The Urbanyst Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I'm hearing great things about it. One of my friends got on it and told me its awesome because the women have to make the first move. Since men are usually less picky and more aggressive, while women are the opposite of that.. it makes sense to have women make the first move with online dating. I'm surprised no one came up with this before. I'd like to hear some reviews from others hear who might have tried it. 1
Tressugar Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I have used it with great success! It's fun, but not long term.
Grey40 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 It's hit or miss just like all the other apps. As a guy it's a little better because the girl has to message first, and you know if she does that she's definitley interested, as opposed to just swiping for the hell of it.
palmsand Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Lately things have been going great on Bumble, but it took a long time to get here.
Kitchen Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I like it for abovementioned reasons I also hate it because often times it results in no hits for weeks on end I just go on there and swipe right indiscriminately and hope for a hit now and then
Erik30 Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 It was just a waste of time when I tried it. I didn't get a lot of matches, and the times I finally did get one, the girl usually wouldn't send me anything. Also there were tons of obvious fake profiles on the app. I do have to say that I live in Europe, Bumble is now practically dead here, but maybe it works in America.
coolheadal Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 OKC app is okay the desktop/laptop version works. Keep simple, but the game plan has changed in 7 years. Like no one is taking anything serious. Casual, short-term is the norm. Long-term no one seems to be into that. Apps from Tinder, Bumble, MeetMe Yo-cutie (uses videos instead of text profile)I don't recommend that one either. Mindle2 that's okay a lot of scammers on that one too. OKC never contact a women that is looking for 22 to 98 in the age range. These are scammers. But like I said all the women are looking and doing they're own thing. You should put down if your seeing someone now don't contact me. I am sure no one will contact you unless they're not seeing anyone. This is the game now.
Penguin_hugs Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I'm a girl and I'm finding it pretty lousy after using it for about 3- 4 weeks. At first I thought it was great- the quality of guys profiles was a lot better than Tinder etc. Less "hook up like". I started getting matches which was great. So every single match I have had- I send a nice message- making a joke or reference to something in their profile, asking about one of their photos etc. I must have sent about 60 now? How many responses have I had?... 8. Majority literally fizzled within 2- 3 messages. Had 1 date- of which he never replied to my thanks message after the date etc (which surprised me because I thought it went really well). I have 2 people currently that are more promising for actual messages etc. But I'm finding the level of rejection actually pretty tough on my self esteem now. Why bother swiping etc if you won't even reply to a message? Guys don't even have to make the first move! So all these posts I read about guys thinking that girls are really up themselves for never replying to their messages etc... it goes both ways... End of rant!
coolheadal Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I'm a girl and I'm finding it pretty lousy after using it for about 3- 4 weeks. At first I thought it was great- the quality of guys profiles was a lot better than Tinder etc. Less "hook up like". I started getting matches which was great. So every single match I have had- I send a nice message- making a joke or reference to something in their profile, asking about one of their photos etc. I must have sent about 60 now? How many responses have I had?... 8. Majority literally fizzled within 2- 3 messages. Had 1 date- of which he never replied to my thanks message after the date etc (which surprised me because I thought it went really well). I have 2 people currently that are more promising for actual messages etc. But I'm finding the level of rejection actually pretty tough on my self esteem now. Why bother swiping etc if you won't even reply to a message? Guys don't even have to make the first move! So all these posts I read about guys thinking that girls are really up themselves for never replying to their messages etc... it goes both ways... End of rant! You know that app is geared to you as woman than it is towards a man. So you get a lot of replies than a man would get. I don't know what type of man you go after you never said. But ask yourself what you really want and then see if you get the right guy? But to me either way we are all into this dating game. I got back in and I not going to just take out anyone because they're looking for free drinks, dinner an etc. Then turn around to say not going to work. Rejection is hard, you have to wear a shield on your self-esteem to keep you whole again. Not easy. I am very good looking man high confidence and I can read these women like dollar bill. But they too have their upper hand on table. Just go on as many dates you want but should really talk to these guys on cell beside texting. You really need to know if you have any chemistry with them? Be careful and good luck!
OatsAndHall Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I'm a girl and I'm finding it pretty lousy after using it for about 3- 4 weeks. At first I thought it was great- the quality of guys profiles was a lot better than Tinder etc. Less "hook up like". I started getting matches which was great. So every single match I have had- I send a nice message- making a joke or reference to something in their profile, asking about one of their photos etc. I must have sent about 60 now? How many responses have I had?... 8. Majority literally fizzled within 2- 3 messages. Had 1 date- of which he never replied to my thanks message after the date etc (which surprised me because I thought it went really well). I have 2 people currently that are more promising for actual messages etc. But I'm finding the level of rejection actually pretty tough on my self esteem now. Why bother swiping etc if you won't even reply to a message? Guys don't even have to make the first move! So all these posts I read about guys thinking that girls are really up themselves for never replying to their messages etc... it goes both ways... End of rant! I was wondering when a woman would run into this issue on Bumble. I'm not trying to offend you, but welcome to the male OLD experience on the other sites. The last time I went on an OLD binge, I shot off probably 50 messages, got 5 replies and 1 date out of it. I don't get feel rejected anymore as I know women are bombarded with messages and it's overwhelming. But, it was just a waste of time for me. As has been mentioned many times around here, the OLD experience is hit or miss.
Penguin_hugs Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Admittedly even on other dating apps I split the messaging 50:50 with who messages first. I just presumed I would have more response. I did an experiment on tinder once- I had 40 matches. I messaged 20 of them first and then recorded how many responses I had- total of 6. Only 2 were of the 20 I messaged first. I feel like a lot of people are online dating simply for an ego boost- not that they actually want to meet people. People I always swipe left on now= excessive tattoos (I just can't stand how some of the tattoos look), often with children (I'm not interested in being a step parent), military (bad experiences with dating military before and I don't want LDR- been there and done that), people who are obviously in to "banter and lad culture", profiles that demonstrate low intelligence ("wknds=xbox wiv my m8s lol"), anyone smoking or writing 420 friendly in their posts. Things I am looking for include some level of intelligence- I'm a pharmacist- I find myself getting bored intellectually otherwise, some interest in culture, museums etc, a bit of an interest in scifi and geekiness- but not extreme and not just selfies- I can't even take selfies myself! I'm actually a nice date! Usually coffee for a first date on a Sunday afternoon with a walk is my preferred 1st date of choice. And I nearly always split bills- I'm not looking for free meals etc with dating 1
Author The Urbanyst Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 Admittedly even on other dating apps I split the messaging 50:50 with who messages first. I just presumed I would have more response. I did an experiment on tinder once- I had 40 matches. I messaged 20 of them first and then recorded how many responses I had- total of 6. Only 2 were of the 20 I messaged first. I feel like a lot of people are online dating simply for an ego boost- not that they actually want to meet people. People I always swipe left on now= excessive tattoos (I just can't stand how some of the tattoos look), often with children (I'm not interested in being a step parent), military (bad experiences with dating military before and I don't want LDR- been there and done that), people who are obviously in to "banter and lad culture", profiles that demonstrate low intelligence ("wknds=xbox wiv my m8s lol"), anyone smoking or writing 420 friendly in their posts. Things I am looking for include some level of intelligence- I'm a pharmacist- I find myself getting bored intellectually otherwise, some interest in culture, museums etc, a bit of an interest in scifi and geekiness- but not extreme and not just selfies- I can't even take selfies myself! I'm actually a nice date! Usually coffee for a first date on a Sunday afternoon with a walk is my preferred 1st date of choice. And I nearly always split bills- I'm not looking for free meals etc with dating 420 friendly does not mean low intelligence at all. Some of the smartest people I've met have been pot heads and they are usually nice people. I know lots of white collar workers who make large salaries who are pot heads. If its not your thing that's great, but don't call people low intelligence because they like pot. Anyway, the rejection you are experiencing is the kind of thing guys have to deal with all the time. We would all do better if we stopped making sweeping generalizations about people who don't even know.
Penguin_hugs Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 420 friendly does not mean low intelligence at all. Some of the smartest people I've met have been pot heads and they are usually nice people. I know lots of white collar workers who make large salaries who are pot heads. If its not your thing that's great, but don't call people low intelligence because they like pot. Anyway, the rejection you are experiencing is the kind of thing guys have to deal with all the time. We would all do better if we stopped making sweeping generalizations about people who don't even know. There was a comma before the 420 line- I was not generalising. But as a pharmacist I cannot be around anyone doing illicit drugs (it is still illegal in the UK) as I could get struck off the register. 1
Emilia Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 There was a comma before the 420 line- I was not generalising. But as a pharmacist I cannot be around anyone doing illicit drugs (it is still illegal in the UK) as I could get struck off the register. Potheads are boring to be around. But on the more relevant side: as you have interests and hobbies, why don't you try the likes of meetup to meet men in real life via various activities, groups? I will get shot down for this but dating apps are mostly for two types of people: those that want hookups and those that don't have social skills to meet people in real life. If you are a social person, widening your social circle will work much better. 1
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