Author Bluemug Posted April 28, 2017 Author Posted April 28, 2017 Just venting really. Three weeks after being dumped, life is sorta goods my house is insanely different, and Massively nicer so thanks dumper. Today I had to make an unplanned trip to buy paint brushes, and saw my ex running down the road to his mums house. I suspect he saw me, as I him. It doesn't really matter. But, ouch. Cried for a little while into my paint, missed my recently lost grandma and generally feel pretty bad aGain. My problem is I can't differentiate between my break up and the pain of losing my nan. It all hurts horribly. Want the year to be over now.
Zahara Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 I'm sorry, Bluemug. I know how hard it is to suffer these losses at the same time. Whenever my mind is muddled with emotions, I always journal. Writing is cathartic. It helps me organize my thoughts/emotions. Stay strong. Before you know it, you'll start feeling that optimism surface in your life again.
Author Bluemug Posted April 28, 2017 Author Posted April 28, 2017 Thanks Zahara, just crept up on me again i think. What I'd do for a hug!
Zahara Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 Thanks Zahara, just crept up on me again i think. What I'd do for a hug! I know hun. I've been in your shoes and it can get overwhelming and defeating. But let those emotions come but be comforted to know that they will also pass. A virtual hug for you (((((Bluemug))))) 1
Author Bluemug Posted April 28, 2017 Author Posted April 28, 2017 I know hun. I've been in your shoes and it can get overwhelming and defeating. But let those emotions come but be comforted to know that they will also pass. A virtual hug for you (((((Bluemug))))) Thanks just comforting myself with some memories. Nan did say the world was beautiful so I'll have to trust her for a bit 2
Superchicken Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 (edited) I'm sorry you had such a bad run. Men graduate with a Bachelors degree in Stupidity at age 18. However, only a few continue their education to obtain a P.H.D The old line from The Godfather Movie "Just when I thought I was out, they drag me back in" sort of rings true for you here.. Your human, and further shows that you did have real love for this bozo. BUT, I hope the next bit does make you at least smile a little. I can guarantee that your ex, would have the exact bad feelings you have. Regardless of who broke up, your now on his mind, like a worm in an apple. Your going to be squiggling in and out of his thoughts for sometime. He will most likely try and call you to "Be friends", or see "How your doing", etc. Don't let this happen. I wont go into depth, but it happened to me... Spend time with your friends, or occupy your time to help you somewhat. I'd give you a virtual hug too, but my wife would hit me over the head with a real rolling pin. Ted. Edited April 29, 2017 by Superchicken 1
Author Bluemug Posted April 29, 2017 Author Posted April 29, 2017 Thanks Ted I'm not doing so bad today. I've made massive attempts to get my house finished, and a friend is coming to stay tomorrow. A part of me loved him, yes. I'm glad I don't have the reminders of him in my life now - fresh house, new bedding. Some good psychology by throwing out the old. He can text, and TBH I expect it as I gave him theatre tickets for his birthday which is coming up (he had them before we broke up). I don't know what stance I'll take, probably to ignore. I'm a busy lady. Just need to believe Mr Right is heading my way... and the ex is haunted by me for a bit haha 1
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 Loss is loss. You lost your nan through death & this EX through a break up. How doesn't matter as much as they are gone from your life. It hurts. Don't waste time trying to catalogue your pain. It's actually good that you cried after you saw him. Tears are cathartic. Getting the grief out is better than holding it in. Glad your friend in coming over. Happy house fixing. Hang in there. 1
BG1 Posted April 29, 2017 Posted April 29, 2017 Loss is loss. You lost your nan through death & this EX through a break up. How doesn't matter as much as they are gone from your life. It hurts. Don't waste time trying to catalogue your pain. It's actually good that you cried after you saw him. Tears are cathartic. Getting the grief out is better than holding it in. Glad your friend in coming over. Happy house fixing. Hang in there. +1 . Open yourself to friends and family and share your pain. You need to put it out, it can be writing down how you feel or talking to a friend about how sad you are feeling today. And cry as much as you need, it really helps. It's going to be hard but think that you will get over this.
Author Bluemug Posted May 9, 2017 Author Posted May 9, 2017 (edited) Hello all! Just a note to say thank you for all your kind words. I'm a month down the line, and feel like I'm over the hump as it were. I won't lie, I still Have moments of sadness, but these are being slowly weighted out with good things going on. I've finished my house, suitably on his birthday, and have planned my epic trip to china. work is about to get incredibly busy and I'm raring to go. I still avoid the places I may see him (not sure my resolve is quite ready for actual face to face politeness) but life is good! Blue xx Edited May 9, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 4 threads merged ~6 1
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