Author xoxox Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 I was going to ask that since you both seem to be Christians what about fornication? No, no... it's not about it. This is his own, personal decision, he just wants to keep it for someone special. It's not even his family rule or anything like that. And I stopped following it a very long time ago.
sandrawg Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 I have definitely done this but I'm not sure it's a good idea. Sometimes you don't learn til the 3rd date that something is really really wrong with the guy. Like for ex, I recently dated a guy who seemed perfect. We had the best 1st and 2nd date ever. Then on the 3rd date I find out he's still hung up on an abusive exgf! No thanks.
Author xoxox Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 Well, there is your answer. How important is sex to you, are you willing to wait until marriage? And, I'm assuming that you have had sex before - what does he think about that? Well, I am willing to try, that's for sure. How is it gonna work, we shall see.
Redhead14 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 It's really important for you to get "right" with yourself in terms of what you are looking for out of your dating journey and to find out if the person you are dating is on the same page regarding overall dating goals. You should both be dating for the same purpose -- casual or for a relationship. If he says he's dating for a relationship, keeping sex out of the equation for a little while and observing "how" he dates you, you'll have a little bit more of a heads up at least. If he dates you for a little while without sex, that shows at least a little better that he is serious about that goal. When you do decide to have sex, you just have to sit back a little and continue to observe. If he says casual and you are looking for a relationship, then you part ways now. It's not a good idea to mix it up. In other words, don't tell yourself you're OK with casual hoping he will change his mind and date him anyway. It's usually a disappointing and frustrating scenario.
leogirl876 Posted April 18, 2017 Posted April 18, 2017 This doesn't sound like sex on the 2nd date. Sex on the 2nd date, is the 2nd time ever meeting someone. This is someone you've been friends with, so that's different. But it can change a friendship, so it depends on what you want. If you want a FWB or a relationship, depends on what both of you want. It sounds like it's more.
stillafool Posted April 18, 2017 Posted April 18, 2017 No, no... it's not about it. This is his own, personal decision, he just wants to keep it for someone special. It's not even his family rule or anything like that. And I stopped following it a very long time ago. Actually I was talking about God's rules.
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