OatsAndHall Posted April 20, 2017 Posted April 20, 2017 Solitude can either be extremely comforting or it can be extremely depressing, depending on how you approach it. It takes time and effort to learn how to be happy alone. I have stretched my comfort zone quite a bit and attend more social events. I have also become far more involved in volunteering and other activities this year. At the very least, I get some social contact for awhile and I'm not sitting around alone. So, this makes my downtime more enjoyable. And, I meet more people, make friends and potential dates. I met the woman that I am now seeing at a school basketball game last fall. I would only recommend OLD to people who have are comfortable with being alone. I made the mistake of jumping into OLD as a way to socialize and meet women when I was lonely and I just felt worse. There were too many ups and downs. I got an immediate burst of gratification when I'd meet someone, chat with them and then go on a few dates. But, things would go south and I'd feel seriously disappointed when one or the both of us would call it off. My first few OLD dates were terrible in this aspect.. I'd look forward to the date and the social interaction so much and then it'd come crashing down within the first half-hour of the date when I realized that I wasn't going to click with these women. 2
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