She dumped me, and she updates her relationship status with another guy the same day.

[guppy111]

So, when my ex broke up with me, she vaguely just said "things have not been the same anymore, and I have been going through a lot recently". She deleted me on facebook, and wouldn't really communicate with me at all.

 

2 weeks later, I'm on her facebook profile and I look at some of the guys liking her photos. I look at his profile, and see his relationship status. He is in a relationship with my ex, since the same exact day she broke it off with me, according to his facebook status.

 

Now, I kept that to myself for a while. Couple of months go by, they break up. We start talking again. After a little argument, I lose my **** and tell her about how I know about how I know that she dumped me for this lad.

 

First thing she says "no I didn't leave you for xx wtf"

 

To which I respond with the facebook evidence, and how she was in a relationship with him since the same exact date she broke it off with me.

 

She then just says "Woah that's my personal life, and he cheated on me so I don't like talking about it"

 

After I tell her that I would fully forgive her for everything, and how I apologised for snooping around her facebook, she just says "I can't do this anymore. I can't trust you. Sorry"

 

So we said goodbye to eachother.

 

Now my question: Is there a possibility that I was wrong about the fact that she dumped me for this other fella?

[Jersey born raised]

No way you are wrong! Fact: she can't own her own mess (per guidlines I use mess instead of other words). Bottom line a person with this flaw will fail their SO long term and cause incredible harm to them.

 

Going forward go NC. She will never accept this truth about her self. She will lash out violently to anyone who tries to either suggest it or demand she own it. Don't argue with drunken fools, simply move on at warp 8.

 

Finally facebook is a public forum, duh.

[Jersey born raised]

Actually your ex cracks me up, LMAO rolling in the floor. Years ago I was in court and a case came up with a guy who got a ticket for public urination. The judge hit him with a hefty fine to which the responded "hey what about my right to privacy". "can't a guy piss without people spying on him"? Judge hit him with 3 months in jail on the weekend for being an idiot.

[Chi townD]

Dude, you had every right to say what you said. She was cheating on you and you trusted her and didn't see the signs. She put more of a value on this other dude so much so that she kicked you to the curb to be with him.

 

So, you confront her about it and she says all the "benchmark" excuses cheaters use. Particularly, "I didn't leave you for this other guy." Uh huh....if you believe that then I have a bridge to sell you. Then she has the gall to say that she doesn't trust you?!?!?! Dude, this girl isn't worth your time. Everytime you start to miss her and want to talk to her. I want you to remember one thing, she cheated on you. Enough said.

[Sweetfish]

You can't possibly want her back

[soulforge]

Never Ever check there social media man... what you may find on there can Traumatise you..

 

 

this girl was more than likely cheating on you.. so block her on every level, do not snoop social media

 

 

focus on getting over this with pure NC

[teddyzain]

Yeah, don't even bother. Move on, she doesn't care and you shouldn't either. You're probably young, there will be many more. She is definitely in her early 20's no?** This is the time women have all the power. Guys are throwing themselves at them. Some will commit, others will want to sample the goods.

 

You got stuck with the latter. Unfortunately for women this dynamic is turned on its head once they get older and start to show it. Meanwhile if you're a guy and take care of yourself you will be in the sexually dominant position while she will have past her procreation best-buy date. "Believe me", this is a fundamental truth of life.***

 

Another one? Well, you know women's tits start to sag right? Well, no one told me, and of course this makes sense, by mid-30's your balls will start to sag. So make sure to wear boxer briefs, briefs/tightie whities and not boxers. You're welcome. ; )

 

**If she is not in her early 20's then just copy and paste this into an appropriate thread, it's all true.

 

***Sorry ladies not meant to be harsh.

Edited April 21, 2017 by teddyzain

[keiji]

She basically transferred the responsibility of her actions to you. Typical. She was obviously cheating on you, but life bit her in the ass and she got the same treatment from her new fairytale prince. She lied, you discovered it, and now you're the bad one for finding out the real reasons for the break up? Don't let her create doubts in you that simply shouldn't be there.

 

That said, from now on you should avoid her social media like the plague. And her too, of course.

[ExpatInItaly]

She's deflecting and projecting because she knows she's busted.

 

You weren't wrong on this, OP. Let her stay gone.

[MountainGirl111]

Lesson One: Stay away from their social media. I dislike Facebook for this very reason...you see things on there that you maybe shouldn't see and are not HELPFUL. What good did it do to find out she was with someone else already? Not one bit of good. Now, she's deflected responsibility, plan and simple. She doesn't know what the heck she wants and sounds like she will just be with whatever guy she can get at the time. Do you really want to be with that sort of person?

[Titanll]

I contend that anything on social medial is fair game for anyone that cares to read it. Her personal life, haha what a joke! It became god know's whose business the moment she posted anything on Freakbook. I'm not a fan of social media under most circumstances as you may be able to tell.

 

Guppy, become a Great White and forget this chicky.