this? If you don't, that's why she's reiterating your feelings of your self worth to you. Get rid of her and learn to value yourself better than you do. I've been considering keeping her around and just backing away and looking for someone new, then when I find someone breaking things off with her. Why debase yourself with this kind of behavior? Get rid of her and find someone new. As long as you're dealing with her, girls who are worth your while are going to pick up on your "still attached and can't let go" vibe and avoid you like the plague. You need to have clean, clear energy in order to attract someone with clean, clear energy. I guess my question is, why could she not be wanting sex with me and is constantly the way she is with me? Could she be seeing someone else, could that affect how she treats me? Does she not really want to be with me? My guess is is that she's doing more with her ex than cleaning his house... and that's why she's behaving the way she is. No behavior happens in a vacuum. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
KBob Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 You're letting a woman walk all over you. She's leeching off of you while having sex with someone else. You need to man up and take control of your situation by ditching this horrible woman. She most likely won't go quietly, but be strong and toss her a** to the street.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Don't go looking for someone else while you two are still together. Break up with her. Get her out of your house. Then begin the search for a partner who actually likes you. 1
smackie9 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 She wants this to be over...breakup already....that is what she wants but she just doesn't have the guts to do it......the writing is ON THE WALL!
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