AleroGurl Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 So last week me and my ex break up...he dumps me. saying im crazy, mental, i dont trust him, etc etc etc. now a history on us....been together on and off for 2 years. everytime he dumped me he always had another girl at his side. whether it was his ex or another girl...first time he dumped me was him not ebing over hsi ex...we get back together...he continues talkin to her while hes with me. he dumps me, goes to her to be 'friends'...i move outa dn we're together again...we get into a bad fight, i smack him on the face, he dumps me and get back with her...claiming 'the only reason she went down on me was cuz i found out u had ppl, incl guys at ur apt. so really u made this happen'...btw he lied to me about it for 3 months and i still forgave him once i found out...and believed that it WAS my fault why he did it... they broke up bc apparently he hti her or pushed her(she charged him with it and they got a peace bond now) so needless to say, he and her are done so me and him get back together...he lied to me about this 18 yr old hoe(excuse my language...still very upset over this). he's talkin to her and such. so we break up AGAIN. guess who he runs to to hang otu with? the 18 yr old...she buys him sex toys for his bday gift, a sex card, texts him skanky msgs on his cell all the time(i kno this cuz i saw a few). and he claimed NOTHIGN happened...he never saw her like that. he lied to me about getting rid of her at least 4 times in 2 months. he left a party in another city to go be with her while she was crying one time...did he EVER do that for me? no...he claims cuz 'you're always upset so no i never will either' so even after he lied to me about 18 yr old and stuff we get back together...he said she's gone for good adn he swears on his family, us, etc, etc. i believe him...kinda. new years passes...lil miss 18 yr old texts him...how conveinent eh? so we go from decemeber til july of not breaking up and everytime we faught, hed go to a girl to talk to...said he NEEDS to talk to females(that btw...have asked him to hang out and drink with them alone, and have tried to kiss him in the past year). so he swears on all that hes not talkin to this 18(now19 yr old) we break up...he lies to my face and says hes still not...2 days later..hes hanging out with her when i call him. NOW??? oh he's not telling me anything to do with her bc he's moving on and he doesnt love me bc im 'nuts' he's lied to me about girls for 2 years. hes always ran to girls whenever hes single and claims he only ever did stuff that once with his ex last year... hes already talking about inviting girls into his room to 'watch movies' just friends tho.... oh...he also took pics of me that he burned onto a cd and has on his HD, and blackmailed me with them. said that if he ever hears that im bad mouthing him, hes going to put the pics all over the city so ill have to move away and ill become the biggest slut in the city once teh pics get out....(he just said that SHE made him get rid of them but i dont believe anything he says) im sooooo depressed over this i dont know what to do with myself anymore. i dotn wanna go out, i dont wanna talk to friends...im wrote off. and he keeps rubbing this GIRL in my face...BAH!! HELP!!!
Author AleroGurl Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 Whats that little black dot on the envelope?!
d'Arthez Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 The accusations he makes at you, are really accusations he does not want to hear about himself. They would be true though. That he makes them tells more about him, than about you. As for the pictures, I can't understand why you allowed someone who displayed such extreme instability, make these pictures of you, without getting at least pictures of him back, of similar nature. Hopefully you will not make that mistake in the future. Considering his idiotic and erratic behavior, you will never know when these pictures may become public, regardless of your behavior . Some men have female friends. But that does not mean that they need to turn to one of them to discuss every relationship problem - if that is all that happened. The end of a relationship is hard to deal with, especially if you have to do it alone. Try to find some support to deal with all this. From your friends, family et cetera. A skunk would be even a better partner for you, than your ex ever was. At least now you are free from him. Now the 19 year old girl may suffer from his behavior. It will be more of the same. Be appreciative of the fact that you are better off without him. You are by no means forced to keep up contact with him, and I would strongly suggest going on No Contact. Not to get him back, but simply get this idiot out of your life.
moon Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Alerogurl, Listen, you were in a MAJORLY dysfunctional and toxic relationship. You need to not talk to this ex for a long time. Seriously.....Why are you attracted to such a bully? Who cheats on you repeatedly and plays all sort of mind games? You are/were part of this relationship. What do you see in a situation like this? It sounds just horrible and frankly, pathetic. You need to get into therapy and cut ties with this dude....especially because he tries to blame everything on you by putting you down. Re-read your post about five or six times. What you were in was not a real and healthy relationship. Real relationships don't involve cheating, name calling, berating, etc. You are settling for very little if you want anything to do with this guy again. YOU, you, you are setting. Not him. He knows he can play you by now. Don't be his doormat. No contact!!!! ASAP. Good luck.
ziggue Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 He sounds like a real prick to me. . Do not go back with him. Get this loser out of your life. For good this time. This guy will never treat you the way you want to be treated and it sounds like he only thinks of himself in the relationship not you. It sounds like he has no respect for women at all. It will be hard for you to leave him because you love him (can't understand why). It will take time but in the end you will know that you have done the right thing. In years to come you will look back at the relationship you had with this guy and wonder why you were ever with the jerk for so long in the first place.
Author AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 he is at the bar with that girl i saw her car there and he always told me his nights out were GUYS ONLY...and shes there with him....he lied at first and said shes not there with him but he then admitted it....... i kno i shouldnt have called him but....i love him so much and didnt want it to be true....now hes gonna go home with her and stuf....he never would take me out tothe abr with him...but he takes her........
Author AleroGurl Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 grr cant edit... but i call him adn he said no shes not there, so i hang up and he keeps calling em back telling me shes not there with him. she prolly in the other part and WHY do i assume shes there with him? i say 'cuz im nto stupid' tehn he stops calling me...so i called him and he said 'i was tired of not telling the truth and yes she is here with me and i didnt have anything else to say to you' then hangs up on me....i just...i bawled my eyes out on the whole drive home and im very thankful that i made it home safely...i dont kno how to do this crap...i love him more then anything and he knows it...and he doesnt even care. hes bringing her to his 'guys' night...i mean. thats a huge kick in the ass....
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