Space Ritual Posted May 17, 2017 Posted May 17, 2017 Dating: Enjoying each other's company, possibly hooking up and having sex and exploring compatibility. All lighthearted and casual. No strings, no expectations Relationship: The reason you end up on this subforum on Loveshack. 3
rainrhonda Posted May 24, 2017 Posted May 24, 2017 It's usually beginning stages of a potential relationship that may or may not develop. It's a getting to know you stage. In this case he didn't want it to go further. Some people only want to "date" with never intending get more serious, with anyone. They have their fun and then move on. It seems mean, feels bad but they have this right. They are likely seeking another person who is on the same page with this. It's actually a good thing if he isn't dating multiple people like this at the same time. That says he doesn't want to be serious but also not a jerk - based on your story alone, anyway. 1
Author shahjskalio Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 (edited) So I was dating a guy for 2 months and he did tell me he loves me and I felt it but he wouldn't commit. So I told him I can't talk to him anymore but he said he wanted to be friends. He said i do love you and see you different than other girls but I prefer to be single and have never been in a relationship. My question is if he actually does love me why does he prefer to be single? Doesn't that mean that he doesn't truly have feelings for me? Edited May 25, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 6 threads merged ~6
CptInsano Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 It's hard to know his exact reasons. Some people want their freedom (and sex on the side), others know that they don't do well in relationships based on their past experiences, and others just don't find the concept of a relationship appealing to begin with, because it turns their love into something mundane. So yes, I have seen that before, but for a number of reasons. 1
Imajerk17 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 (edited) You've already posted several threads about this guy OP, and his hot-n-cold behaviour. What answer are you expecting to get this time, that you didn't get in any of your other threads. Generally "I prefer to be single" means "I don't want to be in a relationship, with you". This seems to apply to your situation, where the guy you are dating tells you one thing but (going by your other threads which are relevant to the discussion) is still going out with other girls and so on. I mean, when a guy is truly into a girl, he doesn't play all these games and make it this hard. Sorry. Edited May 25, 2017 by Imajerk17 1
Author shahjskalio Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 Thanks for all your input guys! The thing is he's broke and doesn't have citizenship and has tourettes syndrome so I can understand that he's going through alot. I just told him that I understand and he said thanks you're so sweet. I haven't replied to that message yet. Should I just ignore the message and move on?
kendahke Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 So I was dating a guy for 2 months and he did tell me he loves me and I felt it but he wouldn't commit. So I told him I can't talk to him anymore but he said he wanted to be friends. He said i do love you and see you different than other girls but I prefer to be single and have never been in a relationship. My question is if he actually does love me why does he prefer to be single? Doesn't that mean that he doesn't truly have feelings for me? He may not want the obligation of relationship, so he prefers not to be in one. Doesn't mean he can't love you from a distance, be it emotional. 2
CptInsano Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Thanks for all your input guys! The thing is he's broke and doesn't have citizenship and has tourettes syndrome so I can understand that he's going through alot. I just told him that I understand and he said thanks you're so sweet. I haven't replied to that message yet. Should I just ignore the message and move on? Okay, those are a lot of issues on his side to deal with. But I would take him seriously in any case when he says he doesn't want a relationship, regardless of his reasons. I can't think of a scenario in which a man who is truly interested in a romantic relationship would say that. So unless you want him as a friend I would move on. 1
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