Anybody else in a bad (or good) place for dating?

[normal person]

I've heard not much more than bad things about NYC dating-wise. Definitely not my list. I could never afford to live there anyway.

 

You'd need to define "bad." You'll have many more options here. You can easily go out with 2-3 people a week if you wanted. The issue is more that people are spoiled for choice and that think something better is always around the corner. And more often than not, it is. It's a competitive place with people always trying to outdo each other in every way. If you're a fighter who wants the best for yourself and to maximize your life experience, prioritizes successes, etc, there's no better place to be. If you're a person who's less type A, more into "taking it easy" and hoping things just fall into place rather than working incessantly to put them into place, it might not be the place for you.

 

That being said, there the most people here in North America in about as densely populated of an area as you can get. It's hard to go anywhere and not cross paths with someone interesting. Proximity and interaction are a distinct advantage over a lot of other places.

[Miss Spider]

NYC is exciting. You will never be bored here. The dating scene is definitely not good, but there are many attractive men so lots of eye candy. But if you move here, definitely take advantage. Go to all the museums, go to Broadway and off-Broadway shows, go to the parks, the wonderful restaurants, a Yankees or Mets game, etc. I was born and raised here and I'm constantly discovering new and exciting things to do here!

 

That's cool you were born and raised there, CC! I recall you saying you were from there. Why do you say the dating scene is not good? I have heard that it's easy to get dates but hard to get someone's attention? Or is that only for the men lol? I love all the museums!!! I have only been 2xand a very short time. I just love the diversity and how much there is to do there. I really wanna see more. Ty so much for the suggestions

[CarbonCopy]

That's cool you were born and raised there, CC! I recall you saying you were from there. Why do you say the dating scene is not good? I have heard that it's easy to get dates but hard to get someone's attention? Or is that only for the men lol? I love all the museums!!! I have only been 2xand a very short time. I just love the diversity and how much there is to do there. I really wanna see more. Ty so much for the suggestions

 

There are too many women and not enough men, lol. I'm also just over the business types that are abundant in the city. They're all the same. But yeah, I wouldn't say it's hard to meet someone, but someone that's serious and isn't looking to play around is difficult to find. But I don't go to the city to find men, I go to enjoy all the wonderful things it has to offer! It is expensive though.

[curiouslysearching]

I would bet the two of you have more dates than there are days in the

week......be easy on these unsuspecting dudes

[The_Thall_Man]

You'd need to define "bad." You'll have many more options here. You can easily go out with 2-3 people a week if you wanted. The issue is more that people are spoiled for choice and that think something better is always around the corner. And more often than not, it is. It's a competitive place with people always trying to outdo each other in every way. If you're a fighter who wants the best for yourself and to maximize your life experience, prioritizes successes, etc, there's no better place to be. If you're a person who's less type A, more into "taking it easy" and hoping things just fall into place rather than working incessantly to put them into place, it might not be the place for you.

 

That being said, there the most people here in North America in about as densely populated of an area as you can get. It's hard to go anywhere and not cross paths with someone interesting. Proximity and interaction are a distinct advantage over a lot of other places.

 

See, I'm not into the rat race and super "metro" definitions of what makes someone interesting or valuable. I likely wouldn't fit the NYC template. I'm more of an alternative/muso archetype, and my taste is more Suicide Girls than the Sex In The City tropes. NYC can keep 'em. I guess Williamsburg, Brooklyn might be a fit. Either way, too expensive and the weather sucks too much of the year.

Edited April 26, 2017 by The_Thall_Man