cosis Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 girl dumped me on sunday and already txt'ed me on wed. and emailed me friday, i thought she dumped me not the other way around?
SoftDrink Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 ignore her. texts and emails are bullshyt ways of contacting. see if she calls.
AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 even IF she calls... sorry but there are ALOT of ppl who play mind games out there...and contacting u via text, email or the phone is just a sick way to control u and f*ck ur mind up...
Author cosis Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 dont want her to call, just wish she would leave it as it is
Author cosis Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by AleroGurl even IF she calls... sorry but there are ALOT of ppl who play mind games out there...and contacting u via text, email or the phone is just a sick way to control u and f*ck ur mind up... if there ever was one she would be it........ she is surely insecure and just would be the type to make sure i was still sad over dumping me
AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 then dont let her do it!! im going thru that right now! my ex keeps making me feel guilty adn rubbing this new...THING in my face cuz he KNOWS its gonna make me cry and he knows its gonna make me mad...THEN he is all nice and sweet then BAM...mean jerk he turns into... you need to cut off all contact or...NC ...it wont get better until u do!! i try to be the bigger person with my ex, i just did today actually, and he twisted it around on me once i started crying and getting upset by saying im psycho, nuts, etc...he loves that i am sitting home crying over him and not going out with my friends like HE is doing... do not let her do that to you! if u want her to stop calling u or texting u, then tell her. call, email, text her adn tell her to leave u alone. ur tired of this immature bs, and u need it to stop now. tell her to lose all of ur contact info and move on with her life. u dotn need to be stressed over this girl. and yes ur right...she seems very insecure by what ur telling us...definitely not worth the drama!!
Author cosis Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by AleroGurl then dont let her do it!! im going thru that right now! my ex keeps making me feel guilty adn rubbing this new...THING in my face cuz he KNOWS its gonna make me cry and he knows its gonna make me mad...THEN he is all nice and sweet then BAM...mean jerk he turns into... you need to cut off all contact or...NC ...it wont get better until u do!! i try to be the bigger person with my ex, i just did today actually, and he twisted it around on me once i started crying and getting upset by saying im psycho, nuts, etc...he loves that i am sitting home crying over him and not going out with my friends like HE is doing... do not let her do that to you! if u want her to stop calling u or texting u, then tell her. call, email, text her adn tell her to leave u alone. ur tired of this immature bs, and u need it to stop now. tell her to lose all of ur contact info and move on with her life. u dotn need to be stressed over this girl. and yes ur right...she seems very insecure by what ur telling us...definitely not worth the drama!! right on! i would never listen to her talk about a new person in her life, if she ever tried trust me it would be her last time. Part of me just wants me to watch her make a fool out of herself so she can see how it feels to hurt like I did.
AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 omg that hilarious!! i say that about my ex too!! i would love it for him to get hurt like i did and see how he made me feel but yea. just tell her how it is. tell her to leave u alone, that u want nothing to do with her. its over. seh dumped you for prolly some stupid reason, so let her live with her desicion. you're better then she is and u kno it! and ur right...dont let her rub that crap in ur face. it doesnt feel good...trust me. im just a sucker for punishment at times i guess... ppl like her and him will never change. they will continue to play this sick little game for as long as they can. they dont have feelings. they let u believe that they do, but they dont. they like the control that they have over the one that loves them and use it to their advantage! you can do MUCH better then this girl. so jsut let her know that. let her know that ur gonan be fine and u dont wanan play her sick twisted little games anymore.
katty Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 My ex bf did the same thing to me, dumped me on a Saturday, called me the next day to tell me about a rumor about me circulating around. Then he called again on Tues, Thurs. Fri. and then Sat., now he doesn't call at all. He went all week without calling this week and its been worse with the NC, bc now I tend to think or obsess about his being completely over me. I still want him in my life, how screwed up is that. Best of luck to you.
AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 lol i hear ya katty!! im definitely with u on that one...the obsessing part is the worst!
Mary3 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Thats just lame. Ignore the ex....don't give the x the satisfaction of messing with your mind .
sanne Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 let's just say i've been there and done that numerous times with my ex. it's really all a game to see if they still have power and control over you. once you give in, they pull back away again. the only way for you to gain peace of mind is to just ignore everything and don't bother responding. if she was serious she'd come by to see you or something of that nature.
Author cosis Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by sanne let's just say i've been there and done that numerous times with my ex. it's really all a game to see if they still have power and control over you. once you give in, they pull back away again. the only way for you to gain peace of mind is to just ignore everything and don't bother responding. if she was serious she'd come by to see you or something of that nature. yeah i replied and said i was fine now just so she wouldnt have anymore power over me. I know in the long run she will try and get back with me, I am not trying to brag but she could never find anyone that holds a candle to me and I will be laughing when it happens.
Sal Paradise Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 I suggest not replying but if you do it again I suggest telling her something like this....... "Ya know I really want to thank you, the break up has been really great for me, I haven't been this happy in a while. I feel like ME again for the first time in ages. Being free to be with other people, new people, is exciting and extremely fulfilling. So yes, I am doing fine and I really appreciate what you did for me by setting me free. I can only imagine how happy you're now that you're free of the burden of being tied down to just one person."
thegame Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by Sal Paradise I suggest not replying but if you do it again I suggest telling her something like this....... "Ya know I really want to thank you, the break up has been really great for me, I haven't been this happy in a while. I feel like ME again for the first time in ages. Being free to be with other people, new people, is exciting and extremely fulfilling. So yes, I am doing fine and I really appreciate what you did for me by setting me free. I can only imagine how happy you're now that you're free of the burden of being tied down to just one person." thats a nice answer it also gets them thinking too
Author cosis Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 My reply just let her know she didn't have any more control and agreed we should of broke up. Short and simple.
Mary3 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 How about this : " You know since we have broken up the sun is shining brighter ....the wind is whispering softer....the music sounds so much more inspiring ...all of this because I ended my relationship with you Food tastes sooo much more delicious and so do the flavors of life ! ! Neat Huh ? Hey have a great life ! I Know I am "
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