James.Warren96 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 hi firstly I'd like to say before any of you point it out in the replies, I know I am a huge piece of ****, I really am. But to give you a little background to the situation, me and my girlfriend met at university and over the Easter holidays we both went home, here at home I met up with old friends and ended up getting very drunk it was here that I ruined my life, I ended up engaging in a threesome with my best friend and his gf, it was a stupid drunken mistake, I hate myself for it, I've been torturing myself about it, I've signed up to therapy in order to help myself get past this. I'm torn whether to tell her or not, if I do she'll leave me for sure and if I don't I'm worried I'll be stuck with this guilt, please help with advice guys. I know I don't deserve sympathy or respect, call me every name under the sun if you want but I just need advice. Thank you for listening
Spring23 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 hi firstly I'd like to say before any of you point it out in the replies, I know I am a huge piece of ****, I really am. But to give you a little background to the situation, me and my girlfriend met at university and over the Easter holidays we both went home, here at home I met up with old friends and ended up getting very drunk it was here that I ruined my life, I ended up engaging in a threesome with my best friend and his gf, it was a stupid drunken mistake, I hate myself for it, I've been torturing myself about it, I've signed up to therapy in order to help myself get past this. I'm torn whether to tell her or not, if I do she'll leave me for sure and if I don't I'm worried I'll be stuck with this guilt, please help with advice guys. I know I don't deserve sympathy or respect, call me every name under the sun if you want but I just need advice. Thank you for listening So you're a college kid who when home for the holidays and decided to have a threesome. LOL. I hope you wore protection. Time to break up with the girlfriend and have interesting experiences. One day you'll be ready to have one partner. Not today. 1
Shanex Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Not going to insult you, because 1) I might get an infraction and 2) you have pretty much insulted yourself already. Not seeing much future between this very recent girlfriend and you though. Telling her will hurt her and she will dump you. Not telling her and dumping her she will wonder why? Blame it on the booze if you want. Even if she was a girlfriend since a couple days.. very undeserving, and disrespectful. Live and learn.
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 You are not a P.O.S. You are a college kid who made a drunken mistake. Do break up with your GF. Take some time for self reflection & figure out if anything besides booze fueled hormones made you do this. If you see a destructive pattern, break it. Otherwise, learn from the experience & move on. Therapy is not a bad idea.
preraph Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Threesomes nearly always end in a minor disaster or some sort. If you're going to do it, do it with two people who aren't a couple and are just casual, with no one emotionally invested in the other. Though I gather your threesome days are over. If you are wanting to explore, this is the age to do it. But you can't do it and have a girlfriend at the same time, and it's not right to do it behind her back. So unless you are really truly over wanting to explore and try new things and people, I think you should be honest with her and break up and explore. Otherwise, if you really just want a steady girlfriend and feel you don't have the stomach for "exploring," then by all means, don't hurt your girlfriend. I mean, why make her have to carry your pain? Either break up with her and confess, or stay with her and resolve NEVER to do any cheating on her or hurt her again ever, and live with your own guilt instead of making it her pain by making her deal with it. There will be no trust after that. I think if you really are sincerely regretful and pledge to not ever hurt her again by cheating, it's okay to keep going. 1
mikeylo Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 What would you expect if that girl in the threesome was your gf and she came back to you after the deed ?
spiderowl Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 We all do stupid things when young. Like others have said, I hope you used protection. Other than that, I think you should forget about this, unless you think someone will tell your girlfriend. Best to put this drunken escapade behind you and learn from it. No point beating yourself up for ever. You already know it was a mistake.
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