Candace22 Posted April 19, 2017 Posted April 19, 2017 I've been living with my bf who is 33 and I'm 22 for 4 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for a year. Before I moved in, I quit my job. Now, I finally got a job a month ago after searching like hell. I now work at the job he recently got fired from. We've had hella ups and downs while living with each other. We got into an argument over me asking him why we haven't had sex lately. He blames me because we've got into arguments recently but he started some too. Those nights, we cuddle, played cards, and laugh with each other and he would tease me for sex but he didn't proceed. Normally when we argue, there are times when we don't speak. During those times, he would hum, mumble something under his breath, or laugh out loud at a video or something on TV. I would take a taxi to work and home sometimes because he would blast his music and rap to every verse just to annoy me. Lately, he has been calling me a b****. Crazy part about it is he never called me that until I moved in. I told him calling me that isn't love since he love me but then he said he don't. He yells that I don't run anything in his home which I never act like I did. And I never did anything in the household. Yet I'm the only one who cooks, clean , and do laundry. I understand that he's out of a job but he's been acting different. He doesn't show much attention since we've recently argue. I love him but I've been stressed, I skipped work one day because I couldn't sleep due to our arguments. He takes me to work and I offer him gas money sometimes. Ive brought groceries and other household products. Today I came home from an 8hr gig to him locking me outside of his home because we got into the same argument before I went to work. We have communication issues and trust issues that I've address that we need to work on. My confidence towards him sort of fade but I've been trying to communicate with him on our problems and concerns. He thinks every conversation is going to be an argument. I've been to the point I just want to quit this new job and move back to my town but im also losing a good paying job that I need at the moment.
salparadise Posted April 19, 2017 Posted April 19, 2017 No. It's the definition of dysfunctional relationship. Too broken to try to fix.
smackie9 Posted April 19, 2017 Posted April 19, 2017 Quit this relationship......this dude has turned out to be a dud. 1
CptInsano Posted April 19, 2017 Posted April 19, 2017 Maybe it's quicker to ask the inverse: What would motivate you to stay in this relationship?
PeanutMom Posted April 19, 2017 Posted April 19, 2017 No. Not worth it. And it's only going to get worse if you stick around and act like a doormat. He is immature and has no respect for you. Go back home and chalk it up to a learning experience.
Author Candace22 Posted April 19, 2017 Author Posted April 19, 2017 When I called off from work because I was tired. He got mad at me for not going yet he woke me up to get my stuff and go. Smh. I can't even say what motivate me. Love that I have towards him. But that is starting to fade. O cook for me and him and got no thank you. He must think I owe him an apology or something but I'm the one who should only be mad.
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