yellowsunglasses Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 So here's my story. It's a bit long so bear with me. Last February a girl that I thought was really attractive joined my gym. I noticed that she was looking at me from time to time so I knew she liked me. But she was a member for only one month so we never officially met. After that, as she lives 5 minutes from my place, we started seeing each other all the time everywhere we went. This went on for a long period of time, so she was one of those far away crushes that I don't really expect anything to happen with, especially as I learned through social media that she was in a 3 year relationship. Well this fall I joined some friends of mine in this local youth political group and after a month or so, so did she. We met this December at a party organised by the group, where I was drunk as hell and hit on her hard, with her rejecting me as she is not the king of girl that cheats. But we still got connected on Facebook that night so in the morning I apologized to her for my drunk behavior. Little did I know a few hours later she broke up with her boyfriend. The very next day she texted me and we just hit it off, texting all day every day. Two weeks later, when I finally figured out that she broke up with her bf, we got together and started dating. BTW I am 24 and she is 20. Now, I need to say that I have never had a serious relationship because in the past I never wanted that. But I guess because I liked this girl for so long I wanted this to last so I was ready for something serious. I entered the relationship all in, giving all my love to her from the beginning. Everything was fine and dandy, she always told me how good she felt around me and how happy she was. Then after a month and a half, after not seeing each other for a week (and not having sex for a week and a half), we went out but she wouldn't come home with me (she rejected me a few times before even though we had already had sex). I was a little pissed that night and in the morning I texted her asking her why she doesn't want to have sex with me and she replies by saying that she wasn't ready for a new relationship, that she was a mess, that she couldn't give me the same love I gave her. I told her we should meet up and we broke up that night. The next day I told her we should go NC for a while. Now this time of my life was very though. While I was dealing with broken heart, the father of my oldest friend passed away, reminding me also of my grief when my own father passed away 15 years ago. Just a week later I had my exam week, and due of all of this I didn't start getting ready for the exams in time so I had to do everything in two VERY stressful days. Anyway after I did my exams I felt like a rock was lifted off my chest and I felt good about everything, about life, about it all. I realized about this time that she needed time alone, time for herself, to find herself, to be happy with herself. So I called her to meet up and tell her all of this, and to my surprise she said the same thing, that she needs time to herself because she hasn't been single since she was 16. She said that she spoke with her ex and cleared everything up. She also told me she felt good but wasn't really happy, so I gave her a few motivational lines to which she replied positively. We actually had a great time, and even though I sensed that maybe I could make her mine again, I stood by my words that she needed time and that if we get together now it could all end very fast again. That night she texted me and told me the meet up was like rehab to her and that we would talk again. We did chat a few more times on Facebook, and saw each other in the street making small talk and everything was cool and light. I was healing very well, focused on myself and moved my life on the road that I wanted to be. I had set a goal and knew I was headed for it. I was, and still am, very motivated. Especially with college, making professional contacts and working out. Then about a month and a half after the break up, I go on Instagram (which I hadn't used for a while) and I noticed that she didn't appear in the stories tab. I knew she has blocked me, so I knew something was up. I learned from a mutual friend that she had put up a photo with her and the ex, which meant she was back together with him. Now I wasn't hurt that she was back with him, I was more disappointed by the way she treated me with blocking me, and for telling me to my face that she was done with him and couldn't be with any guy, but got together after less then a month. So a couple of days later I texted her and told her that I was disappointed and that she lost my respect, but that I still want for us to be cool when we see each other. She said she was sorry, that it is what it is, and that sometimes she acts really dumb about these kinds of stuff. I joked a little after that just to ease the tension and all was well. Then, later in the night I remembered I wanted to ask her not to bring him to this local pub that I showed her, so I did and she didn't reply to my message, she just deactivated her account. I just thought it was dumb and funny. Fast forward early April and our group was pat of a local protest. I arrived a little later on the first day of the protest so three people from our group were already there, including her. So I go up to them, as she was standing a couple feet away from the other two, looking at her camera, and I greeted them one by one. She was still looking at her camera pretending she didn't see me so I want in her face and greeted her. We talked for half a minute then she went to take some photos of the event, and never came back, not even to say goodbye. After a few days, on the last day of the protests I come later again, and again my group are already here with her included. I say hi to all of them and just hang around. All of us were chatting away, except for her(even though she talks a lot). She just kept looking at her phone. All she said were two lines, and when I had a reply, she asked me something but even though she turned towards me when asking, she was looking away. So I figured she just felt awkward and couldn't look me in the eyes. After a while she left, again without saying goodbye. I felt something was off so I wen't on my Instagram and noticed she had unfollowed me and unliked all the photos she had previously liked. Another douche move eve though we agreed that we weren't going to do things like this. Anyway, today we had a charity event and again she was there. Again, as always, I greeted everyone, and again we were just chatting and she was silent. But I noticed when I was moving around and away, she talked to other people. It was a little awkward and very noticeable and one of our friends asked me in private if we were not on talking terms. I replied that apparently she wasn't with me. At the end she did the same thing, leaving without saying bye to anyone. After that some of my friends were actually laughing at her for the immature way she was and is acting. All of this is so funny to me because while we were together she told me she suspected him of cheating her, he would lie to her, acted immature and blocked her on Facebook after breaking up, and now she is doing some of those things to me. So, I'm not really here to ask your opinions on why she is doing this. I figured it because one of these three reasons: 1.She thinks that now that she has is back with her ex there is no reason for her to be in ANY SORT of contact with me. 2.She still has feeling for me and believes that if we are not in contact they will just pass. 3.Her boyfriend is making her get as far away form me as she can. The reason I am writing all of this is, do you think I should contact her and ask her what's up? I don't really care that much anymore about what she does, I just want to make things as chill as they can be, for our sake, and the sake of the people in our group.
SirRamalot Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 Bruh drop her. Just do u n dont think bout her or anything she do. 4rm what i read she is childish and aint worth yo time to even think about. Oh and sry to hear about yo decease father n yo friend's pop.
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