Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 What could be the reasons why a person continues to communicate solely online with someone instead on their personal cell phone after they've met or after exchanged cell numbers? I've heard and experienced this strange phenomenon, but cannot find a good reason. I have even called a person out on it, but they didn't have a legitimate answer.
Author Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 Hahaha... I knew you guys couldn't think of any valid reasons either. So I'm gonna chalk this one up as ppl's foolishness. If this happens to you quickly ghost on this person you're not missing out.
preraph Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Because they are married or taken and don't want any incoming calls to have to explain. Seems obvious, really. Or they're not trusting you enough to want you to be able to see their number. 3
act00 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 After exchanging phone numbers, I don't understand why someone would want to stick with communication on the dating site. It doesn't make sense. Probably as mentioned, they have a reason to hide this communication and don't want you blowing up their phone or getting caught. They can turn off notifications to the dating site, so no one knows someone is messaging...like the wife or girlfriend. I can see avoiding giving out your personal number until you meet, maybe meet more than once, because there are creepers out there and your phone number can be linked to personal information online, but after you've exchanged numbers and even met in person? That makes no sense unless they have something to hide.
Popsicle Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Because they are married or taken and don't want any incoming calls to have to explain. Seems obvious, really. Or they're not trusting you enough to want you to be able to see their number. This. Married or taken is usually the #1 reason.
Erik30 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 (edited) I think it means the other person is still not sure about you. Yeah it's silly because they have your number, but maybe they want to keep some kind of barrier between the two of you, until they get to know you better. But cheating is probably the most likely answer Edited April 16, 2017 by Erik30
Titanll Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 No one knows! I met someone online and after chatting a bit, I gave her my number. I heard nothing. Occasionally we would continue to chat online. Did not think twice about it. Oh, don't get me wrong, she was/is adorable and I definitely wanted to meet her but she was in fact busy. How do I know, because we started dating. She got around to calling and explaining just how busy she is. Could be a million reasons why someone doesn't "take it offline" with you and I suspect most are not great reasons. But sometimes, people are just busy... In the end, you keep moving either way.
Raena Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 That depends on what you mean by solely online. Do you mean only on a dating website? Or some other app? I ask because I rarely use my phone number to text others. It's just easier for me to use other apps/communication modes online because I can type much better than I can text. My phone happens to be a piece of junk and doesn't get service many times. Also, I don't have a ton of free time so most of my communication would be online or via text if I am in a good service area. It doesn't mean I'm not interested, it's just my way of communicating. I'm probably an anomaly though. For most people, if they aren't asking to spend face to face time with you it probably means they aren't interested.
Author Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 (edited) If they're married then why stupidly give out your number?! What am I missing? Who does that?! Unless they want to be caught. Then why meet up and choose to date them? Edited April 16, 2017 by Tressugar
Author Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 (edited) Nooo... I'm talking about real numbers where you talk to a person or even text/Snapchat with each other it'll go as far as to go to each other's houses etc. But they take it back online after communicating or dating them. And yes they continue to engage you like nothing has happened. Edited April 16, 2017 by Tressugar
act00 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 That depends on what you mean by solely online. Do you mean only on a dating website? Or some other app? I ask because I rarely use my phone number to text others. It's just easier for me to use other apps/communication modes online because I can type much better than I can text. My phone happens to be a piece of junk and doesn't get service many times. Also, I don't have a ton of free time so most of my communication would be online or via text if I am in a good service area. It doesn't mean I'm not interested, it's just my way of communicating. I'm probably an anomaly though. For most people, if they aren't asking to spend face to face time with you it probably means they aren't interested. This could be a reason. I do prefer to type over texting, so if I can be on the computer, I have to stick to the dating site or other type of communication program.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 1. He doesn't want anyone else around him to see that he is communicating with you. It could easily be that during the time he was using his phone, he was in a place that allowed him to freely do so. Now....not so much. 2. He doesn't want anything incriminating to remain on his phone. 3. He continues to communicate with other ladies online so easier to do so on the dating site. In the end, the ONLY reason to stop communicating using his phone is to hide what he's doing. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 This could be a reason. I do prefer to type over texting, so if I can be on the computer, I have to stick to the dating site or other type of communication program. How convenient! I get to type AND continue communicating with other potential suitors while online. Not saying that that is necessarily what you do.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Nooo... I'm talking about real numbers where you talk to a person or even text/Snapchat with each other it'll go as far as to go to each other's houses etc. But they take it back online after communicating or dating them. And yes they continue to engage you like nothing has happened. Oh, my #4 is: He is preparing to ghost you....see if the communication starts to wane.
Shining One Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I text from my computer primarily. If I didn't have that functionality, I would probably try to use some other communication tool so we could chat on the computer. I just dislike having lengthy conversations typed out on a touchscreen. I miss my old DROID 4.
Author Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 I don't understand why would ppl introduce you to their entire family/friends and show you where you they live/work only to ghost you in the end. Not saying that's what happened to me, but some ppl's experience I know that does happen. I think it comes from poor planning or like playing with fire in search of a thrill. No one knows what will set a person off and with them having all your personal info you're sittin' duck for anything to happen.
coolheadal Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 What could be the reasons why a person continues to communicate solely online with someone instead on their personal cell phone after they've met or after exchanged cell numbers? I've heard and experienced this strange phenomenon, but cannot find a good reason. I have even called a person out on it, but they didn't have a legitimate answer. Do you know where they live? You can go see for yourself? You have have doubts already no trust. Something is fishy with them. Whoever your dating and their doing this sort of clever cover-up. Then you know they can't be free to do call you up. There is someone in the background with them. Lover let say.. Your the on the side lines.. Wake-up or let it be? I would never play second or third in anything like that. Unless there was a valid reason.
coolheadal Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I don't understand why would ppl introduce you to their entire family/friends and show you where you they live/work only to ghost you in the end. Not saying that's what happened to me, but some ppl's experience I know that does happen. I think it comes from poor planning or like playing with fire in search of a thrill. No one knows what will set a person off and with them having all your personal info you're sittin' duck for anything to happen. Anything can happen today. You can't change them, why would you want too. If that's the way they want to do things you either tolerate it or not. Move on or not. If you don't do it then you can't expect they to do it also. It's a no win situation just have the way you want with some people. Let it go..
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