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littlesunfl0wer New Member

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my ex boyfriend and i have dated for less than 4 months, since December and we really hit things off ever since. Our relationship has been rocky. Ever since March 31st, I noticed a dramatic change in his behaviour. He recently told me that if he was becoming distant towards me, it's because of court and if he wanted to break up with me, he would be a man and do it to my face.. The same night he said all this to me, a close friend of his came back explaining to me he told all his friends he dumped me outside and how he couldn't be with someone whose one track minded meaning I can't multi task. From the 31st, until the 10th have been the worst days I've experienced. In that short time period, he went back and forth telling me that we didn't break up, then we are together back to saying we aren't a couple. Then he kept telling me he couldn't be in a relationship due to the court system of him getting joking custody of his daughter. Knowing me, I went along with whatever not knowing crap. I also found that he recently started lying to me. As long as we've been together, he just started lying. He told me he couldn't be in a relationship, right? Well, the same person who told

me he dumped me outside told me he was already in another relationship AFTER the fact that he told EVERYONE he knows he couldn't be in one. Not to mention he removed me as a friend on Facebook, & Snapchat, and cut all contact with me the day I paid for our cell phone bill with the money he didn't have!!! Stupid, naive me right? I haven't heard from him since the 10th so... The previous girls he dated and married one before me (yes, he got married at the age of 22!) ALL cheated on him, and used him for his money!! In his mind, he thought "I can cheat/lie to her so I won't have to feel this pain again." When no one else wanted to help him out, I was the only one there for him and this is how I get repaid?! I was nothing but loyal and committed to him! His roommate told me that he can't tell a grown "man" what to do, but what he did was WRONG, and all his little lies are catching up with him.

 

For those who think this is karma, what he did to me, will it come back around? I believe he will reap what he sow, 10x worse. I believe karma is starting to take course bc the day when he cut ties with me, he wrecked the front of his car right in front of my work place. Ironic huh? I would love to hear others opinions, thanks! And I apologise for the length.

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Maldives Established Member

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I dont think it's karma it's wether he can process his baggage from the past meaning that he can nor only heal but deal with that baggage. I know wat baggage can do i had trust issues wth being cheated on a no. Of times and then because I never dealt properly wth my baggage and trust issues I carried it into the next relationship wich then caused issues in that relationship for me if u know wat i mean. It's the fear u bring that's the baggage and that is wat im afraid it appears his done because of his past pain wich he hasn't properly healed from he's actin gv it out and afraid ur gonna do these actin me even tho u haven't done anything. A healthy perspective is wen one is a leading to recognise fear for reality in someone's behaviour he's appears to be the latter

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Maldives Established Member

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Sorry what I meant was he's thinking ur Gonna do what he's ex's did that's his baggage talking yes it'll bite hom on the arse if he doesn't learn from this

EmilyJane Established Member

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Look I don't believe in karma but from what I can observe, people who behave badly to others in relationships are never very happy people and people eventually get wise to them.

 

The best revenge you can have is being successful and happy in yourself and creating a great future for yourself without him. Focus on that.

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elaine567 Established Member

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I don't believe in "karma".

Bad things can happen to good people, bad things can happen to bad people.

It is often just down to luck or the lack of it.

 

BUT it seems to me that some people can avoid trouble with common sense and rational thought whilst others seem to career straight into trouble.

 

He sounds like trouble with a capital T, so why do you care what happens to him?

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Karma does exist but not in the sense that most people understand it.

 

For me Karma isn't always about getting what you deserve, it is about increasing the possibility of certain things happening depending on how you act/react/interact with the world. There is no mystical thing with Karma, if you do positive things then positive things are more likely to come your way BUT it is not a given they will.

 

I therefore believe Karma to be a personal thing. Why are you so concerned whether this person gets what they deserve? That is still a part of you holding onto bitterness and in effect that person is still living rent free inside your head. Don't get me wrong I am human as well and I find myself hoping that my cheating ex and her BF get what they deserve, but then I have to ask myself why it matters so much. It does not affect my day to day life because she/he is no longer a part of it and I have no desire to ever speak to either of them again.

 

Karma is about what YOU deserve and nothing else. Focus on increasing your probably of good things happening, be positive. A first step would be to try and let go of the bitterness (trust me I know how hard this is) and starting realising you are the captain of your own soul.

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OatsAndHall Established Member

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"Karma" is essentially nothing more than someone repeating their bad behavior until there are finally consequences for it. People like your ex will continue to make bad choices and treat people poorly until it eventually catches up to them.

 

I have posted about my stalker on several other threads but she is a good example. She continually showed up at my place drunk, in the middle of the night and I finally called it off with her because she wouldn't respect my boundaries. She tried to get into my house after I broke up with her and I ended up calling the cops twice. She bombarded me with nasty text and voice messages and I called the cops on her over that too. She started trashing me to anyone who would listen, including professional acquaintances. I ignored it and moved on.

 

I found out recently that she will now be serving some jail time and paying steep fines because she pulled the same stuff with her ex-husband and his girlfriend. She was on probation and got a DUI, then went to court for the stalking/harassment charges he and his girlfriend pressed against her and now she is reaping what she sowed. She may lose her nursing license because of the her actions as well.

 

I don't take any pleasure in her situation as I have been focusing on living a good life. But, facts are facts. She didn't learn her lesson the first time around and now she's screwed.

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Jopes Member

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People have to stop talking about karma like he is yours. Karma is not your call. Karma is the universes choice. The wishing ill things does pass and you will later stop caring about good or bad happening. The wishing karma passes as it shall. Its not our call to make.

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MountainGirl111 Established Member

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"What goes around, comes around". I've seen that happen so many times it's not even funny..BUT...it may not fully come around until years later. So, in the meantime, it's best for YOUR health not to rent out any more head space to this guy and live YOUR life to the fullest without him.

 

He's shown his true colors with dishonesty and being two-faced. So be done with him and let it all go. You will be so much happier and free when you let it go.

 

I try not to wish ill will on anyone because it takes valuable energy from me that I could be spending on more positive pursuits.

 

I don't know that it's karma per se, but most people simply have to live with the consequences of their choices and actions. BTDT and got many tee shrits!

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