resolvinghiddenissue Posted April 21, 2017 Posted April 21, 2017 I'm a 25 year old university student who seems to have issues with an old friend. I was 17 when I met her, and we became friends despite how shy she was. We used to have lunch quite a bit and she reminded me of an old friend who had moved away. So I thought that I would have asked her out to a dance, which little did I know would have gotten her to want me to be her first boyfriend. The way she approached that really caught me off guard and I turned her down to try and recollect myself. I felt bad because I could see it in her face how badly it hurt her, but I had no idea what this girl had next in store for me. I ended up transferring to a different high school and started to get word from my old high school of various rumors spreading about me. At the time I couldn't place two and two and realize it was her doing it, so I just mainly ignored it. It wasn't until a mutual friend of ours told me that she was going around spreading lies that I was stalking her and that she keeps turning me down despite the fact that I no longer went to that school. I tried to get a hold of her on MySpace, but to no avail. It wasn't until my first year of college until I got my chance of speaking to her again. Long story short she didn't want to talk about it period, telling me she just can't and that when I disappear completely it will help her. She told me that she thought I wasn't a real friend of hers and to leave her alone. To avoid making things awkward I didn't tell her that I was caught off guard, that I have dated friends before but by not telling her, it blew in my face and when I said I just wanted to patch things up, she left crying, which almost got me into trouble with a teacher there at that college. Nonetheless, I decided to say f**k it and do my best to move on. The problem is I haven't talked to her, haven't looked at her etc for YEARS now, and things haven't changed. She makes it known that she knows when I'm close by, by either glaring at me, telling her friends when she's in a group that I'm close by, by moaning, or by me catching her looking at me. She's even trash talked in front of me talking to other female friends that the girls I dated were ugly and she couldn't understand why I'm with them. She's either engaged now, or married (saw her with a ring) and instead of dropping it, she still acts this way. We're both now 25, both involved with people (I been with the same girl for 4 years now) and this girl just won't let up. I don't know what to do. I mean the guy she's with isn't even bad looking, he's taller than I am and has fairly nice eyes, and instead of focusing on her beau, she doesn't. In fact she's got him glaring at me too! Anyways, if anyone has any advice to give to me on what I should do, please tell me. I just don't want her to ruin my current relationship which has been going strong for awhile now.
act00 Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 How is it that you still run into her constantly? University is a big place. Do you have the same circle of friends? Personally, I would just avoid her whenever I could. If you know she eats at X, go to Y instead. Outside of that, just live your life. Only engage when you have to, like she comes up to a group you're speaking with, politely say hello, and then excuse yourself, bathroom, refresh your drink, Bob just walked in and you want to say hi, etc. Be the bigger person. People who trash-talk like that (really? Old so-called ugly girlfriends?) don't go over well with mature adults. It's really off-putting. What? Are you still in high school? Grow up. If you still run in the same circles, they all seem a bit immature, and perhaps it's time to expand your horizons and find new friends and activities that don't keep you running into her. I'm having a hard time understanding how you still constantly see her. 1
OatsAndHall Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Just laugh and think about all of the energy she is wasting by being petty. I have a hard time when people trash me to their buddies sometimes but a) they only really care enough to listen and gossip about it and b) they'll get tired of the broken record after awhile and realize that this girl is just being a child.
Gaeta Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Imagine her entourage jave been listenning to her rambling for 8 years. They must be so fed up. I'm sure by now it's know she suffers from some mental pathology. Ignore her. If she attack your character on social media sue her
mikeylo Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 8 years is a long time. Haven't either of you grown yet ?
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