Girl at work

[vyacc1]

So i like a girl at work. About a year ago i asked her out and she said she does not date co workers. I left it at that. Recently she has been coming by to see me and chat. So after a couple of weeks of this, i sent her an email asking her out again. No reply. Well then she sees me in the hallway and says hey i still need to reply to that email and winks. Couple days go by nothing. I see her in front of coworkers and it is friendly but i cant bring up asking her out in front of them, so later in the day i email again no response. Ladies what the hell do i do here? Everyone tells me she is onlt looking for mr right, and only wants a serious relationship, i want to try with her, but she wont give me a chance.

[d0nnivain]

She still doesn't want to date co-workers. She probably likes you but that rule is in place in her life for a reason.

 

 

If this is a job -- something you are doing in school before you real career begins -- you can try to talk to her about bending that rule for you. But if this is your career -- the paycheck, the one that covers rent & allows you to have a life -- leave her alone. Do not ask again until you no longer work together.

 

That said, never ever ask somebody out via e-mail. I'd say no on principle simply because the mechanism was awful.

[preraph]

She wasn't coming on to you. She just got comfortable that you were over being rejected by her and was being just friendly, but now you've crossed the line by asking her out again after she said no and that she doesn't date coworkers. I wouldn't ever ask her out again, even if one of you quits. My feeling is she certainly knows you want her, so she knows where to find you should she leave the job and want to go out.

 

I don't believe she has interest in you because I think if she did she'd have hinted that she liked you too and said something like "Maybe someday when we're not working together." But she didn't, so I think it was just a rejection.

Please realize what her limited options are since you are a coworker and she has to see you and her job is at stake. She doesn't have the luxury of saying anything like, No, I'm not interested, or anything blunt and truthful. She has to candycoat it AND she has to be nice to you because you are a coworker.

 

 

Sorry. Refocus and forget about her unless she contacts you and asks you out.

Edited April 20, 2017 by preraph

[vyacc1]

Thank you for the replies! Everytime i get a response on one of these forums the exact opposite happens! So i am in! If you guys were like man she really likes you secretly then i know i was screwed. I asked a similar question years ago and got multiple negative responses from all the bitter people that frequent these sites promoting negative, and for everyone else they are wrong. The last girl turned out to bet wife, she passed, but she was the love of my life. My point is these hacks that respond to this stuff frequent these sites because they are bitter from there own life. Happy people dont come on these sites!

[d0nnivain]

Thank you for the replies! Everytime i get a response on one of these forums the exact opposite happens! So i am in! If you guys were like man she really likes you secretly then i know i was screwed. I asked a similar question years ago and got multiple negative responses from all the bitter people that frequent these sites promoting negative, and for everyone else they are wrong. The last girl turned out to bet wife, she passed, but she was the love of my life. My point is these hacks that respond to this stuff frequent these sites because they are bitter from there own life. Happy people dont come on these sites!

 

 

Gee. Thanks for the insults

 

 

I'm pretty happy in my life. Been married for 8+ years.

 

 

Do what you want. It's your life. But I am not an advocate of dating at work.

[preraph]

Yeah, you're welcome. Some people just don't like the truth.

[vyacc1]

Lol, so i come into work this morning to ser a note on my desk. I open it and it is from thr girl i like. She explains she has always had a strict separation from work and personal, but wants to meet up outside of work to see where it goes. Shr said sorry for the non replies, but she needed to think. More proof for all reading trust your heart, and stay positive. I came on this site because i was crushed once reading advice from these people and they were so wrong. Now once again wrong beyond wrong. God bless and stay positive

[d0nnivain]

Glad it's working out for you but be careful. What are you going to about work if things go south? You need a planned exit strategy just in case. Do not put yourself in a situation where you can get fired or sued for sexual harassment.

[preraph]

Yeah, right.

[vyacc1]

We are currently dating, things are great. There is no rule at work that we cant date, this was her personal rule. I am happy she broke it. Thanks for the replies.