newspice Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Hey everyone, So i have been "talking" with a girl about possibly starting a relationship for the past 7 months. We've talked about everything that's even possible to talk about. To me, she's the most awesome girl out there. We've pretty much been doing "unofficial" dating for the past months. She's always seemed like she wanted us to work out more than I did. From the beginning, we both agreed and were on the same page about wanting someone to be in a deep and meaningful relationship with. But these days, when we start talking about making it official, she's been afraid of committing to this. Her previous bf from 2 years or so ago was traumatic and i think it could be that affecting her and making her paranoid about committing to something. She is always saying how she likes us now, and that we're good now, and why do we need more. I talked to her some more, and she said she's willing to make this "official" but only so my previous 7 months haven't gone to waste. She's unsure about herself, and whether or not she can handle something right now. I'm thinking about just asking her out and making it official, and seeing how it goes. She said she's not sure whether she wants a relationship with me or just likes being cared for by me. But she said that there's a really good chance that it could be the relationship part. Any help/ideas?
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Honestly, it doesn't sound like she's too interested in taking it to the next level. It can't hurt to ask, but understand that if she is this unsure after having more than a half a year to think about it - then she probably isn't really going to respond to enthusiastically. You'll probably get a lot of "I'm scared" or "I'm confused" and a minimum of what you are hoping to get out of this. Are there any other guys in the picture?
Author newspice Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 No, there are no other guys, we're completely honest with each other. She said she'll say yes and is willing to take it to the next level, but she is just unsure whether or not she want's a relationship or being cared for by me. Haha, i think i'm more confused.
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