redwildberries Posted April 21, 2017 Posted April 21, 2017 this takes place in a traffic light, this happens for the past 3 months till now I'm still seeing her, I noticed this only girl stares at me without smiling from a distance not far sometimes she flips her hair when I'm around, I've checked behind me there's no one only me, I'm being paranoid and worried in the same time, does she likes me? I dress normally not that very fashionable, I would like to know before I make the move somehow.
Telemachus Posted April 21, 2017 Posted April 21, 2017 The word "paranoid" does not fit. The situation you describe has nothing to do with paranoia. People stare for all sorts of reasons, not necessarily because they find you attractive. People smile or don't smile for all sorts of reasons, again not necessarily having anything to do with attraction. If you mean that you're both driving separate cars (at a traffic light), there's no move to be made. Stay in your car and enjoy the flirtation or expression of interest, if that's what it is. You could get out and hand her a piece of paper with your phone number on it, but if she's staring because you have the oddest ears she's ever seen or because you always have some of your breakfast stuck to your chin, it'll seem both awkward and creepy to her. Regarding smiling, people who are self conscious of their teeth tend not to smile as much as others. Victoria Beckham is generally considered to be exceptionally attractive, but you'll almost never see a picture of her smiling. Why? Because she doesn't like the way her teeth look, and that's why she doesn't smile. A recent study found that drivers, particularly in the morning, or their ways to work have these attractions/crushes on total strangers very commonly. It isn't just while driving, but also in airports, at subway stations, etc., but usually in the morning before work. It turns out that the reason that it seems to happen far more before work than in other parts of the day is that we're most confident about our appearance in the morning. We're more likely to express interest, flirt, or make eye contact with strangers we find attractive, when we know we're clean, smell good, have our hair just the way we like, and are well dressed - that's usually in the morning before work.
GemmaUK Posted April 21, 2017 Posted April 21, 2017 I look drivers in the eye at crossings to see if they are paying attention and if it's safe to cross. Sometimes even on a TL it's not safe. Many folk drive right through or set off before they should. If you happen to be a walker too then I often make eye contact with walkers - most of us are usually fairly alone so I want to know who I am nearby is not a nut.
act00 Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 First of all, hair flipping or playing with hair is not necessarily flirtatious. It just bugs us sometimes. And it's hot outside. Are you walking or driving? Is she walking or driving? Staring? I don't know, there's always that awkwardness sometimes when you don't know if you should exchange a hello while you pass or just look ahead and ignore. I don't know how she's staring at you. Are you walking towards each other as you pass? Is she staring at you as she stands at the light at the crosswalk every day and you're driving? Do you find it odd that you see the same person every day, on the corner, staring? Because outside of work, I rarely see the same person every single day. Are you standing at the corner, and she's in the car, staring? How do you know she's staring at you? It would be quite the strange coincidence that a person would be in the car next to me at the intersection every single day...and then staring would positively creep me out. I'm having a hard time picturing the scenario.
chphan Posted April 22, 2017 Posted April 22, 2017 this takes place in a traffic light, this happens for the past 3 months till now I'm still seeing her, I noticed this only girl stares at me without smiling from a distance not far sometimes she flips her hair when I'm around, I've checked behind me there's no one only me, I'm being paranoid and worried in the same time, does she likes me? I dress normally not that very fashionable, I would like to know before I make the move somehow. LOL. Seems to me you are hoping there is something there because you are the one into her and noticing her. Maybe she is staring at you for the wrong reason. Ever thought of that? LOL
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