Rabbitman Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Girl I was talking to who formerly showed interest started seeing someone else. I ended up going on a date and updating my snapchat story two days ago to show it. She commented and started asking questions about if she was from our school and stuff. Shes been messaging me just like before when she used to flirt with me (minus the flirting). She also sent a random picture out to her friends (me included) of him buying her some drinks/candy today. Not sure why even include me in that but whatever. I noticed like a week ago she sent me a picture of grilled cheese, and on this anonymous school app which she 100% knows I use, she posted the same picture with a caption that "read bad sex but good grilled cheese". Almost like she wanted me to see it. She started messaging me a bunch after this too, but I didn't say anything. Part of the reason I decided to start dating other people was to get her off my mind. Sorry I am just bad with girls in general, just need some advice.
act00 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 The GAMES! She's putting her new boyfriend in your face. She both wants you to know she's taken, but she wants you to be jealous. She's jealous. She's unhappy you're not continuing to sniff after her while she is taken. She doesn't like that you have moved on. You posted your new girl on snapchat (I'm assuming), and I don't know if you shared this with her, but she did the same. You two are now playing this little game. Look at me! I have someone else! She may also be trying to maintain this "friendzone" phenomenon, but she likes to know that you still want her, and she doesn't like that you are seeking other women. Are y'all in high school? Is sex an appropriate topic on a school app?
Author Rabbitman Posted April 22, 2017 Author Posted April 22, 2017 (edited) anonymous university app people post random stuff on. I never sent it directly to her i posted it as a story. Any of your friends can view it. She was flirting with me like crazy a few months back but I held back thinking it would be smart to wait for a date, and I didn't flirt back as much as I should have. I kept it subtle like she did. So I guess she friendzoned me. She was already talking to him before the "date". I messed up the date pretty bad tho and scared her off. In the picture she sent out the caption read something like "when the boy gets you stuff when your stressing for exams" Edited April 22, 2017 by Rabbitman
act00 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 Hockey girl. I don't really remember the details of that post, but there seems to be some serious confusion over this girl and what she wants. She runs hot/cold in her flirtation and interest level. I don't know why there is so much difficulty around a date or whether or not it's a date. I don't know what it means to "try too hard" to date her. With this level of confusion, I'm saying this one is not worth the personal turmoil, time, or effort. You are in a smorgasbord of women and social opportunity. Focus on your studies the social aspect with study groups and extended friends and parties that come about, and you'll meet lots of women, and maybe one who is a bit more confident and focused and doesn't send mixed signals. She has her guy now, and he's probably confused as hell right now too. How do you think he felt when he read her "bad sex, great grilled cheese" comment. Do you want to be with someone who would say something like that?
smackie9 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 She liked the attention from you BUT wasn't THAT into you....it's a case of desiring more what we can't have...but when we do get it, we don't want it as much if at all....the novelty wears off. Just ignore her and carry on with dating other girls. She's just wasting your time.
Author Rabbitman Posted April 22, 2017 Author Posted April 22, 2017 (edited) Yeah she probably didn't send that picture to him, so he wouldn't know its her on the App haha. Thanks for the replies both of you. She probably can't be too into him as well with some of the stuff she post. Weird. I guess I was just confused as to why when she originally started talking to him, she would barely respond to me if I ever asked anything school related. Also she would talk to me but try not to look at me in person. Then she posted that stuff on the App and she was the one messaging me again. I thought maybe second thoughts, who knows. Edited April 22, 2017 by Rabbitman
phineas Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 me? I tried super hard. Probably too hard to date her. I wasn't ever playing haha. She only ever mentioned him as a friend once or twice. We used to sit next to each other in class and Id notice her being super antsy like she was always playing with her hair, moving her feet/hands. She kept looking at my mouth non stop when we spoke. I kinda came on way too strong randomly at a hockey game without making it super clear it was a date. So she took it all back and acted like we were just friends. Even tho we both basically admited we'd date each other. I figured taking her somewhere would be "date". I am not very smart sometimes haha. IF she was into you and flirting with you like you say than you would have to do something extremely cringe-worthy to scare her off. the simple fact is you were a free easy source of attention. if she wanted you, she'd try to make it happen. 1
Author Rabbitman Posted April 22, 2017 Author Posted April 22, 2017 (edited) IF she was into you and flirting with you like you say than you would have to do something extremely cringe-worthy to scare her off. the simple fact is you were a free easy source of attention. if she wanted you, she'd try to make it happen. I did. Brought her took a hockey game and tried to get a pic a few times. I thought she was kidding by the way she was acting at first, so I played along. I also tried putting my arm around her later. I drank a beer and was just acting stupid. No way to really recover from that one I guess. I tried explaining that I didn't mean anything bad, I legitimately was kidding around. The beer didn't help though. I mean she would tell me shes a bad girl. When we sit and work on assignments she would always say we should work on her laptop together (which made us sit closer). She kept sending little flirty/sexual memes over snapchat. During around/valentines when I originally asked her out she was sending hearts and stuff. There was a lot more. Like I said in a previous post, anytime I made any physical contact with her she seemed fine. I touched her on the shoulder once to ask a question and she started giggling and had trouble to speak. I sat off to her right in class so sometimes when I'd leave id put my hand on her back and lean in and say bye, and she would always text me right after. Right before the "game" we were studying and she kept bumping her leg into me. I don't know I guess I took these as hints that she might be okay with my arm around her. She has told me both on separate occasions recently that she isn't the type to even like holding hands with someone in public (random that she said this). She also said she hates pictures. Which is true since she literally has barely none on her Facebook. I messed up, but I acted out of character. I was nervous. I didn't want it to not feel like a date. I am not super experienced dating people. I tried explaining it to her but I think she thought I was bull****ting her. She gave me a chance to explain everything but I could tell she was bsing me to make me go away. I couldn't really say what I wanted since I felt like crap. When she was talking to both of us, she never brought up him ever. Mentioned hanging out a few times but we were always busy on days when we asked each other. She was definitely talking to me way more than him though since we were #1 friends on snapchat for like 2 weeks prior to the game. Like you guys said though, she chose him over me, regardless if I messed up and her friends told her to not talk to me. Still sucks. Edited April 22, 2017 by Rabbitman
phineas Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 I did. Brought her took a hockey game and tried to get a pic a few times. I thought she was kidding by the way she was acting at first, so I played along. I also tried putting my arm around her later. I drank a beer and was just acting stupid. No way to really recover from that one I guess. I tried explaining that I didn't mean anything bad, I legitimately was kidding around. The beer didn't help though. I mean she would tell me shes a bad girl. When we sit and work on assignments she would always say we should work on her laptop together (which made us sit closer). She kept sending little flirty/sexual memes over snapchat. During around/valentines when I originally asked her out she was sending hearts and stuff. There was a lot more. Like I said in a previous post, anytime I made any physical contact with her she seemed fine. I touched her on the shoulder once to ask a question and she started giggling and had trouble to speak. I sat off to her right in class so sometimes when I'd leave id put my hand on her back and lean in and say bye, and she would always text me right after. Right before the "game" we were studying and she kept bumping her leg into me. I don't know I guess I took these as hints that she might be okay with my arm around her. She has told me both on separate occasions recently that she isn't the type to even like holding hands with someone in public (random that she said this). She also said she hates pictures. Which is true since she literally has barely none on her Facebook. I messed up, but I acted out of character. I was nervous. I didn't want it to not feel like a date. I am not super experienced dating people. I tried explaining it to her but I think she thought I was bull****ting her. She gave me a chance to explain everything but I could tell she was bsing me to make me go away. I couldn't really say what I wanted since I felt like crap. When she was talking to both of us, she never brought up him ever. Mentioned hanging out a few times but we were always busy on days when we asked each other. She was definitely talking to me way more than him though since we were #1 friends on snapchat for like 2 weeks prior to the game. Like you guys said though, she chose him over me, regardless if I messed up and her friends told her to not talk to me. Still sucks. You are not listening. You tried to put your arm around her after she flirted with you hard. She didn't like it. everything you said you did is a non-issue with a woman who is actively flirting with you and attracted to you. That means she didn't want you. She just wanted your attention. i always go for the kiss on a first date. Whether she kisses or not if she is into me she will go on a second date. I suggest you stop obsessing about what you did wrong and just accept you got chumped by a woman who loves male attention. Move on and find another woman. 4
Author Rabbitman Posted April 22, 2017 Author Posted April 22, 2017 You are not listening. You tried to put your arm around her after she flirted with you hard. She didn't like it. everything you said you did is a non-issue with a woman who is actively flirting with you and attracted to you. That means she didn't want you. She just wanted your attention. i always go for the kiss on a first date. Whether she kisses or not if she is into me she will go on a second date. I suggest you stop obsessing about what you did wrong and just accept you got chumped by a woman who loves male attention. Move on and find another woman. You might be right. I am seeing another girl, I just couldn't help to think. Thanks for your opinion. 1
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