berry1 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 When do you all think is to soon or about right to have the serious talk with a girl? i don't mean the serious talk as in lets get married lol. By serious i mean escalating it from just dating to boyfriend/girlfriend relationship status? It seems a bit of a vicious circle. On one side if you leave it too long then they could very well view it as a waste of time if they are ultimately looking for a long term relationship. Then the other way is that i worry asking to early could come across as extreme and off putting. So when should this really be brought up? And how would you go about having this conversation with a girl?
FlightWheel Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I usually wait til she is giving some sort of signs that she is wanting more. After that I will do it when the time is right and when she is most comfortable. An example was when I jogged around a lake with a girl we were having a fun time, then we went to stop and take a break on a bench over looking the lake. From there I kissed her and looked at her and made I contact for awhile until she said "what you thinking" in a playful manner. I just asked her where she see's things going and did not express my feelings until I knew how comfortable she was. From there I told her how I felt. After a bit of talking we went back to having a "fun" environment jogging and kept the serious talk brief.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 As a rule, I typically wait 2-3 dates. I then tell her that I am interested in working on developing a relationship. If yes, I get off my account and work on the relationship. If no, I continue dating other ladies until she changes her mind or I find someone who better fits my interests. One thing for certain, I don't have time to wait around...
Ami1uwant Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 3-5 dates but it depends on -- 1. how long these dates 2. how long between dates 3. how much communication there is between date 4. how much kissing and sex there has been. Usually going from dating/casual to relationship isn't a serious conversation..l
Author berry1 Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 (edited) As a rule, I typically wait 2-3 dates. I then tell her that I am interested in working on developing a relationship. If yes, I get off my account and work on the relationship. If no, I continue dating other ladies until she changes her mind or I find someone who better fits my interests. One thing for certain, I don't have time to wait around... So us dating for 2 months and going on 15 dates is probably well overdue the relationship talk right? Lol Maybe we are already working towards a relationship without either of us saying it out straight. But i guess you do not know for sure until you ask. I am just a bit worried it will go like this. Me. Hey i would be really interested in working towards a relationship with you. Her. Damn i thought we was already doing that for the last month? Edited April 17, 2017 by berry1
Author berry1 Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 3-5 dates but it depends on -- 1. how long these dates 2. how long between dates 3. how much communication there is between date 4. how much kissing and sex there has been. Usually going from dating/casual to relationship isn't a serious conversation..l 1. Each date 4 to 8 hours each 2. Going on dates every 1 to 3 days 3. Atleast 2 long in depth texts a day 4. Kissing a fair bit. No sex as she is a virgin still and religious. We have made out a few times just not full sex
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 For me it was about 4-6 weeks in & definitely before sex. As a woman I would often initiate it & say something like. I am enjoying what we're doing. Are you? I'm good where we are but I'd like to see where this goes. How do you feel? Depending on the answers, the conversation may continue or I'd drop it.
Gaeta Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 1. Each date 4 to 8 hours each 2. Going on dates every 1 to 3 days 3. Atleast 2 long in depth texts a day 4. Kissing a fair bit. No sex as she is a virgin still and religious. We have made out a few times just not full sex It's time for you to make it 'official dating'. Women expect this conversation to be initiated by men. You simply tell her you enjoy gettig to know her very much and would like to make it official that you are only dating each other. I assure you this conversation will please her a great deal. 1
kendahke Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 When do you all think is to soon or about right to have the serious talk with a girl? i don't mean the serious talk as in lets get married lol. By serious i mean escalating it from just dating to boyfriend/girlfriend relationship status? It seems a bit of a vicious circle. On one side if you leave it too long then they could very well view it as a waste of time if they are ultimately looking for a long term relationship. Then the other way is that i worry asking to early could come across as extreme and off putting. So when should this really be brought up? And how would you go about having this conversation with a girl? When you are certain that you want her in your life as a constant because she enhances your life and you want to grow and experience facets of life with her; not because you need a girlfriend or that your friends all have girlfriends or someone told you you needed to be with someone. This has to come from a determination made by you and only you.
kendahke Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 1. Each date 4 to 8 hours each 2. Going on dates every 1 to 3 days 3. Atleast 2 long in depth texts a day 4. Kissing a fair bit. No sex as she is a virgin still and religious. We have made out a few times just not full sex Oh, yeah... it's time.
kendahke Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Her. Damn i thought we was already doing that for the last month? You. I don't want to assume anything. You down?
Author berry1 Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 It's time for you to make it 'official dating'. Women expect this conversation to be initiated by men. You simply tell her you enjoy gettig to know her very much and would like to make it official that you are only dating each other. I assure you this conversation will please her a great deal. We already agreed a few weeks ago that we wouldn't pursue multiple people at the same time. I already deleted my dating profile and she was asking me for advice last time on how she could get out of her 12 month contract and delete her profile. So my question is should i assume we already are official dating? i know she has told her family about me and her dad is anxious to meet me. I have done the same with my family. So would this already be classed as official dating or should i still have the chat with her? One last question please If i have this chat with her and she agrees we are officially dating does that mean we are boyfriend and girlfriend? or would i need to address that differently? I am not very experienced with the whole dating stages. My last serious relationship we jumped right into the relationship stage without dating. So i am just not sure how to play this right. Over thinking it no doubt! When you are certain that you want her in your life as a constant because she enhances your life and you want to grow and experience facets of life with her; not because you need a girlfriend or that your friends all have girlfriends or someone told you you needed to be with someone. This has to come from a determination made by you and only you. I made the decision long before now that i wanted her in my life as a constant. I just have held back for a while in the hopes to not spook her. I haven't been in a proper relationship for 14? possibly 16 months as i have not been in a rush. I do admit though i want a partner long term as i simply find life a lot more enjoyable with the right someone in my life. I just hope she feels the same as this will seriously hurt if she doesn't
Jj66 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Who needs labels? My gf and I made it "official" after 6 months when we were shamed into it by her (grown) son.
Redhead14 Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 The only reason I like a "label" is so that I am at least viewed as more than a piece of ass he's dragging around and/or a plus 1 to events when I am dating and being intimate with a guy for an extended period of time and I have "limited" myself to only seeing him.
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