Alwaysthinkofme Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 (edited) I'm in need of some answers as to whether I should make a big deal out of this or to simply let this go. Something similar happen but, it was a much worse situation and it has been making me feel edgy. Someone I have been talking to with similar interests randomly said in a text, "I don't want to say this." so I asked him to just tell me..given he brought up dreaming about me. He then responded I had a dream you had big boobs among other regular girl friends and were half Asian." after having good conversation prior to this..I'm left completely in the dark as to what I should think of this or how to approach.. but it was a major turn off for sure.. Ignoring this we had a Skype session, the next day while out he sends me a screenshot he took of me (my eyes) during our chat saying "look how beautiful and sorry if this is creepy) It is more angering and irritating that he took an unsolicited photo of me. What should I say to this guy? He wants to go out for sushi Fri but, I'm really not having this blunt disrespect or perverted mindset. Opinions? Edited April 16, 2017 by Alwaysthinkofme
kendahke Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I'm in need of some answers as to whether I should make a big deal out of this or to simply let this go. Something similar happen but, it was a much worse situation and it has been making me feel edgy. Someone I have been talking to with similar interests randomly said in a text, "I don't want to say this." so I asked him to just tell me..given he brought up dreaming about me. He then responded I had a dream you had big boobs among other regular girl friends and were half Asian." after having good conversation prior to this..I'm left completely in the dark as to what I should think of this or how to approach.. but it was a major turn off for sure.. Ignoring this we had a Skype session, the next day while out he sends me a screenshot he took of me (my eyes) during our chat saying "look how beautiful and sorry if this is creepy) It is more angering and irritating that he took an unsolicited photo of me. What should I say to this guy? He wants to go out for sushi Fri but, I'm really not having this blunt disrespect or perverted mindset. Opinions? I think you're going to have to decide if using a web cam/skype is really what you want to do because you can't control it if the person on the other end decides to make a screen capture of you. While we can't help what we dream about, we can sure help talking about it. I think that he could have saved that conversation for later when/if you two establish a relationship IRL. But you prodded him to tell you, so he did. Well, it's up to you if you think it's even worth it to pursue this. The problem with using technology today is that some people are led to believe there is way more investment made in the other person that they've yet to lay eyes on. He built a false construct about you and you built a false one about him (your idea of him was one who didn't take screen shots and talk about his sexually explicit dreams and he turned out not to be that sort of guy). This is one of my main reasons for meeting them in person within 7 days of first contact or I block them. I won't invest in my idea of who they are--I need to interact with them in person for me to make that decision.
Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 If it doesn't feel right then it isn't right. Go with your gut feelings. 1
Author Alwaysthinkofme Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 (edited) I can see that point now, there was assumption there and meeting him prior to this would had been better than Skyping with someone and assuming they wouldn't do this. Thanks for the advice, it was well considered! Asking him about the dream was not so smart on my part I admit, then complaining regardless of the intent behind it. Thanks again! Edited April 16, 2017 by Alwaysthinkofme
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